TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

Awh, sorry... But, yup, definitely better to avoid a Christmas baby. Think that's the worst time of the year.

xx

AF arrived this morning, damn it!!

So... I'm trying to look at the positive's! No Xmas baby which is better, and I can drink lots when we go away, Yey!! My cycle was 32 days which is less waiting than 34, let's hope that stays!

Onwards and upwards. I knew I wouldn't fall on the first cycle, I'm just not that lucky!

Good luck everyone else still in the 2ww, I'm crossing my fingers for you.

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My boobs are weirdly sore. Sure that didn't happen last two times. Good sign maybe passthebiscuits?? Then again, i agree, progesterone can do that!

What tests have you got lines up for d day??

I know, I totally know but I can't stop thinking about how sore my boobs are all day long! ;) still only 11dpo so still time but convinced they're not sore enough to actually be pg.

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Consider yourself slapped!! (Am a TOTAL hypocrite.)

(Try superdrug or FRER test on friday if you can't wait until Sunday....) (I know, I know, baaaad Beginner, encouraging impatience...) (But don't lose hope if it's negative.)

Bonzo; that sounds a much better place to be! I'm so glad you feel better about things and your DH has come round a bit to the idea. He just sounds a bit scared of the unknown. Back to the thought of the third child being a much bigger decision than the first two! ;) I'm glad your still trying anyway and I also hope you don't get to have a horse! ;)

Somebody slap me... I'm constantly symptom spotting! Xx

Oh good Bonzo. Sounds like you have a nice thoughtful husband.... Mine is pretty anxious about finances, working for another 5 years (! think that's not necessarily right ) and seems quite shell shocked. Bless him. He's been adamant for nearly 4 years that we are sticking at 2 and that upset me hugely. So it's a bit much for him to come round to the idea, finally, and then find he's got me knocked up in 2 weeks flat . Obviously I'm not complaining and am extremely (nervously) pleased. And I really feel for you Bonzo. Really hope it all works out and you DON'T manage to get a horse . But, yes, I understand what you mean about wanting to have things settled so you can get on with life, rather than being in limbo.

We did have a (genuine) accident a couple of years ago and it caused huge heartache. It ended in a v early miscarriage - chemical pregnancy almost - which I feel terribly guilty for because of all the stress I felt. I always wonder if the stress caused it. My husband remained of the view that we should not have a third throughout the whole thing, which really upset me.

Anyway, I didn't mean to bang on about myself. I just hope everything goes well for you Bonzo.

Sending positive vibes your way! (Refuse to send babydust, sorry .)

Lol, Beginner you are lucky you didn't live back in the days before contraception was invented. You would have had babies coming out of your ears!! That's pretty fast work, you must be super chuffed. Congratulations

Yes, I was wondering how bonzo is??? How are you? Hope DH has softened.

I am (currently) pregnant with a faint positive superdrug test since Monday. Only 9dpo . Still have a line today though - bit darker. I felt v sick on Sunday and on Monday morning but that may have been a coincidence.

I have slightly achey boobs but not much. Pretty similar to how they feel just before af starts... Anyway, fingers crossed this isn't a chemical. Due on Friday so that will be the first hurdle to pass! Am delighted though and quietly optimistic.... Can't believe husband only decided he did actually want another child just over 2 weeks ago AND we caught my ovulation. Ridiculously lucky - feel like a bit of a fraud. Have my fingers crossed for you all and will keep checking in. Might be TTC again soon but I hope not.

Bonzo; how's things with you?

I'm now 10dpo and checking my boobs constantly to see if they're sore! ;) what a loser! They are sore but not as much as they should be if I was pg so thinking it's not looking so good for me so far. Maybe they will get worse over the next few days, fingers crossed!

How's everyone else doing? Anyone clock watching in the 2ww like me?

Xx

Sorry to hear that bonzo. It's hard when the men in out lives don't want the same as us. I can understand how you feel because dh went from definitely wanting a 3rd and 4th, to only wanting a 3rd, to not even wanting to talk about a 3rd, and now back again to being open to the idea. It is difficult when you build a picture of your future in your mind and then it doesn't work out. I feel like I have been stuck in limbo for the past 2 years, not knowing if we are coming or going.

I completely agree with the others about the softly softly approach. That is what I am doing too. Over time we have slowly gone from always using contraception, to sometimes not using, to only using it occasionally and recently not at all. We are not officially trying and not dtd any more than normal but not really preventing either. I am worried that if I start piling on the pressure dh will get stressed and revert back to using contraception again. I don't tell him when I am ovulating and never talk about the 2ww. Obviously he knows that I want a baby but I try not to mention it too often and just keep my fingers crossed. I think if I do get a bfp one of these days he will be happy and accept that it was meant to be.

