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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

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Sal1977 · 24/10/2013 21:34

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

OP posts:
CamomileHoneyVanilla · 26/10/2013 19:44

Hey all

Re. Fb friend. She's just excited, and to be fair doesn't know. Can't put my hand on my heart and say I wouldn't have been ridiculously insensitive if I'd just gone down the path of blissful ignorance myself. She's due next week, and a pretty heavy fb user - so am bracing myself!

Seaside - how ridiculously thoughtless of your well-meaning (I assume) but totally unhelpful sister. I've looked at the adoption route myself and its a possibility I feel quite positive about - I figure that if its this painful to be 'a parent' with no kids it must be a million times worse to be a kid with no parents. So while its not "the same" I'm sure it would be a wonderful experience of motherhood, should we end up down that path. Flowers

I'm totally bouncing between posifrickintivity and complete despair these days!

Welcome Holly and hope you enjoyed the wine Draf.

PinaColadas · 26/10/2013 15:51

Thanks for all the advice guys, really sorry to hear you've been through an eptopic, everything is just so scary. I'm glad to hear eptopic would give me a BFP. I didn't bother OPKing this month because I got a bit obsessed last month and it ended up taking the fun away but now I wish I had because I have no idea what's going on now. Another BFN this morning and I'm not wasting any more money on them now. I've been a right bitch to DH with PMT symptoms today so pretty sure AF will show in the next few days!

SeasideLily · 26/10/2013 13:22

Sorry, couldn't get thread to refresh before posting for some reason. Welcome holly, sorry for your loss.

I got an emphatic bfp with my ectopic pina, straight away, so I wouldn't worry. Having said that, I'm slightly worried about a 2nd one now coz af has been really light, so I'm going to waste my money poas soon. Am really paranoid now.

SeasideLily · 26/10/2013 13:15

Urg. Lots of 'helpful' advice on getting pg from my sister last night. 'Why don't you just go to the doctor and get ivf?', 'I know you're thinking of adopting, but it's not the same, is it? Nothing's like having your own baby.' Yeah, thanks for that. Hadn't occurred to me...

HollyBen · 26/10/2013 10:19

Fedup the new babies thing is hard. It is horrible being happy for them on one hand but also jealous and sad. I have a friend at work who is a month ahead of where I should be and told me she was pg the day I had my MC confirmed. It is awful watching her bump grow and seeing scans etc. I am genuinely pleased for her as she has not really had it easy over the last few years but it is so hard.

I guess I am fairly 'lucky' in that we are TTC DC#2 and got a BFP straight away. POAS on Sat, started spotting on the Thursday and it was over 3 weeks before MC was confirmed. I had a previous MC in 2010 which had taken 8 months to get a BFP and I remember the crushing monthly disappointment of AF arriving. At the moment I would give anything for anything to arrive.

fedupofrainydays · 26/10/2013 09:34

nerdy deffo sounds like pcos with the many pos opks but think you are doing the right thing by dtd with each one.

Agree with nerdy re the ectopic pina. Step away from google and it's much more likely just messed up cycle than ectopic as the latter would usually give you a bfp. Do you know when you ovulated this cycle, as may have ovulated late and af isn't really 'late' if that makes sense.

Just writing a stash of cards for 'congratulations on your new arrival'. My congrats are genuine and couldn't be happier for these people, but inside there is a heavy sadness and wishing it was me receiving the cards too rather than writing them...

NerdyBird · 26/10/2013 09:19

Morning peeps.

Got another +OPK yesterday evening. Only DTD this morning though as boyfriend isn't very well. I've had a few +OPK this cycle so have tried to DTD each time just in case it means something!

pina my AF has suddenly gone awol and no BFP. For me it's probably due to PCOS so I'll have tests soon for hormone levels. I think with an ectopic you would have a BFP rather than not.

PinaColadas · 26/10/2013 00:46

Thanks for the advice fedupofrainydays. I feel like I'm going mad, have frightened myself to death with googling reading about eptopics. There's no chance I'm PG because I'd definitely have a BFP by 7 days late! Might just do another test in the morning for good measure...Blush

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 25/10/2013 22:39

Hi all, just checking back in after a couple of weeks lurking. Like many others, I've been seriously lacking posifrikentivity of late.

Anxious I too would recommend counselling, have had it in the past and found it really helpful.

I'm now 5dpo and over the shagathon (thank goodness!). Started reflexology a fortnight ago, just had my 3rd session tonight. Finding it wierd but quite positive. The reflexologist is lovely, I really clicked with her, and I am starting to unwind a wee bit as a result. Hoping whatever it is she does works and I can POAS positively next Friday!

Welcome HollyBen, sorry you are here and hoping your stay will be brief.

HollyBen · 25/10/2013 20:34

Hi all. I am new here. Waiting on AF return after my ERPC on 11th September (over 6 weeks now). I have never wanted AF to appear so much in my life. I am tucking into a glass of red so I'd echo the others daft - go for it! Hoping to hear lots of positive stories

Original poster
Sal1977 · 25/10/2013 19:36

Daft drink the wine! You've gone through enough in the last two weeks without depriving yourself of some alcoholic comfort! If it were me still doing it 6 months later I'd chuck in a large bag of crisps and a bar of cadburys as well!!!

