Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

Wow sal I'm impressed! That's some good use of your 'sick' day! I like your style. So sorry it's gone this way though. Hope they get you some answers next wk at the clinic.

Whoop whoop!

sal. I admire your get up and go today. Good on you. Glad your app is sorted. At least you don't have to wait. Have so e chocolate though.

Whoop whoop

sal. I get pains in my thighs. Up my spine too. Weird!! How are you doing. The only thing you could have done today was have a duvet day. Take care. I am still hoping your AF dosen't come.

Holly. Meant to say excellent news on your hormones - comforting.

My AF has arrived with extreme pain.

Aww sal so sorry to hear. But again I have seen some charts with temp drop after bfp so I would say there could still be a small chance?

Congrats over !! Well done.

Sorry I have been away on holiday and then basically hiding really. As always low on positivity. I am sick of seeing "baby on board" and baby bumps everyday, friends older than ne getting pg accidentally and it not being me. I missed the critical window this month but surprisingly it has been so much more relaxing. No over analysing every symptom and temp drop.

First month of temping that I have not gad an implantation dip, which makes me think whether all those months when we have been dtd, has it really been the case of not implanting properly?

Re: AF, I am also in the much lighter post mc camp. My GP appointment is coming up on Thursday so I will be discussing that. Along with spotting of two days pre AF, which is also new.

I am on CD 33, hoping for AF in 5 days time. So still pretty much enjoying my short break from TTC.

Hope everyone else is more motivated than me!

Sorry Sal, cross post. That was not the whoop whoop you were hoping for! In the circumstances, I don't think anyone's going to blame you for a day to yourself, hope you feel better soon. You're so strong, and it sounds like you and your DH have a wonderfully supportive relationship.

Crappy crap crap balls, I think I'm ovulating, and no sex can happen for 2 days. Never been v good at spotting ewcm, really hope this is not it.

Oh, so sorry Sal, that's balls. Ikwym about all this ttc business being harder than the ectopic, been thinking that for a while-and that if someone could just tell me it would happen in 6 months or a year or whatever, I'd be happier. Going to talk to DH about rescheduling the adoption thing for Jan, mostly because I hope that by concentrating on something else, it'll happen naturally.

My periods have been way lighter since the ectopic. Regular tampon, morning noon and night for first 1 or 2 days, then can just use one or even panty liner for next 5 days. They're about a week now, but have been up to 9 days. I've also been having odd twinges and pains on both sides, starting to worry about cysts. Will go to doc soon I think.

Sundance, glad you're onto a fresh slate, pleased to hear you being so positive.

Flying back tomorrow-the holiday's been such a great break. Kind of on the note of living life-not been worrying about booze intake (to the detriment of my liver), feel like I've been off the hook for a while, almost back to student days. It's been really helpful. Feel much more positive about getting back on DH it.

sal. Bugger bugger bugger!! So sorry you think chemical. It's rotten.

In relation to periods I have short lp but bleed for 5 days with spotting either side . 2 days heavy and it would not be unusual for me to have to come home and change my clothes due to flooding. But then I have endo do def don't go by me.

Still spotting and temp drop this morning but not near my coverline. Expecting AF tonight or tomorrow. Don't know why it was late - it was so promising :-((((. Maybe something tried to implant or maybe my luteal phase is lengthening. Yipppeee.

Right guys I obviously need some fish oil a convertible car and a skiing holiday.

fedup you are probably right, it's probably just light because of short lp and this is just taking its time because the perfect sperm is waiting to meet the perfect egg to create a perfect baby.

great that your hormone tests came back good holly and fx for a bfp (positivity!) soon.

that's great over that they've booked you in for a scan already.

Sorry to hear you think it's a chemical pg Sal, that sucks are you 100% sure there's no hope though? Any spotting yet? You say about no sore boobs etc...I don't have sore boobs whatsoever. I don't have any symptoms at all really except general feeling shit and tired but I am full of cough and cold. Trying not to think about lack of symptoms.

I am still testing daily...line still definitely positive although not as dark as control line. I went to see my gp today, he has dated me at 4wk3 days although that is based on a standard cycle, and I ovulate later so I think I am like 4/4+1. Anyway he was much more supportive today following my history and has got me down for a scan as soon as I hit 6 weeks (please,please,please,touch wood) I should be getting a letter through to confirm date, likely to be end of next week or early week after. He felt my tummy and said if I develop any pain between now and my scan then I am to assume ectopic and go straight to a&e as a precaution...which is a scary thought.

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Booking skiing worked for one of my friends fedup. She had tried for years and years with DH1 then after they split up and she remarried with DH2-even has IVF with both. Once she stopped trying and booked a ski holiday and upduffed. DS arrived the day she should have flown. So go for it.

I just rang the docs to get my blood test results. Thyroid was satisfactory (whatever that means, but wasn't expecting it to be an issue). Hormone levels indicated I was mid cycle so if no AF in 2 weeks I need to go back to have it redone. I think I may have ov last weekend going on EWCM so that would fit. Also DTD. So I am hoping for AF by this weekend (or possibly a BFP but I would settle for AF) which will be 12 and a half weeks after MC. I was really lucky after my first MC to get a BFP 8 weeks after so was hoping the same would happen this time. Feel a bit more positive for blood results though.

Maybe aly but could this be due to your shorter lp?
And if its always been like that's wouldn't worry cos you have DD.

light, not like

eeeek my period does sound really like compared to the rest of you
worried!!