Bonzo; I'm so sorry Hun. I def agree with beginner in that maybe you shouldn't talk about it if you can help it. That's the approach I'm taking. My DH has agreed but it still freaks him out slightly to talk about 'the third' so I try not to mention it in passing too much. He's agreed and is happy with the decision but we always agreed two so he's still getting his head round it.
Also, I never tell him when my most fertile time is, I don't want that to freak him out either. If it takes longer that way then that's fine, I don't want the pressure of TTC to get in the way.
I really hope you can change his mind or by not mentioning it too much, and if you seem chilled, he won't be upset by your reaction and want to protect you from the heartache of not getting pregnant. Men are tricky aren't they?! Enjoy some wine over the Easter break and enjoy your DH and try and forget all about this for a week or so. Xx

Oh bonzo... I have an idea how ou must feel... DH and I always talked about having 3 (or 4) then he changed his mind when I said I was ready for number 3 (which was when number 2 was about 14 months). He said he thought 3 under 3 would be good . And the only reason he changed his mind was financial. Again, we do alright but money obviously goes further if you only have 2 children. Part of the reason I am anxious to get pregnant quickly is I don't want him to change his mind...

I suggest not talking about it too much. Feigning ignorance about your cycle (in a 'I'm so chilled out about this, what will be, will be...' way). And not worrying about his reaction. People rarely regret having a baby. I know a few people who regret not having had more. Of course it is harder with a third in lots of ways but your DH will be chuffed to bits and love a third very much if one arrives.

Good luck... At least you won't have a Christmas baby - my bro and sis have them and they are always fed up as birthday celebrations are never as good on the back of boozy Christmas and NYE ones. (Plus they often get just one 'bigger' present rather than separate ones.)

A ha, it's amazing how different they are isn't it! My first is so chilled, v calm and laid back and always sticks to the rules! My second is feisty and a rule breaker in every way. She's gorgeous tho, just much harder work!

Yes, by going off when I ov'd, I'm due AF 26th April! At least it's Easter this weekend, that'll take my mind off it as it'll be a busy one! Xx

Great - like having a 2ww buddy! I have one of each already too but DS is the whirlwind (never ever stops talking but is v sweet/sensitive and sticks to the rules!) and DD is quietly feisty. She's always been an AMAZING sleeper though so would love to get another one like that... Any sort is fine by me if it's healthy though. DS didn't sleep through until he was 3 1/2... Used to regularly wake between 4.30 and 5.00, no matter what we did, and then start looking a bit tired at about 8.15 when the nanny turned up and we went to work.... T'was v tough!!

Right - am NOT going to obsess. And not testing until bank holiday Monday. Restrained by my standards .

Beginner; after googling I think it is! ;) you'd think I'd be pretty clued up after having two before but I thought it was better to DTD on the day of ovulation but it says everywhere that 2 days before is the best day to do it as you say, the sperm will be ready for the egg. I remember when we were TTC my second, we also missed the day of ov, must have done it either the day before or 2 days before, that produced my DD so I don't know why I didn't remember that. Although Google did say that doing it on that day produces girls! My girl is a total whirlwind, although gorgeous and sweet, so kind of hoping for a more chilled third!! ;) we'll see, fingers crossed.

Anyway, we can be in the 2ww together! Xx

Hi passthebiscuits! 2 days before is ideal, isn't it?? So the sperm is ready and waiting (and already travelled to where it needs to be) when the egg pops out? Fingers crossed for you anyway....!

*Bonzo! Xx

Really sorry Max, bloody Sod's law isn't it! I've done that a few times over the years and been genuinely shocked when AF arrives, I thought it was in the bag!

Bono, fingers crossed that does the trick. I'm crossing my fingers for you.

Hi beginner, I'm in the same boat in that I've just managed to convince my DH to try for a third, he def took some convincing but we're there now and this is our first cycle too. It's not looking hopeful for me though as my body is doing really weird things to me since coming off the pill. I've had Ov pains for about 10 days now, thought it actually ov'd on CD 18, pleased with my self as DTD CD14, 16 & 18. Couldn't yesterday as DH not here (CD20) you guessed it, I Ov'd then! Change in cm so I'm sure it was then and had pains as well. Damn it! So, I'll DTD tonight and hope that 2 days before will catch. God it's tricky! Xx

Zombie - it's not fair for your husband to get a vasectomy if you still want a third. You need to use reversible contraception... My husband originally wanted 3 under 3 (!!) then went off the idea for 4 years. He's only just changed his mind - he knows how much it means to me and he's a brilliant Dad (and loving being one particularly at the moment). I'm not saying your husband will change his mind but he might. The only advice I'd give is let it settle - don't mention it for a while but do say that you really don't want him to get a vasectomy yet.

Hello - just posted on another TTC thread to but thought I'd pop by and say hello here too. Just decided to go for number 3 (well, I wanted to years ago...). Am 39 and eldest is 6, youngest is 4 1/2. Want to get pregnant soon so I can sneak my last baby in before I'm 40. Only started trying a few days ago though so we'd have to be extremely lucky to get pregnant this cycle. (Technically possible as think ovulated yesterday!)

Anyway - hello!