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How did you come to the decision to TTC?

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AutumnStar · 12/09/2013 14:04

Hi ladies. I have been looking at the MN Conception boards for a while and just plucked up courage to post! Just wanted to ask how you and your OH came to the decision to start ttc? I have wanted to for a while now but he wants to wait but knows I would be ready when he was iyswim.

So did you have 'the talk' or just randomly decide the time was right? Dont want to put too much pressure on OH bit dont want to wait forever either! Please share your experiences with me Smile!

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FoxMulder · 12/09/2013 16:31

I turned 30 and we panicked Grin

RaRaZ · 12/09/2013 16:28

We got pg unintentionally and had to have a termination for medical reasons. It nearly destroyed me and DP wasn't much better. We hadn't wanted kids imminently before that happened, but it made us realise how much we wanted them and we're ttc now (month five). We did have a real heart-to-heart about it on the beach at night on holiday - it was quite lovely really as we were right on the southern tip of Spain, looking out over the sea to Africa, and it was late, very dark, warm but breezy, and we were totally alone. We just cuddled up and talked over a bottle of wine and agreed to try for another baby asap.

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AutumnStar · 12/09/2013 14:48

Thanks for the replies ladies. I think he'd be equally happy having children as not, if that makes sense but we have agreed it will be on the cards. I think he likes our carefree life at the moment and keeps saying he'd like to wait a couple of years. Some days I agree and some days is just like to get on with it! Congratulations on your pregnancies!

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Writerwannabe83 · 12/09/2013 14:39

I don't know how it happened actually although we both always knew children would be on the cards one day.

I remember one random morning we were in the car and my partner said, "How would you feel if you got pregnant now?" I told him the truth, that I'd be devastated and would probably cry and he said that he would feel the opposite and would actually be really happy. I had no idea where it came from and took me quite by surprise.

Anyway, as we were planning our wedding we got talking again about children in relation to health problems I had, but again, only in a chit-chat sense, not actually making the decision to have one. However, 2 months before the wedding my husband had said, "Why can't we start trying for a baby now?" We couldn't because of issues of my health which I'd already explained to him about 100 times but it made me realise that he genuinely wanted us to conceive and was ready to make that step. So I put the wheels in motion of seeing my Consultants and having my Mirena removed etc and then 3 months after the wedding I got my BFP.

Has your OH said why he isn't ready yet?

woodwaj · 12/09/2013 14:36

I like this thread I am curious as to how men see it.

Personally a fair few of our friends announced pregnancies in a short space of time, another one was announced at work and I emailed OH saying hurry up and tell me your ready! and he emailed back saying he was! Who knew it was as simple as that!

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AutumnStar · 12/09/2013 14:05

excuse typos, on phone!

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