I bled for just over 2 weeks after my MMC and ERPC, just lightly but enough for it to be a pain!! Everyone is different though, so it's hard to judge it!

OP posts:
fedupofrainydays · 25/10/2013 19:27

pina being honest it's probably just your body struggling to get back to normal... Mine was all over the shops after mc. I was 25 days like clockwork before mc and now I don't have a clue.. Range from 20 to 28 days and I'm on cycle 9. Think I'm unusual with that though so don't think that will happen to you but just wanted to say that's pretty normal for second cycle post mc. But I also know how frustrating it is to have no af and bfn! Take care

fedupofrainydays · 25/10/2013 19:23

A glass won't hurt daft.. nothing to do with the fact I'm about to have a glass of red

Bezza2508 · 25/10/2013 18:56

Do it daft!!!

daftgeranium · 25/10/2013 18:43

Hello all. Ooh! a new thread.

Good luck to any of you POAS today.....

I'm still bleeding from miscarriage after 11 days, pah.... but today, after declaring myself alcohol-free forever to help with next time round, I found myself nursing a bottle of red in the supermarket in the middle of really struggling at work.

mmm, it's on the table in front of me now and might just need to be opened....

hahahahaha

PinaColadas · 25/10/2013 16:53

Agree with you on the fb front Bezza, I find it unbearable

PinaColadas · 25/10/2013 16:52

Losing the will to live here, I'm TTC after MMC in June (that got dragged out by shoddy aftercare and only had ERPC early sept) this is my 2nd cycle, always 30 days like clockwork and I'm currently 6 days late, climbing the walls getting BFN! I'm blatantly not pregnant as used FR, so where the frig is AF? Why is my body so cruel to me Confused

Bezza2508 · 25/10/2013 15:14

Ah ok, I'm a solicitor fedup so not the same role. I work for a firm that has lot of public sector clients though. Very jealous that you find your job rewarding...the concept of enjoying my job is alien to me!

Sorry AF has arrived sal and over. Was hoping we would have some thread BFPs today! Hope your bleeding stops soon sundance. It's just a horrible reminder of what you've been through.

I cannot believe there is a Facebook group to name a child. I've had to come off Facebook since the MC. It felt like my news feed was full of babies!

wingandtalon · 25/10/2013 14:24

Anxious I really recommend councelling. I've had it a few times, most recently for panic attacks that were a result of my mmc. They can give you some really good advice and I also find it much easier to talk to someone I don't know. I always struggled with tablets as I was very aware that they were treating the symptoms and not the cause. Everyone is different though and they may work for you.

SeasideLily · 25/10/2013 12:28

I also couldn't believe that FB group. That is definitely not normal, surely?! Who gets other ppl to name their child?! It's the last thing you want to get invited to.

fedupofrainydays · 25/10/2013 11:36

Ha ha daisy so you will know how hard it is with getting the dtd in... Partic with the staying away part too!!

I like the sound of goody bags too. Vessels to pee in and a one for the penis dunking (that thread still makes me laugh, was amazing!!)

alyant79 · 25/10/2013 11:16

thanks for the new fred sal.

sorry to hear about evil, witchy AFs. boo hiss!!!!!!!!

over i'm really really sorry to hear that you've been feeling so down. But I don't think that you should stop posting because you're worried about not being positive enough - that's our job to cheer you up! I hope that the pills work, and counselling sounds like it might be a good idea too. Also want to add that despite my best intentions, I cried after about 4 seconds last time I went to the Dr too.

cam I don't blame you for feeling like shite after that fb experience. A group to help name someone else's baby! wtf??!? i hope you didn't join it.
It completely and utterly isn't fair. Agreed.

I was the first from my nct group to get pg with the second child, and now i'm most likely going to be the last to actually get another one (they are all preggo except for one) - if I even ever do. Not feeling happy about that. Not happy at all. Trying not to think about it. At least I do have DD, so i can't really complain.

NerdyBird · 25/10/2013 11:04

Thanks for the new thread sal but sorry your AF arrived in such a way! sundance hope that's the last of the bleeding for you. Mine seemed to go on for ages at a very low level, it was annoying.

No POAS for me today, might give it a shot next week. We didn't DTD last night as the boyfriend was too tired. He fell asleep on the sofa - usually it's me who does that!

OveranxiousUnderated · 25/10/2013 10:07

Sal, we are so in sync - I too came on first thing this morning...in my pj's!

Feel better now I'm back to day one. Really might consider some counselling next month.

X

SeasideLily · 25/10/2013 09:12

Good luck poas-ers, if there are any? AF loves that trick, happened to me last month, all over my friend's sheets.

Like the idea of a project desperate goody bag, Sundance! Pineapple, baby aspirin, pre-seed and a small pillow to shove under you when you wave your legs in the air after dtd :-) oh, and a bumper pack of ic opks.