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TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

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bonzo77 · 06/11/2013 14:59

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

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ELR · 11/11/2013 20:52

Ha ha our problem is DH likes to take his time by which time I'm starting to think I romantic thoughts about ovulation ect ect!

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bonzo77 · 11/11/2013 20:44

Hi elr. Yes, we have the time (we can both be super quick) Blush but lacking the inclination. Masterchef is too appealing!

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ELR · 11/11/2013 19:17

Hi all, ttc no 3 at the moment this is cycle 4 not temping or using opk so just guess work!
Dd is 11 and ds is 8 fell pregnant cycle 1 with both but I'm 36 now so not so easy. Thing I'm finding the hardest is finding the time and inclination to actually dtd!
Good luck everyone

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bonzo77 · 11/11/2013 08:13

Welcome orange. No such thing as the "right time" I think.

Was more a temping question really, I might start another thread on it. Basically, I can see the thermal shift but FF is not adding the red lines. I'm sure it's because the time I take my temp varies a bit, depending on when the baby wakes up. And I've missed a couple of days. Going to have to be more strict assuming no BFB this month.

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OrangeFizz99 · 10/11/2013 23:20

I am 11 dpo on first proper cycle of ttc no 3. Two dc - 3.7 and 20 months.

Trying not to symptom spot or get all weird about it (like I did with no 2 as well op!).

Big work stuff coming up for next year so not great timing!

I do the basic ff charting so I know my dates. Do watch my cm a bit and like ops. Have never done temping.

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bonzo77 · 10/11/2013 16:47

alamaya you sound like you have had a long and difficult journey that is far from over. I assume you have done a lot of research already. DH's cousin and his DW have been through genetic IVF and have 3, a DD and then twin DD and DS. I know they had their first NHS when it was experimental, not sure about the others. It was done at UCH, London.

By the time once TTC no 3 one is older I suppose, so things take longer. And wiser, so potentially more anxious. Are we all a little nuts? It's certainly not going to get any easier!

Does anyone know about charting?

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Alamaya · 10/11/2013 10:08

I will join tooo :)
I have a 2.5 year old who is the product of 8 years ttc and eventually ICSI
I have a 1 year old natural surprise who sadly has a genetic condition.

We are ttc no3 sadly knowing we will have to prenatal test for this condition as we have found out we are carriers. So not only do I need things to be quick and hope no ivf needed it is a nasty hard journey to get pregnant and have to terminate if it has it. We cant afford genetic ivf. We are considering donor iui next year xx

ttc 6 months for no3 so far xx

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bonzo77 · 10/11/2013 00:34

cakecrumbs weirdly my periods have been a bit irregular too. 29-34 days between them. My chart is all over the place. I've just started the b6, which definitely helped after the miscarriage. So much for letting nature take its course!

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Cakecrumbsinmybra · 09/11/2013 16:25

Um, yep! Haven't used contraception since May and have been timing things right since August... And typically, since May my periods have been a bit irregular - couple of 34 day cycles, which got me thinking I might be pg. Now I'm wondering if I'm starting to become perimenopausal instead! We said we would be really relaxed about it and not stress, just let nature take it's course - I'm starting to think it might not happen for us tbh.

I have 2 DS - 7 and 3. Pg v quickly with DS1. DS2 took a little longer but only a few months, had early m/c, then fell immediately pg again.

Part of me still wants to get pg. The other part of me thinks it might be a blessing in disguise if I don't. DS2 still doesn't sleep through properly. We're just starting to travel more, do more fun things together. A 4 year age gap is hard enough, without adding another 4 year gap!! I'm starting to yearn for a career too as I've not worked at all for 4 years now. I'd have to have a CS (well, I'd be strongly pushing for one, excuse the pun) due to previous experiences.

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bonzo77 · 08/11/2013 10:15

Hi! Mine are 3.8 and 11 months. I got pregnant really easily with DS1. Then started trying when he was 1. Got pg after 7 months but lost it at 12 weeks. Then pg after 4 months and DS2 born 1month early as he wasn't doing well and my placenta had packed up.

I'm definitely conscious that at 36 my age is not in my favour. We've been doing the "not trying but not not trying" thing for the last few months, but as of this month I've been charting, and when AF comes I think I'll get some ovulation tests.

Wrt to work and uni, and everything I suppose, there's never a good time. I think one just has to commit, and then do the best you can. There was a woman in the year above me at uni who timed her pregnancies so she managed to have one baby in the summer of her 3rd year and another just after finals (5 year course). So it can be done! Admittedly she was probably 21/22 when she had her first, so that does help, getting pg easier and having the energy to do so much at one time.

Your gap sounds like a good one, in that the older ones are settled in school, out of nappies etc. but then going back to nappies and night feeds will be more of a shock than it must of been with your second. Do you still have lots of baby stuff or will you have to start again with that?

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sj257 · 07/11/2013 13:17

We are kind of not trying but not preventing at the moment if that makes sense.

Also worried about car and money but hey ho!

How old are your children? Mine are 7 & 5.5, my problem at the moment is that I'm in my second year of uni but I really don't want to end up with a huge age gap (gap between my two is 17 months!) so I've come off the pill now and I suppose we will see what happens! It didn't take me long to get pregnant the last two times but conscious that it could do this time.

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