The Elderberry Pavlovas: still chasing that 'copter in the hope of a festive BFP. Thread 16 (the one where Happy was left in charge!!)

Booooo to bad invoicing cats

RP drug starting all depends on AF, likely to miss 1 (or maybe 2) month because of Christmas/new year. Only time will tell!

Hi berries - I've been AWOL and haven't managed to catch up with threads - was feeling a bit low but the lovely bunny encouraged me to come back and so here I am. Have been ttc 19 months , age 32, finally just had first FC apptmt. Have been referred for a lap as i have suspected endo (agony & gastro problems every month). Will then get moved to IVf but not sure if we want to go there... all happening a bit suddenly. i have been told to fatten up to get my bmi at 20 or more - it's 19- anyone else had this? personally feel like I have enough "cushioning" but if a doctor's saying I should eat more pies I won't say no! Have also been told to cut down on drinks - to 3 glasses of wine /wk. bit stingy in my view- again, anyone else been told this?? Sorry if I'm going over old ground& you've all had this chat already....

Ps. I'm a non-teacher

Sorry Charming if it helps when I read the response to your first post I thought it said you were taking a bath with cats which seemed kind of ... novel. Honestly thoug I think heat will probs be fine.

Pip hmmmmm I do wonder. Fx for no AF tomorrow at least! One day at a time.

So Bunny when do you start drugs?

V v long day at work today - whole bunch of horrid stressy emails flying around but I also saw the first review of my new book and it was really positive :) how is everyone else?

er, I meant the heat of the bath rather than the water itself.....

Yay to the drugs bunny !

My clinic are trying to over charge me for a scan at the moment. FFS. Doesn't fill me with faith when they can't even invoice correctly. I know it's not the admin guy that does the scans etc, but jeez!

Alright ladies!

Hi snow

Happy berry-versary cats how are you?

Hmmmmmmm indeed pip

My drugs have arrived, now I'm freaking out a little!

Well RP. AF isn't actually due until Friday or Saturday. If she hasn't shown up by Saturday then I might poas.
I normally get a week of nasty brown sludge and then the first red blood is on day one. This time I've had more than the usual amount of spotting with about two days ago and not much since.

Hmmmmmm

Pip really hope I'm not out of line in suggesting this, but is there any reason for you to poas at this point? I mean, any way the last cycle could have been effective, as your AF doesn't seem to be normal?

AF is making up for lost time over here :( Had to miss usual morning swim today due to flooding. Yesterday I was at an open day stall from 3.30-6.30, standing up talking to people, in a cream skirt (why did I do that?), mostly concentrating on keeping back to wall in case... argh.

Charming I'm sure it is fine. I go swimming all the time during mine! I don't think it'd really get thru the cervix :)

GAH! MrsW what a stUUUpid thing for your 'friend' to say! Think you are making a good choice anyway, nobody needs the stress of a different job when TTC, pregnant or with young baby. And that's all still to come

I'm not a teacher berry, but had got most of the way through an Open Uni degree with the intention to go on to get a PGCE. Then I decided the job I'm in already is waaaaay easier than dealing with all the crap teachers have to deal with, so decided to come to terms with being an underachiever instead

Hope you feel better soon Foody and Sid

Charming! Have fun

Hi Snow, hope it doesn't come to it, but if/when you do see Dr you tend to have a bit of weight lifted of your shoulders, hope things go well!

Pip hope things become clearer for you tomorrow!!

AF is so annoying like that. The last few cycles, I've had v bad boob pain from ov to af, but nothing so far 1 wk post ov. Just when I thought I understood.
Sudden horrible thought: are hot baths ok in the 2ww? It wasn't scalding, but it was v warm.....

A bath with DH Cats? Sounds like a good night.

Well I was sure AF was going to show today. Heavy spotting and then lots of proper red this morning. However, nothing all day, just a tiny bit of light spotting, nothing more that slightly coloured cm really. It was a little annoying actually because the sooner she turns up then the better chance I have of getting it sorted soon.

