Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

Hi there- have not posted much recently. Sorry to hear about the rubbishy and insensitive comments some if you have had to deal with.

fedup sorry to hear of your mc. I hope your dh will eventually understand how difficult it must be for you to deal with. Men somehow get over it so much more quickly.

holly did you not poas today?your symptoms sound promising.

fairy Paris sounds brilliant. Just the break during 2ww. I think twice when you got positive opk should cover it for you.

As for me, I still struggling along. One more month to my due date. Poas this morning at 12dpo and bfn. So end of any hope for a positive end of 2013 for me too. I got my progesterone levels tested last week. Going to get the result this morning, so lets see. Otherwise thinking of sending dh for some tests. I just feel the need to be doing something about this.

Sorry if I have missed anyone. Hoping for a 2014 full of bfps for everyone!!

Ahh fedup, what a crappy few days. Hopefully you and DH have sorted things out now. Men do definitely process all this stuff differently, I had to vent at my DH a few weeks ago about how he seemed 'over it' when I couldn't even get out of bed in the morning without tears. Of course he wasn't over it, he'd just processed the emotions differently.
I find I'm having the really dark days less often now, hoping I keep making progress in that direction and that you do too.

Fairy, ooh la la! Enjoy gay Paris (is it PC to say that these days?!?)

After 3 days proper AF and 3 spotting tonight we are back on the ttc train for real. I am vitamin'ed up to my eyeballs with a healthy dash of agnus castus so please please please let me get what I want this time (to paraphrase miserable Morrissey). I want to be an instadiffer so badly!!

Whoops butter fingers. Was going to say 'people won't always understand. But that doesn't make anything you're feeling wrong'

Oh fedup no wonder you are struggling with everything still so raw. You need to process things in your own time and be gentle with yourself. People,

Hi all, I'd say Merry Christmas but sounds like some of you might be glad it's all over. Really sorry to hear of any insensitive comments from relatives etc, not what you need at all.

But in the plus side, 2013 is nearing the end and then we can all look forward to a year of bfp's!! Really hoping that we all graduate in the next few months.

My horrific af has buggered off and I'm due to ov over New Year's Eve...I've slacked off on all my vits and supplements though is getting back on it today.

That sounds propper crap fedup I'd put his behaviour down to not knowing how to get it right maybe?
Hi DTM, sorry you're still hanging out in mctown, I hope you graduate to pregnancy boards soon (actually, I hope we all do)
Fingers crossed holly
Got smiley on ov test yesterday, dtd last night but sharing room with dd's tonight so will hope last night and tomorrow will be enough. Off to Paris for a few days so good luck.

Ps sorry for selfish rant. Just properly miserable.

Sorry for af chosen, particularly shite at Christmas time.
And good luck holly for bfp.

penguin yoga is an ace prezzie - enjoy!

parsley that friend sounds like a right dick. I have one of those two - it's why lie to me when everything else is so obvious and you are hinting away so what's the point?! I find it really hurtful, particularly if they know about me ttc or mcs.

Sorry for bitterness today - just a bad few days. Slept so badly last 3 nights too. After a good nights sleep hoping to be back and postifrickintive once more

So all came to blows tonight. I spilt DH's beer all over the carpet. Cue random blaming moment and then him telling me I'm so miserable, followed by me shouting at him, throwing a towel at him (yes silly I know but nearest item) and storming off upstairs to sob on the bed.
Just really struggling with everyones large happy families and new baby and pregnancy announcements - and he seems to have forgotten I miscarried just two weeks ago.
How can he not get it? How can I just brush it all under the carpet and pretend I'm happy?!

Good luck Holly really hope you get to start the year in the best way possible!

Sorry for all those who have had to endure insensitive comments and baby announcements over
Christmas. I think one of the worst things about mc for me is no longer feeling unmitigated joy for someone who announces they are pg. My sil is due a week out from my old due date and whilst I am so happy for them, especially as they have struggled with infertility, I find it so hard watching her go through the stages that I would have been and also feel like a truly horrible person for that. We deliberately haven't shared news of our mc with DH's family so that we don't spoil their natural joy about SIL's baby but it's hard that they don't know sometimes.

On a more positive note, DH gave me some yoga lessons for Christmas and I've heard yoga can be good for fertility ....

Merry Christmas all. Been manic here. I have keeping tabs on what you are all up to but not found time to post - mainly because I am useless with the keyboard on my phone so it takes ages to type anything. Sorry to hear about all the 'helpful' comments and announcements. Glad I am not the only one who avoids pooling at work! DH thinks I am weird. He always aims to go at work so there is less cleaning at home

10 dpo here and holding out some hope of positive news to end this crappy year. Been feeling queasy on and off for a couple of days. Headachy and tender books (though possibly from poking them to see if they are sore....)

Hope you are all enjoying a relaxing boxing day x

Sal, it's so teeth grindingly frustrating when people make such thoughtless remarks. I have to tell myself that they don't realise they're doing it as the alternative is that they're stupid or genuinely unfeeling :-/

fedup sorry you had to endure more baby bombs. Hands up who else had a festive sob? :::raising own hand:::
I was a misery in the morning, just kept thinking about how happy this Xmas should have been after finally, finally getting that BFP - only snapped out of it after a glass or two of bubbly.
Aside from that, the day was ok. My parents were really good, my mum apologised for asking to watch Call The Midwife, I hadn't even thought about that being a problem!

