Roll up Roll up it's the October BFP bus!

Hoping for some advice really. This is my first month of cheapy OPKs and today and yesterday had faint lines within the time frame. I know these aren't positives but I'm assuming I'm nearing O day??
I'm also temping this month and no rise yet, guess I have some more time to DTD.

Hello ladies can I jump on the bus please? Have been lurking for a while but not joined a bus yet.

fluffythelabcat ttc#1, cycle 3, BFP due 24th Oct

Am trying the 'relaxed' approach but it has got me nowhere so far so have caved and going to start temping this month. Am 34 years young.

Milk, I've just read about this online and apparently as long as you dh/DP has a good sperm count, doing it every day doesn't really have too much affect. ie, there are around 100 million sperm released on a normal day, if you wait at least 24 hours in between, there is little difference, something like, 88 million sperm. The website said it sounds a lot, but not on the grand scheme of it all, when only a few hundred get through.
It did, however, say that it you dtd every day for 7 days plus, it would start to have quite a dramatic effect.

I'm due ov this weekend I think, and we've dtd the last 2 nights with conceive plus as I knew dh would probably be out tonight, plus we'll dtd every night for 3 days tomorrow, where hopefully i will get my pos opk

Thank Bloumer and charleslingus

I was just contemplating whether there is anything in the idea of fresh/tired sperm?!

Sounds like you would both just get DTD-ing as much as possible - so on that basis I think I will too!

I'm not knackered by it, but DH might be! Still, a goal is a goal right!

We stopped on the day of the opk positive the last two cycles so definitely going to keep the momentum up the following days.

Will let you know how we get on!

Milk, we had that issue this cycle as we were determined to get lots of dtd in before ov, but obviously when ov hits you feel that you have to still keep going. We did, as 3 previous cycles been more relaxed with recharge time, and as you can see I'm still here, so it didn't work for us, so this time we kept going. Didn't want to regret not trying hard enough again. So can't really help you with whether it will work or not, but it'll make you feel like you haven't missed any window iyswim.

milk I'd try to dtd as much as poss in the 3 days following +opk (ie once a day at least). But we're not machines, so if you're feeling knackered I'd aim for at least twice this weekend (Sat am and Sun pm sounds good). Sperm live for up to 3 days (or is it 5?) so you'll definitely have some around for OV. I think dtd-ing more just means there are more of the little swimmers around, to up the chances of one completing the journey. Hope that helps!

Hello everyone!

Today I have a bit of a dilemma going on in my head, and where better to air it than here!

Prepare for TMI!

We DTD on Monday, Wednesday and yesterday and I'm expecting a positive OPK tonight, which I now understand means up to 36 hours before ovulation.
(Had faint line yesterday and cycle has been clockwork since I've been measuring!)

If you were me would you
a) get DH to perform tonight, tomorrow and Sunday (the poor thing!)
b) give him a rest tonight, try on Saturday morning and on Sunday night (more of a break between each)
c) try tonight and Sunday (break on Saturday)
d) any other combo?!

He's game and so am I, and I'm not sure if 'tired sperm' is an actual thing or if it is just tired DH!

DTD is definitely stronger with a longer break in between, but I don't want to miss our window.

I suppose the question is really quantity or quality?!

Any views?!

I LOVE Jessie's idea of telling everyone about a BFP at Xmas!

kemi fingers crossed October is your luck month. Have you been doing reflexology for long?

I had a reflexology session on Monday. it was meant to be around ovulation but it was a few days after. Not sure how much it can help with bfp this month but nonetheless it was a great feet massage.

kemi sorry about Af. Are you sure it's af?

choccy that's great that both of you can be home with dc. We both work full time and we don't have any family around so I have a couple of people that help us with DS, otherwise it would be impossible.

bloumer I hope you had a good flight. San Francisco. .. that sounds great!

one I'm very impatient and counting the days... 9 days to end of the 2ww.

wispax last month was very frustrating. I started testing 4 days before. I still don't understand if I got a lot of evaporation lines or if there was something going on but it didn't stick. It was a bit emotional so I think this month I will probably only test on the day if af doesn't show up before.