I missed my berry-versary. I think it was last month.

Parents' evening part two complete and now time for a bath with DH. Rock and roll.

mrsw. Yes, shoot her!

mrsw !!! What an insensitive idiot!!!! That made me so angry! I agree with foody shoot her now!!!

Hello all, I'm a non-teacher berry who is still around dipping in from time to time. I've been keeping a low profile though as I've not had much to add; we've been going au naturel with a GL diet, Miss West's supplements and acupuncture (for me). First TTC anniversary next month so we'll be making an appointment soon to see our GP to talk tests etc. Best wishes to all berries and whatever you're going through, you really are a supportive and inspirational bunch x
Re-adding myself as its a been a while!

Pip - 38 - TTC since April 2011 - about to start second IVF cycle - AF due 23rd Nov
Charmingcats - 32 - TTC since August 2012. 2ww of 1st cycle of clomid. PCOS & acne (grrr).
Birdy - 30 - TTC 25 cycles, will be starting IVF (ICSI) in the new year (one cycle on NHS, so praying I get lucky first time!)
Barkingtreefrog - 34 - ttc since January 2012, mc Sept '13 after clomid bfp. AF awol post mc, FC supplied Provera so now on Clomid cycle 2.
Boodle - 30 - TTC 29 cycles. 1st appointment to IVF clinic is imminent. Chances to ironi-diff and dwindling rapidly.
Happylass - 35- 13 cycles of TTC under my belt. Currently taking a break for wedding purposes. Patiently waiting for 2nd FC appointment when I will finally get to see the consultant.
Bunny - 33 -TTC since June 2012, PCO, ICSI should start in the new year.
Sidney - 38 - TTC since July 2012, unexplained, private FC appt Dec with a view to starting IVF in Jan.
Feather, TTC since Sept 2011, six rounds of clomid, ectopic in November 13. Not sure what's next.
mrsw - 35, TTC May 2013, PCOS tbc, next step more bloods and a scan, crossing fingers for quick FC progress and starting with clomid in 2014!
Snow - 33, TTC Dec 2012, been going it au naturel with GL diet & acu. AF due any day.

Added myself... Considering your suggestion foody very tempted!

And while I'm here to all berries - finding this thread and the culture of supporting and advising and cheerleading for each other has really helped.

Pip - 38 - TTC since April 2011 - about to start second IVF cycle - AF due 23rd Nov
Charmingcats - 32 - TTC since August 2012. 2ww of 1st cycle of clomid. PCOS & acne (grrr).
Birdy - 30 - TTC 25 cycles, will be starting IVF (ICSI) in the new year (one cycle on NHS, so praying I get lucky first time!)
Barkingtreefrog - 34 - ttc since January 2012, mc Sept '13 after clomid bfp. AF awol post mc, FC supplied Provera so now on Clomid cycle 2.
Boodle - 30 - TTC 29 cycles. 1st appointment to IVF clinic is imminent. Chances to ironi-diff and dwindling rapidly.
Happylass - 35- 13 cycles of TTC under my belt. Currently taking a break for wedding purposes. Patiently waiting for 2nd FC appointment when I will finally get to see the consultant.
Bunny - 33 -TTC since June 2012, PCO, ICSI should start in the new year.
Sidney - 38 - TTC since July 2012, unexplained, private FC appt Dec with a view to starting IVF in Jan.
Feather, TTC since Sept 2011, six rounds of clomid, ectopic in November 13. Not sure what's next.
mrsw - 35, TTC May 2013, PCOS tbc, next step more bloods and a scan, crossing fingers for quick FC progress and starting with clomid in 2014!

Shoot her mrs, save a lot of other people from her and shoot her now.
What a stupid insensitive bitch. That and she is just WRONG too!.