Xmas eve drinks were ok in the end too although I specifically asked tactless FB friend if she'd be announcing anything and she said no, but then proceeded to keep making remarks about not drinking and giving me winky smiles. Like I'm really going to share in the giggles? Go away!!!

chosen good that AF is on schedule, enjoy your week of being allowed booze and illicit foods. I am not OPKing this month, mainly cos of AF arriving while we were away so now too late to start my clearblue monitor. I actually fancy a 'no pressure' month (although I am still using fertility friend on my mobile, so ov should be around jan 6th)

Welcome davidtennant, sorry you're here but hopefully your stay will be quick!

Happy Boxing Day all

sorry to hear that Sal and fedup :( people and their 'helpful' comments can do one!

my AF arrived today...exactly as expected! :( hey ho (humbug!)

well...I'm thinking Jan is going to be better for us ladies! I'm going to use the opk's again twice a day (used first time this month, got a clear + 14 days before today) and dtd to cover a 28 day cycle and a 30 day cycle aswell. Since MC cycles have been (35,34 and 30) but always 28 before that.

Parsley are you using OPKs?

We will get our BFPs in 2014!

Ugh sal that's such a rubbish thing to say.

I cried over my port and Stilton last night and went to bed early with a cry as news over the table of more pregnancies emerged.

HI ladies, I love your rules, they've made me giggle. I posted on the mc boards and have been diverted to you lot., :-) we are ttc no 3, this year has seen a chem pg and a cm at 8 weeks, I've charted this month with cb digitalis but no smiley face.

Am considering angus cactus and my persona next month, dr google has just shown that stress can knock of out, I'm cd 14, and we are stopping with the in laws with ds in our bedroom and a 15 yo niece in the next room, so all alone time is in the car (cd11 lol)

Anyhow have written this month off really and hoping for luck next month or at least to chart so can see the doctor if needed. Had hoped to be pg before my due date in the Easter.

Merry Christmas all! Overanxious, enjoy a relaxing day and wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy pg!

Fedup, that is commitment right there!! I think AF is gone already (only 3 days?!?) so project desperate can start in our household soon!

Happy Christmas everyone, hope you have a carefree day. Sorry for the short message, manic here, just wanted to wish you all a fab day and say thanks for the hilarious poo posts!

Wine and stilton :-) xx

Happy Christmas ladies.
I've done project desperate proud today. After discovering a load of ewcm after breakfast we snuck upstairs for a quickie leaving all my family downstairs. Don't think anyone noticed!!

Hope 2014 is a good one for us all. I'm currently drinking mulled wine after polishing off a bottle of Moët last night. Cheese and smoked salmon to come....

Hope there aren't too many insensitive comments for anyone today... But after a few drinks you prob will snap back and march off to the fertility cock!!

I don't want any "at least" comments again... Or any comments about how tough it all is with children. Nothing is tougher than ttc and mc hell.

Cheers ladies and thank you for being a great support network too - I need you guys!!! Xxx

Merry Christmas everyone! Wishing all of you a special gift in 2014. Have fun today. Thanks for popping in overanxious positive stories are good to hear hope everything continues to go well.

Thanks for the ray of light overanxious, it really does help.

Some families are sooo shit. My dsis was so apologetic she was running late 2 days after my mc and felt the need to explain it was her really heavy period DH had words!

I'm trying to be more positive here despite ov being due whilst sharing a room with dd's after 3 days with dsis in the room next door. Well, it's the season of virgin births so I'll hope anyway.
Wishing you all merry Christmas.

Hello all

Just popping in to say hello and to wish you all a very Merry Christmas, but more importantly a happy new year...a fresh start and tonnes of good luck for 2014. I still lurk on here everyday, and still fully understand the absolute shit that you are all going through every month.

I had a private scan yesterday at 8 weeks and all appears okay still, now got to wait for my 12 week scan.

2013 was by far the worst year of my life, I will be glad to welcome in 2014 and to put behind me some of the awful times I have been through. I am by no means out of the woods, and it's taken me a long time to get to this point, but I never thought I would even see a BFP again and I did. I really hope you all get some good luck soon, you certainly deserve it.

Here's to 2014 being a better year for us all.

Xxx

Here's to awkward families!!

I am about to go out to our traditional Xmas eve drinks at the worst pub ever (but we can't go anywhere else cos it's tradition, obviously!)

Was actually looking forward to it but have just learnt tactless Facebook friend is going. I am fully expecting her to make some grand announcement of her pg - I may have to hide in the toilets!

Thanks ladies. Sometimes I find it hard to tell what is reasonable to be upset at and what is me being over-sensitive. In this case I'll put it down to my family being exceptionally awkward at doing emotions and lack of sleep because of new baby but if she says anything again I may say something.

It's so good to be able to talk on here to people who actually understand. I know as mc goes I am actually one of the lucky ones as we hadn't been trying for long and although diagnosed at 13 weeks was actually a very early loss (around 6 weeks) which is so common but it's still a loss to us.

I think if I've had no bfp by April I'm going to the fertility cock. Not sure I'd have the courage to actually dtd on it though, but perhaps could take a couple of Sal's syringes and a blanket up there.

penguin - uh, no, that is ridiculously insensitive and awful. Sorry you have to be here, hopefully your stay will be brief.