There is some logic to that - getting on with your life! And if it is something like a car you can always sell it and get a more family friendly one! My friend book a big trip to the Lions tour in Oz this year... Of course she was then up duffed after 4 years of trying! They got all their money back tho as apparently pregnancy is something they do that for... So get booking!!!
I'm going to go skiing early next year I think. So going to start look for good deals

I'm 'relaxing' ahem for the last two months of this year then getting back on it in jan. this is month one and can honestly say so far I've felt the least mental as I have in previous months. Give me a few days tho and no doubt be squinting at non existant lines and dissecting hpt's to 'double check'.

I too think your periods sound normal sal
Mine start light for an hour or two then heaviest for 1 day (super tampon strength required, I soak through regular), then regular for two days then spotting for about another 3 or 4. Mine takes about 6 or 7 days. And sometimes my ewcm is mixed with period blood (gross I know) but I'm an early ovulator! Last period was so so dark blood which freaked me out a bit so will see what this one is going to do (due Sunday I think but not sure as not done any temping or opks this month).

Oh no Sal - thinking of you lots. It's just horrendous this fricking rollercoaster of emotions. Hope you're holding up ok.

To answer your question, I don't think your af sounds out of the ordinary. Though it took a few cycles to get back into some normality last time, I'd say the first day is usually quite crampy and after a bit of spotting, it goes to quite heavy straight away. Followed by 3/4 days of regular 3-a-day changes and then lightens up to a day or so of brown spotting. All in all, the whole process takes exactly 5 days for me usually.

HollyBen - I had my mc on 16th Oct, and got my af on Sat/Sunday so exactly 38 days later...or 5 and a bit weeks if you count it like that. I was getting worried, after my 1st mc in March, it was 34 days before my af. On both occasions I was over 11 weeks pg, and I know the longer you are pg for, the longer it takes for your uterus to repair itself afterwards which is why I think it's taken so long to get this one.

To be honest, had it taken much longer I would have gone back to the docs to see if they could have given me anything to induce it. If you haven't already then I would definitely go and see if there is anything they can give you. Also, take lots of vitamin C supplements as I read this helps to fix things a bit, I started taking it last week and maybe that's why af showed up for me. Good luck with it.

The mental part of ttc is definitely the hardest bit - and I say that after recently having my 2nd mc with no children at the age of 32. There's a fear that there is something wrong and no one wants to help you unless you've had 3 mc's, a fear that you can't have kids altogether when most of your friends are either pg, having babies, or even on their second or third child by now.

I have an amazing DH, but he has struggled with depression in the past and this latest mc has really been tough for him. It's so difficult, frightening and ultimately just really sad - but I'm not the kind of person to give up easily. Onwards and upwards ladies...we will get there. And when we do, it will be all the more spectacular.

well, what a busy weekend.

sal what a rollercoaster of a weekend you've had. biggest of hugs. At least you know that sperm is meeting egg though which is the first hurdle - if this is a indeed a chemical and not a sticky (i've analysed lots of charts of FF and temp CAN vary a lot during early pregnancy as i'm sure you know). Only a couple of weeks to recurrent mc clinic, and i'm sure that they'll be able to sort you out so that you get a bean that sticks in no time.

on the topic of periods, mine is generally "heavy" for one day meaning about the same as what you describe sal, then one or two days where I wear a tampon but it doesn't really need changing. by day 3/4 i'm just using a panty liner. I have always thought that this is quite light and am also worried about having a thin lining.

over how are you going? and you missp??

sundance that's so great that AF has FINALLY showed up.

fedup i'm understand exactly where you're coming from - it is cycle 10 (i think) for me too this month and nothing, nothing, nothing.... it's really getting me down.

So i mentioned the other day about my friend who's just got pg after 2+ years of trying. I met up with her hubby yesterday and he said that they'd had all the tests, she'd been on some hormones (not sure what exactly, he wasn't clear - but i'm guessing maybe clomid?) and nothing worked. In the end they gave up the hormones and she started acupuncture and chinese medicine. That's what worked in the end. Or else it was all a placebo effect and what worked was just giving it time...... To be honest that's probably the most likely, although it's not what project desperate wants to hear.
I'm sharing this story because i think it's nice to hear of success even after quite a while of trying.
What I find is the worst of this ttc lark is the not knowing. If someone could just tell me that yes, i'll get pg again but it'll take another year then I could just get on with my life and be ready when it happens. It's the bloody uncertainty of not knowing from month to month what is going to happen that gets to me the most.

sal your periods sound very like mine. I assumed they were light as I had been on the pill for so long. Saying that it took me 8 cycles to get a BFP a few years ago (which ended at 10 weeks) and don't remember them being any different or those post DDs birth, so maybe that's just how they are?

Oh and sundance glad AF has put in an appearance, hope she is not too bad too you. How long did you wait? Still no sign here -sigh!!!!

Fingers crossed for you sal. Really hoping it's not a chemical.

I keep telling myself what will be will be, but it is shit. Whilst I am genuinely pleased for those who are having babies or pregnant I am also jealous and think why them not me (not that I would wish this on anyone else). At the moment, almost 11 weeks post MC, I would love AF to put in an appearance so we can start TTC again. Though that in I self bring the waiting, hoping and disappointment. Then if you get a BFP there is a whole lots of worry and watching and worrying. That's what makes it so good being able to voice all those concerns on here.