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Youngest in school year vs. oldest?

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wispywoo1 · 24/10/2013 09:34

I had a mc 4 weeks ago and I am just coming to the end of my AF. Me and my DP would like to wait atleast another month however getting pregnant in November will more than likely lead to an August baby - ie youngest in the year. A December baby will probably lead to a September baby (assuming the baby is not early).

I've been weighing this up and understand that an August baby will mean a year less of childcare however I'm worried that the child would struggle academically. Does anyone have any experience of making this decision? I know that parental support is more significant than age however I know boys are often late bloomers/quite immature etc.

Also, another thing playing on my mind is being pregnant over Christmas. Quite a few of my family know I had a mc, if I an not drinking they will jump to conclusions and guess I'm pg. I don't mind them knowing I just don't want the whole "next Christmas when the babies here..." for it to end in another mc etc.

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wispywoo1 · 24/10/2013 12:13

oh you're all making me want to start NOW! Well, after AF...! Wink

Sorry to heart about your struggles eurochick. Fingers crossed for you for this round of IVF! I think I am just bring too optimistic assuming it will happen quickly. I have it in my mind that I will mc again though and really don't want it to ruin Christmas. Arrg why can't the men do all of this?

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eurochick · 24/10/2013 10:44

I actually waited a month to start ttc for this reason.

Now, three years on we are about to embark on IVF#4 around the time that would probably give us an August date, should we be successful. I couldn't care less.

fluffythelabcat · 24/10/2013 10:10

If I did happen to be very early pregnant at Christmas I would just say I am trying not to put too much weight on this year, I have been known to put on 5lb over two weeks at Christmas!! I have been cutting back during the 2WW then drinking after AF arrives so my friends don't know what to think!!

flymo79 · 24/10/2013 10:03

hey wispy and sorry for your mc. I've had this debate with friends who are on IVF and refused to consider an august baby, but another friend who has a very bright DD who is an august baby. My DP is also a primary teacher and says it's all nonsense. I would just go for it, you will be delighted to get your BFP whenever it comes. And as for chrimbo, it's something we've probably all thought about but for all the worry I've had about it no-one has yet said anything about me not drinking (I try not to in the 2ww, just to make sure I can more than anything!), and if your family know about your MC you can always just say you're being careful and they should understand...

fluffythelabcat · 24/10/2013 09:45

At this point I would just be happy to get that BFP but I understand your reservations. The cleverest person I know was a July baby (female though) so I think there are more important factors. I am also thinking about the Christmas issue, it is hard enough refusing drink at any time of year if you are usually a big drinker (as I am) but at Christmas it is nearly impossible if you don't want people to read into it!!