Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

oh greenlizard i'm so sorry
it's such a shit, but you will get there in the end. big hugs.

Hi lizard sorry to hear what brought you here, but welcome. I know where you are coming from on the getting back in the saddle (I am an not quite so ancient 39 and DH is almost 41) but please give yourself time to grieve and recover. I to had a 3 month wait post ERPC. I am currently CD10 and had a mini breakdown today as I was bleeding. Still a bit but only when I poke around wipe. I am hoping it won't come to anything or is a sign of ov. Just going to keep trying with OPKs and dtd around midcycle.

handsful love stories of nativities/concerts! At DDs nursery they do a carol concert but only for the over 3s. DD is not 3 until March so I am a bit peeved to be missing out

greenlizard. So sorry your here. I too have had two mc and it's utterly s*it. We will keeP you company until you go again.

fedup. Sorry to hear your news. Each day we can only hope we get stronger and can face this turmoil. So unfair. Big bugs.

Holly hope everything settles soon xx

Feeling a bit down tonight. I spent the evening as an elf at clic sargents Santas grotto. (like to do a good deed each year). Anyway everyone was bringing in their babies and a put on a brave elf face but each baby made me feel sadder. On the plus I usually ovulate today or tomorrow so better get busy.

Lizard, sorry you are here, but welcome. How utterly grim for you. I have lost various family members so far, but nothing felt like the sheer desperate aching grief of losing a tiny bean. I think it's the loss of the future and all that potential for love. You can't help but love your baby from the moment you see the line. In time it gets easier, but I'm struggling to feel I can recover without another baby.

Fedup, you poor poor sausage. I am so sorry. There's not much that one can say that is not trite not insultingly positive. Biggest virtual hugs.

Aly, a little, timid, tentative, whoop!

And Hollyben, thinking of you and your funny cycle. Things will sort themselves out in time, our bodies have been through so much.

I had a ball watching my 4 year old in her nativity this afternoon. She was a hilarious sheep, but not as funny as the brilliant little boy who discovered the microphone and spent the whole play shouting in it and making the whole audience jump!

Oh lizard so sorry to hear that and fedup sorry to hear your news. Really hope you both get bfps again quickly.

No one prepares you for the shit that comes with ttc and it can be so hard to pick yourself up but one day we will all get our babies one way or another xx

Evening

I had a MMC at 10 weeks in June and had an ERPC. My periods went AWOL for three months after that, my second cycle lasted 47 days and the third cycle I ovulated CD12 and got my BFP that cycle.

We were so happy. My DP and I are both 44 now so we are ancient in the fertility stakes. Sadly, I have just lost this pregnancy at 8 weeks. I went through it naturally this time and can already feel the difference physically. A scan on Tuesday revealed my miscarriage is complete and my uterus is back to "non- pregnant"shape and I am ready to start cycling again apparently even though I only miscarried on Saturday. Emotionally it is not so easy - I don't think I have cried so much in my life but because of our age we can't really take time out and will need to get back in the TTC saddle ASAP.

The grief about a miscarriage is hard to explain to people who have not been through it but I know you will a) understand how sh*it is generally and b) understand how grim and emotional the business of trying TTC post miscarriage can be. Mind if I hang about with you?

Ps. fedup I am not sure how far along you were but can assure you that at 8 weeks it was manageable for me and I was a big girls blouse scared. Happy to share my experience if it would help? So sorry you are having to go through this.

So so sorry fed up that is truly awful for you :( it's very hard to pick yourself up, I struggle tbh and only time seems pass and then my moods lift slightly. Understand why you are worried about the pain love, not sure why we have to go through these things but then as holly says we have to keep slogging on...

Sea, are you in the 2ww then? I'm just starting with ewcm so hoping end of this wk or wkend will be ov for me....then we can be poas (resisting?!) buddies?! Just need to try to keep the hopes under control or am worried Xmas/ny might be a downer :(

Holly, this is annoying with the bleeding messing you around. I was almost sure I was going to get af when I was expecting ov this month as I have had all af symptoms, bloating, mld cramps, spots and now it's ewcm so just think the hormones are going nuts. Are you still bleeding?

Xx

I wish I felt like wine :(
Had an erpc for last mc as wasn't happening naturally. Bit scared about the pain the is to come...

Thanks ladies for you thoughts and best wishes.

I feel like total turd as you would imagine
Xx

oh no fedup i'm so sorry.
I'm sure the wait won't be so long next time and that the next one will be the lucky one to stick. You're going to make a perfect baby one day, and perfection takes time. All the heartache will be worth it one day in the not to distant future, I'm sure.
You must feel awful, so allow yourself a good cry. you deserve it

That's awful fedup, I'm so sorry. I can't offer anything other than the usual (true) cliches-give yourself time, be kind to yourself and it will happen successfully for you in the future. But I know they're all insubstantial just now.

So sorry fedup that really is the pits. I have a friend who had multiple mcs (at least 4 I know off) and and eptopic which resulted in both her tubes being removed. She has recently had a DS conceived through her 3rd round of IVF. When asked how she kept going she always said she just did. I don't mean to gloss over what you have been through. Just trying to say there is always hope. And someone here for support x

fedup so sorry to hear that. At least you didn't need surgery, not that that makes it any less heartbreaking. Sending you big hugs and lots of love.

Hi ladies. Sorry for the downer, but I will be joining you again. Mc confirmed today by dropping hcg levels.

Broken. How do I pick myself up from this again???

Great news aly! Hope this is a precursor for a bumper fertile Friday :-)

Yayyyy aly fingers crossed and sending you lots of luck xx

alyant. Brill news. Fx is a sticky one. Xx

Hollyben - I had that too. Teeny tiny amount and only lasted about 2 days. just made it tricky for estimating ovulation dates.

Sounding positive aly fx

so after waiting almost 3 months for af post mc I am CD10 today and appear to be bleeding again - wtf! not masses but also feeling a bit campy. I will nip out at lunch to grab some liners to monitor how much. Just as I was feeling hopeful about being able to start trying again. I want to crawl into bed and cry

triple i'm not going anywhere just yet. I'm compartmentalising this bit of info to the back of my mind and won't even begin to think of myself as possibly pregnant until AF date has been and gone (except for not drinking much).

Oh aly that's fab news!! I told you this was your bfp month!!! But please don't expect the spotting as that's taking the twin joke a bit too far

So waiting again at EPU for bloods. I hate EPU. It's waiting times are ridiculous and why do some people come back in waving their scan pics around?!

I feel more chilled about my situ. I'm kind of expecting the worst and preparing for mc, work know so the pressure is kind of off too. My progesterone on weds did not indicate ectopic I don't think - was 35. I think they look for about 10 or below when ectopic. But if that's dropped this morn it could be different...

(Short intake of breath), Aly, that is tremendous news. Even if, as you say, it isn't meant to be, at least you know things are working properly down there, and there's no reason why this won't work - every pg is different and you are due some good luck!

Still waiting for a pos opk result...but wondering if I must have missed a really early one. Luckily, I started using a charting app over a year ago so have records of af's post mc....on both occasions I ovulated really late in the first months afterwards.

aly that's wonderful news. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Eek aly that's great fx for you!

My temps are down today so expecting af to appear on time today/tmrw :(

also flinging a trout at you for poas on Wed !

aly that is wonderful news ! so very happy and excited for you.It really gives us all hope. fx that its a sticky one. You will be missed on the board, but certainly (potentially) going away for all the right reasons !