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Anyone tried Softcups?

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murielspark · 06/09/2013 10:24

Hello all,

I've heard good things about softcups for ttc. I was just about to buy some on amazon but then noticed that they're quite expensive. We've been TTC for 6/7 months now and we'd like to try anything that could help.

TMI, but oftentimes after we've done the deed, the spermies make a beeline for the exit and can be found milling around the wrong end of my vagina. This despite some expert anti-gravity sex positions and hubby staying in for a while after the event. So I figured popping a Softcup in there would keep them in the right place.

Do you think they're worth it? Any success stories? Smile

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valiumredhead · 06/09/2013 15:28

People use moon cups for this, better than soft cups I would imagine.

eurochick · 06/09/2013 15:25

kat gave you good advice. If you want to reject it, that's up to you, but it doesn't stop it being good advice.

95% of swimmers in a normal sample are duds. It is these that fall out. The good ones shoot up through the cervix. So buying a cup that holds defective sperm half way up the fanjo is about as much use as a chocolate fireguard.

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murielspark · 06/09/2013 14:59

Thanks RaRaZ Smile You're right that it certainly can't do any harm, and I'm also hopeful it could help because of specific things about us (I have hostile cm and a slightly oddly positioned cervix, apparently, and my DH is in his forties now so his sperm could perhaps use a little nudge, maybe). Something to hold the swimmers at the cervix is certainly better than knowing they're all spilling out straight afterwards like they were last night Blush

Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm guessing that people who don't take long to conceive would be more likely to dismiss products like Softcups as being unnecessary, because they didn't happen to need or use them, whereas those who are taking longer (like me at this stage) will be more open to new possible aids. I'm scientifically-minded and don't fall for scams or snake oil, so don't really see why the first poster had to put in me in my place like that Hmm

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RaRaZ · 06/09/2013 14:38

Hey Muriel. Sorry you feel bad right now, but don't be disheartened! There's been a lot of debate on here about ways to keep the sperm in after sex and whether it actually makes any difference, and I don't believe any definite conclusions have been reached either scientifically or on Mumsnet. However, it can't do any harm to try and keep them in, can it? Plenty of women swear by the legs-up-in-the-air method and some gynaes advise missionary or doggy as being best for conception. I guess the logic behind using a softcup, or mooncup as I know them, is the same. I used mine once this month when I had to jump up and head straight to work after a quickie - saved wet messy knickers at least! Blush

Best of luck - and if you think using a softcup may help, do it. Like I said, it certainly can't do any harm, and if it gives you confidence/positivity/etc, that's a bonus. If it gets you pg, mission accomplished. Good luck!

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murielspark · 06/09/2013 14:04

Thanks for your opinion. Maybe a tad tactless and patronising, but thanks. The reason I bought them is that there have been a lot of success stories (I realise these can be coincidence), and the company that makes them is currently applying to the FSA to be known as a registered fertility aid.

My phrase 'anti-gravity sex' was a joke. What I meant was that we weren't woman-on-topping the whole time or anything.

I feel like shit now to be honest, I thought this forum would be a bit more supportive Sad

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KatAndKit · 06/09/2013 12:49

They are pointless for ttc. They are for collecting menstrual blood. Healthy sperm that are capable of fertilizing an egg zoom right through yourcervix before you have finished you kiss and cuddle. What is left in your vagina is seminal fluid and dud sperm that fell at the first hurdle so there is no point letting them hang around up there. What is leaking out will also be the semen that the sperm were swimming in rather than the sperm themselves. Anti gravity sex is also not necessary, just do it however you enjoy. Lying down for a few minutes afterwards wont do any harm and anyway it isn't very romantic to leap right out of bed.

if you have money to spend on ttc i recommend using it on something proven to help such as ovulation testing or a clear blue fertility monitor.

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murielspark · 06/09/2013 12:36

Ah feck it, I just bought some Blush

I must have spent at least fifty quid on my uterus in the last week. It's got more gadgets than I have! Shock

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