I hope next month I don't ovulate on Cd 10. I'll be away for work from cd3 and l will see dh on cd 11. Very slim chances for it to happen.

I'm so happy it's finally Friday!

Sorry to hear that kemie least you have short cycles so you can stay in this shiny October bus. Plus it's only spotting so might not be out yet FX

Fingers crossed Charles, sounds like a plan. Yes we're very lucky to be able to be able to bring children up ourselves aren't we! It's what we've always wanted to be able to do even if sometimes I think work might actually be easier! Don't know how I'd cope on my own sometimes when ds is a nightmare! Like now, he's currently wanting the ipad just because I'm using it!

So glad it's all going well tea, you've brought back lots of lovely memories about how exciting it all is, I'm even looking forward to giving birth (rose tinted glasses!) I'm grand thanks, feeling laid back for now!

Keep in touch!

Choccy I have 2 sons and me and my husband are able to take them to school every day and be around all the holidays. We do have a business,but we work from home and very flexibly and not much, so everything is done when they are at school. It is heaven and feel so lucky to be able to live like this.

If we are lucky this month we'll have a private scan so grandparents will get a surprise pic in their card. Love Christmas, this better bloody work.

And, it's great having the men at home isn't it . Hope he doesn't go too far for you at the wrong time though!

Aww Jessie, that would be great wouldn't it! A lovely Xmas pressie!
We only told the parents when we found out. I was about 6 weeks when we told them. We lived 3.5 hours away, and we found out 10th December. We went back the day before New Year's Eve as we were out with our friends back home for nye,cso we told the parents then.
We didn't tell anyone else until after 12 weeks though, even though I spent the whole nye trying to convince 15 people I was on antibiotics
My mum is a retired mw, and despite not knowing were trying, and we'd not made any hints about kids at all, as soon as I refused a choc chip cookie about 10 mins after getting to their house from ours, she said 'have you got something to tell me?' Wtf?

We got to see ds early jan as I had a bleed nye just to make matters worse so I was glad we told the parents as my mum sorted me with an early scan back at our then home

It would be a great Xmas present. I fell pregnant with ds in oct and we had a lovely snowy 12 scan a couple of days before Xmas :)

That sounds great choccy ! Early retirement! We are lucky that dp gets to pick and choose at his work which means lots of time off not working....But he is interested in taking another contract away from home again so hopefully will have bfp by then or else we will be juggling things around my ov time which makes things tricky!

I must say, we've just had the last 6 months off wispa, no phone calls, problems, people moving etc, so that was nice

I'm not having a 2WW so not going to test until at least after 9th Oct, preferably not until after 11th or so I say now

That's awesome choccy! Tons of risk and lots of work at times, though, so I wouldn't say you don't work.

Anyone on the bus planning to test early, or is everyone going to 'be good' and wait for your BFP date?

And bloumer, I think that is very romantic if you did conceive then x

Third guess lucky onelife, started 6 months after we started going out 16 years ago, just bought our 12th house
I 'retired' 4 years ago, him 7 years ago, hence we then started ttc our ds. We said years and years ago in a dream like voice how lovely it would be to have kids and be able to both look after them and take them/pick them up from school etc etc, and here we are
It's taken a lot of risks, but it's always paid off. We do run them ourselves though, so we do 'work' sometimes. We've just spent the last week painting and renting one out, so that's all done now. Next one due Nov/Dec, but we're letting our own house and moving ourselves, so less stressful . Can't wait, just bought our forever house, but needs a bit of work but it's bloody lovely!

Bloumer, lol, I love hats, but sadly no, I only have a few summer hats

LOL Bloumer that still sounds very fancy! At least you are up for a reason. I am just being really insomniacky tonight.

Chocky that sounds idyllic!

MrsB - I am finding the buses very supportive and a fantastic displacement activity too. We also haven't told anyone we are ttc either. I sort of want to but then the expectation every month/well meaning excitement might freak me out when I am disappointed when it doesn't happen