The Elderberry Pavlovas- All aboard the Berrycopter. Thread 14

kitty definitely instadiffed (trying a maximum of 3 months which is an instadiff in my book well actually I'd be of anyone who took less than a year) DPs mate told him when they started trying. Actually suggested it was a competition to see who could get diffed first .

thunder I've almost asked her a number of times, just can't bring myself to. Will have to ask DP to broach it but feel bad as I know he's hurting as well so didn't want to put that on him.

I can't shake it, just feeling so sad all the time. Had a lovely Saturday and an ok Sunday but it's all fallen apart again since. Pg colleague has started wearing maternity clothes and I almost started crying in the staff meeting. Cried all the way home instead .

barking hugs to you, i can only imagine how much harder this new development is making it for you in a way though, the fact you don't like her bc of her attitude almost makes it easier for you to feel alright about not being all that thrilled for her - easier to feel not-so-nice towards not-so-nice people, right?

hi pip how are things?

ho-hum day here; day 4 of clomid and I feel very "aware" of my pelvic region, almost like I have gas, but in the wrong place just feels strange, not painful but strange. How i miss the days when i didn't feel any obligation to pay so damn much attention to my body...

Hi berries!
How are you all? What have I missed?
puppy congrats!
Boo to sid and un-MN hug to barking

barking are you sure she instadiffed? Would it change how you felt if she'd been ttc for ages?

Morning!

Good to see you pip we missed you! Think you have only missed one BFP, our old friend puppy

How are you today barking? I agree with thunder, can DP just ask his mate to confirm things?

Hope you all have a good tuesday(the worst day of the week)!

Hi all,

barking that is so painful- I totally understand how upsetting it is. Can you ask her outright if she's pg? I think knowing for sure will help. It's still totally shit and not fair but I think it's easier to deal with facts rather than guessing.

Hi pip, not long til next cycle eh?

charming my boss told me to be less impatient! Ft like saying 'you should take a leaf out of my book love and maybe you'll get things done!'

charming barking I like my fb idea better where she constructs an alias but uses some kind of porn name!!! Think of the fun we could have naming you!

bunny the copter is a bit like an ark atm but we definitely have an opening for a rabbit!

barking I really don't know what to say either but I wish I could make it go away

Hi pip this is my first month back ttcing, so being hopeful (and a bit scared)!!! hope you doing ok, you back on the ttc bus soon, or not quite yet??

Hello Ladies, Sorry I've been away but I've been taking a bit of a break from TTCing.

What news? Have you all got your BFPs?

Oh barking I just want to give you a big hug x

Thank you MrsW.

Foody it's just horrible. Withdrawing isn't going to be very easy as this would mean withdrawing from the whole social group and would make me very isolated, we do loads together as a group, usually seeing them at least twice a week. DP and his best mate speak and meet up all the time. Not to mention that this is DPs best man and we're getting married in 5 months. I don't even like the woman as she can be a complete bitch to other people, which makes it harder.

DP is home but he doesn't really get how much worse this is, the matching of dates, than everything we're already dealing with anyway.

Barking I don't have any useful strategies or suggestions. I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you; it is such a difficult situation. Be gentle with yourself.

Oh barking, how horrid!

Its a F night mare isn't it? Sorry its so overwhelming, just let it take its course and let it all out for now. I have unfortunalely had pretty similar stuff to cope with, with close differs and very small babies. I did not think i would get through it and had some really dark moments. But the agony does ease and being around them is almost nice sometimes! I remember well counting the number of times a day I had cried and how long I had gone without crying and being totally shocked by how overwhelmed I would be next time. they do get further apart though and cut a bit less deeply sometimes.

I withdrew reluctantly from those it hurt to be around - just for a while as you need time to get through this without extra triggers if you can help it.

I have found I am better now I have started ttc again, but my MC was in May so it has been a bit longer. I never thought I would feel positive about any of this again, and at one point I was ruling out TCC again as it was too painful to comtemplate.
But here I am planning a 4th night of seduction (trying to stay awake!) and clinging hopefully on.
Biggest hugs on their way to you, is DP at home??

Looking good for frogs too then?!

I'm having a shit day . Was kinda holding it together until suspected pg wife of DPs best mate pulled out of yet another social event incompatible with being pg . Really upset. This is DPs best man. He confided in him when I had the mc and he didn't say anything. He's probably trying not to upset us but it's not helping. Managed two days without crying and now I'm a mess again. In tears and shaking. I hate her, I really do. We were trying for 22 months and she goes and instadiffs. It would have been amazing for DP and his best mate to have this shared experience and now we've got to sit and watch them have what we both want more than anything, at precisely the same time that we should be having the experience ourselves. All those keys dates - including our wedding, she'll be there with the bump I'd pictured myself having. How do I handle this?

Fingers and paws crossed bunny

Just found this one sid www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1793238-Could-I-be-pregnant-and-not-know-it

really very ahhh!! poor love either way but this thread has been going for months!
have replied, but kind of wish i didn't now, dont need something else to get into (sausage wangs self)

So first a kitty then a puppy, could this be an animal based cluster?!?

Sore throat from shouting at the children today. Feedback from deputy was that I need to be more jolly. She did say more than that, but that was the upshot. Didn't bring any work home tonight in an effort to be more jolly tomorrow. Ha!
barking I know you are avoiding fb, but I have a good method of not seeing any babies, but still enjoying our group there. Do you use an app or on puter? If on the app, just leave it on the berry page and don't log in to your newsfeed.
Had a nice chat with fc nurse, who purposely called me late due to teaching. She didn't really answer my questions about the pessaries, so I'm hoping that I won't need them. We shall see. Cd 33 here and no sign of ov, so hoping they'll give me what they gave boom to start af so I can get going with clomid. They'll let me know on Thursday.

Off to eat dinner and relax now. Bid you all adieu x

Had one last yr cos of repeated dodgy smear tests, always normal after the second one but had a few in a row. biopsy last yr was normal so this is just a routine follow up

puppy how come you had a colposcopy booked? I had one once but for cervical ectrophian ?sp

blind not rung the fc yet. waiting til I poas on friday til I do that! Not sure about a scan, doubt it 'cos we havent done any ivf aa such yet, just sperm and blood test and filled all the forms in. we were waiting til Oct to start.

Also got a colopscopy booked for next week so that will be (hopefully!) cancelled too!

Ill hold ur paw! I feel a bit more relaxed this eve but still not really believing yet!

Ugh sid threads like that can drive you crazy!!!

Hey foody check you out queen shagger

I'm a bit blah today to be honest, feel like I'm getting a cold and still haven't found my positive vibes ref FC!

Busy, busy, busy, but ok!

OH on long day today, finishes at 9pm, will get in 10.30 if he gets the bus, 9.30 if I pick him up.
Think I should pick him up as I need to entice him into bed again this eve and maybe tomorrow just to be sure (have managed last 3 nights in a row .
May be an occasion for rather silly or naughty pants!

How you doing bunny?

Best Monday I've had in ages, how 'bout yours?

Kind of nervous though as tonight is clomid day 3 and I have what feels like the beginning of a massive cramp. Is this normal? Anyone?

Also, has anyone seen the thread by the lady asking if anyone else had had 'periods' during pregnancy? Good way to send a person's paranoia into overdrive!!

Hello peeps, how was Monday?