Fed up: TTC for a year - what am I doing wrong?

It'll be us soon shoegal. I always say this on the buses but since 90% of people conceive in 12 months and 95% in the second year, if you were a betting man, the 11monthers would statistically be your odds on favourite and there is a reason that 'the house always wins'.

This is my positive thought backed by solid science!

:-)

Oh and btw don't I have this image of a scientific journal headed 'relaxing when ttc - b*llocks!' Has me chuckling away! I think all journals should be as up front !

Thanks don't. I'm hanging in there. The BFPs make me believe though so I love the buses! And my mum is really amazing (despite 'relax' advice).

I'm positive because that's who I am but I am getting really scared ...

On nov 2nd I will be embarrassed by this post as I'll be pg and - as ever - mum will be right that I have nohing to worry about....

Good to talk to fellow long termers .... Really good! :-)

The "just relax" thing has been scientifically proved to be bollocks anyway. There haven't been a lot of studies but the ones they have done show that stress has zero effect on conception regardless of the multitude of people who knew someone who stopped ttc and got knocked up the next month. Grrrr.

I found the Buses really hard because most people on there are only in cycle 1/2/3 and getting bfps really quickly... I know there are some long timers on the October bus but I wasn't strong enough to be one of them....

Loving your positivity m33r, fingers well and truly crossed for you!!!

Btw shoegal do you go on conception 'buses'? They're good too for sanity!

Ohhhhhhhh, I see, I can stop blogging, tracking, opk-ing EVEN bloody dtd! All I need to do is relax! I also had not thought of that! Will start that tomorrow!

My mum said, I think you know too much. I'm 11minths down the line; if I didn't 'know' anything it would call into question my general intelligence and awareness!

As well as 'relaxing' from tomorrow, I will also 'unknow' my cycle, what EWCM is, how conception works etc!

So two helpful tips: relax! Unknow!

Sterling 'advice'!!!

Grrrrrrrrrr....

Rant over! I am positive. We will all be pg this month! This will all be a funny anecdote !

Fla la la la la la la!!!
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Thank you all so much! As always only place in the world you can ask ... And get an honest answer. So, if it comes to ttc next month (hopefully BFP 2nd nov) then my DH will think he's a hero ;-) (sick alert!: he is a hero!)

Thanks again girlies!

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Like the other poster said I think it just feels like you are really turned on I had told him I had used it .

As other have said best place to get preseed is amazon , my dh said he noticed a difference but not in a bad way.

I already had 2 DC, but DC3 took me 13 months of trying. I know that I already had children, that meant I was not as concerned about conceiving, I just figured I was getting too old.

M33r... He had no idea... He just thought I was really turned on... (He is a bit dense sometimes!).

I quite liked it... I must admit I found the every day for a week sex hard work so it helped it feel good which was a bonus!

We used preseed. it just feels wetter iirc! no need for DH to know if it would stress him.

I think it's designed to mimic natural fanjo juices ( the egg white type you're supposed to get around ovulation) which helps the spermies on their way.

Thanks dont. Sorry for personal question but does it feel different to you / DH? Might give it a bash but think it will stress DH out so would maybe just do it without consulting?

I'd completely forgotten about that... We didn't use preseed because I didn't want to wait for delivery (I think amazon sell it)... we used Balance Activ Conceive which you can get at most Boots. You do a couple of squirts up your fanjo before DTD... We used it for the first time on my BFP cycle....

soon how exactly does pressed work and where do I get it? Thanks !

shoegal that's rubbish about the gp. Mine kept telling me she 'wasn't an expert' WTF! Anyway, I just thought, yiu're def not an expert but I had to put up with you to get my referral which I now have. And as you say, by 2years if you have!'t conceived (this is statistically unlikely!!! So keep positive!), then you'll be eligible for ivf (in my area anyway).

My plan...

Get hosp appt and a. Find out what's wrong and get treated, or b. find out nothing is wrong. If b, then we'll opk, symptom spot etc until feb, then STOP and just live our lives until we are eligible for ivf. My reasoning is that I don't think its healthy to be doing this for too long ... Life is happening out there and I don't want to miss it and honestly at the moment I feel like my life is on hold. This is fine for now but not forever!

This is my month though so hopefully none of this will matter on 2nd nov! :-)

You aren't doing anything wrong but could I suggest preseed , I was ttc my ds for 8 months then got pregnant the first month I used it.

oh the bloody just relax myth.

and yes there IS a blood test which gives a good indication of ovulation, the day 21 tests ought to include this. I think it's a high progesterone level on day 21 (or more accurately, 7 days post estimated ovulation, which may not actually be day 21 for lots of women) that indicates ovulation. not sure what the figure needs to be.

hmm, unimpressive GP but at least you have a referral to get the proper tests done. good luck. Personally I wouldn't worry about that TSH level if everything else looks ok.

Hey guys,
This website is doing an online chat session about fertility and conception with some Fertility experts if you're interested?

Might be worth checking out... www.sprouts.co.uk/forum/Lunchtime-Forum---Ask-the-experts/Fertility--Conception

It is good news Shoegal, that your results were clear. I know it doesn't always feel like it, because you almost hope something is wrong, because then you'd have an answer - but nothing being wrong is a GOOD thing! But it's also a good thing that you're being referred even if you did have to fight for it - the more help you get the better!

I had acupuncture just before ovulation and just after, I had it a week apart, with ovulation somewhere in the middle. I got my BFP after the first attempt, but we had planned to do the same thing the next cycle, so definitely not once a week.

I agree that it does help mentall as well - but also its nice to feel like you're doing something, however small to help. I found that following the low carb, high protein diet as well - that it was good to feel like I was making positive steps.

And definitely try temping, it will really help you understand exactly when to DTD. Every other day for a month is epic!

Oh and the chances are you are ovulating. There is no way to know for sure without a scan, and it is possible to have a regular cycle and not ovulate - but this would be quite unusual. Temping will help reassure you that you are ovulating.