Still a bit headachey here, still in bed, should get up soon but I am just sooo tired. work 10-4 tomorrow and 10-1 on friday then back to full days next week. Only one way to find out of I am up to it, though have a feeling I am not. Also sick of being self indulgent moany cow when I really shouldn't be. Just so bloody tired.

And christmas interfering with your IVF bunny & pip is another reason it should be banned.grrr. anyway limiting myself to 5 mins on the comp at a time, bye for now!

Bunny I'm another non teacher though like sid I'm qualified so I suppose former teacher is more accurate... I do miss it sometimes. Or I miss the teenagers, the actual teaching, not all the other bits. Appraisal system just as bad here in the silly service though.

Am very down today. Had a chat with a friend yesterday - ha, friend - we were talking career progression. I said I wasn't applying for a particular development programme because I felt like it'd be misleading them; my focus is on starting a family not career. She said she thought that was foolish because I was passing up a 'real chance' for one that isn't certain and I should think about being 40 and not having a child or a career

She's just back from second mat leave

Will add myself to list later when I have more to say than mrsw, 35,

Bunny I don't teach, although I did do a graduate degree in education. Thought about dusting it off and looking for teaching jobs here but all the talk about marking & horrible parents and explosive kids has put me off a little!

Pip That's lovely about the one-egg lady; she must have been so worried and it's nice for her that it worked out. I read the Egg Buddies threads sometimes and they have a saying that "it only takes one" (ioto.....took me forever to realize what it meant). Really hoping that your "one" happens during this next cycle, and sorry that they've pushed it back Looks like there may be a lot of Oct '14 Berry babies

Foody how're you feeling today? Migraine gone?

I am feeling a bit better today. In hindsight I suppose it was an interesting experience, having someone point out where my tubes feed into my uterus, and was a relief being told everything up there looked totally fine and that it's possible that the polyp being gone might be the trick. It was a bit surreal, having this guy draw the female reproductive system and then hold it up to his own crotch so I could see where everything lay , but as I said he had kind of a "I'm one of the girls" vibe going on so the whole thing was kind of amusing rather than overwhelmingly awkward.

and yes, I do think there should be points awarded for a nice lady garden , but I am 100% sick of random men sticking things up there!!

sid hope you are feeling better today x

pip damn Christmas grrrrrrrrr lol that's the reason I can't start this month too. I agree with boodle it is lovely about that lady but I'd be well jel!

Are there any non-teacher berries left?

Aww Pip that is lovely! and it is sort of hopeful, isn't it?

Foody in my mardiness yesterday I totally missed how ill you were!

Sid ouch. So wait, is the polyp now gone? If so maybe the worst bit is over for you :) Also, I think it's so important that you got on well with the consultant. Really nice when you feel relaxed and that they are engaging with you!

yy to feeling like a tit during appraisals. Mostly, I end up just using them to nick ideas from other people

That is lovely, Pip, but you are an absolute saint sometimes...I suspect I'd just end up feeling jealous...

I know what you mean about observations...one of my appraisees had been teaching 4x as many years as I have. One of the others is older than me but I don't have a clue about her background...suspect she's been at it longer than me as well!

Boodle I have to do observations tomorrow. I feel such a tit giving feedback to people who have been teaching longer than me.

I had my appointment with the IVF clinic today. I was hoping to start from my next day one, which should be 23rd, but they suggested that they might not be able to do that one as it might not work out for egg collection due to Christmas. Still, having to wait another 4 weeks isn't the end of the world.

Do you remember that when I was having my egg collection there was a woman in the next bay who only had one egg taken? Well, while chatting to the nurse, we were talking about the odds etc and she said that someone recently had only had one egg collected and it had fertilised and the woman is now pg. Isn't that lovely?

I'll go along with that Sid, hoping the same applies to fibroids. Did they say how long you should wait before starting IVF?

Look after yourself, you should feel loads better tomorrow.

Good news Sid. Lets hope that's 'all' it will take for you to get that bfp

Well done Sid x