The Elderberry Pavlovas- All aboard the Berrycopter. Thread 14

Oh barking, having to deal with the staff's sympathy reactions is just awful. I will remember that myself from the time and j just wanted to run away and not have to look at anyone.

You have done the hardest bit now, I promise it is up from here. Of course it won't feel like it straight away but you will start to heal from now. Just don't rush it. And good idea- share with everyone you need to share with. There's nothing else to say other than miscarriage is so shitty and utterly unfair. You are not alone and anything you feel is fine and natural so don't fight anything. Just go with it and look after yourself and each other.

so sorry barking you're in all our thoughts today xx

Oh barking honey, I have been thinking about you all morning and just had to slyly log on at work to see how it went, I am so so sorry it is the news we were all dreading for you.
Take it easy this week, you and DP look after each other, things will get better eventually, hugs xxx

Nothing really to add Barking, just so sorry to hear your news.

kitty you have a pm.

Thank you all. Just managed to snap at mum on the phone who was trying to say the right things but failed miserably .
DP has bought me lots of fruit and chocolate and is going to feed me lunch then go back to work for the afternoon. He's hurting lots and needs to keep busy. I'm in no fit state to leave the house yet as I keep bursting into tears, but as you've all said, surely this has to be the worst day. I know all the bumps and babies are going to be 100 x more upsetting at the moment, but nothing can come close to the woman turning the scan screen round and just saying 'I'm sorry'. I've hit rock bottom, it's all up from here, right?
DP and I are in agreement that we don't want to keep it a secret, so we're going to tell the people who would be likely to notice there was something up. I've just spoken to the deputy at work and asked her to tell everyone what is happening. If I end up running out of the classroom in tears, people need to know why..... With colleague's bump growing daily, I can't imagine it's going to be easy .

I'm so sorry, barking. Expecting horrible news doesn't make it any less horrible when it comes. I hope you and your DP can look after each other today.

barking I'm so so sorry . Was really hoping everything would turn out ok. Thinking of you loads xxxxx

barking I'm so sorry - not the news you wanted, however much you were expecting it.
As others have said, MN is here for you if you need it, but take yourself away if you prefer.
When you're ready, there is lots of very sane and helpful advice here too:
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
Hugs and

So sorry to see your sad news Barking. It seems there are some wise Berries who have been through this who I hope you can lean on for support along with your OH xxx

So sorry Barking, thinking of you. I can't add anything to the lovely comments and advice given by the berries. Take care of yourself. X

Sending lots of hugs your way barking. I hope you are getting lots of support on what must be the worst of days. Take time to rest and recuperate.

I know this is the last thing you want to hear as you wanted 'this baby' at 'this time', but it does prove that everything works and you and your OH can make a baby, at least try to take a little comfort from that. You will get their.

Just shut yourself away from the world today and concentrate on getting yourself better. Happy to provide or just a hand to hold or a shoulder to lean on.

barking I'm so sorry too. Sending you a massive hug, it is so hard. You may not be able to see it now but there are bright things ahead for you. In the meantime this is your time to be exceptionally kind to yourself and take it all very steady.

I'm so so very sorry barking Huge hugs to you both. About to meet my boss but I'll write a longer message later. Take care.

Oh barking, I am just so sorry. It's one thing to expect it but another to have it confirmed. Please take care of yourself. You and your DH have suffered a loss and it will take a while to get your equilibrium back. Sending lots of warm thoughts your way, take as much time as you need, we are here for you if you need to talk about it, or about anything else if you'd rather

I'm so sorry lovely. What a horrible time for you. There aren't really any words that will help. I hope DH is wrapping you up in cotton wool and going through this with you xxx

Barking I'm so sorry, expecting it doesn't cushion the blow at all when you finally get that news. Take some time for yourself, cry as much as you need to, make sure DP is there and support each other. It's horrible, today is the worst and the next few weeks will be tough, but I promise it does get better eventually. Completely understand if you want to take yourself away from MN for a while, but equally we're here for you if you need us xxx

Oh Barking I'm so, so sorry. Between lessons but didnt want to read and run. Is your DP there with you for the day? Take the time you need to grieve and take care of yourself. As always we are here when you need us xxx

It was the worst news . Didn't seem to help that I was expecting it.

Barking I would be screaming at people by now so I hope am sure you are much calmer than I would be. Can you use the time to annoy the pregnant ladies (who will all have full bladders) by pouring yourself lots of glasses of water and making sure the running water sound is very loud as you do so? (Potentially inappropriate to attempt to make you smile at this point). Hugs (())

Still waiting for the scan.....

Oh arse bunny its just not fair

So when is your appointment? You do have one don't you?

I think so thunder I tend to get a bit of spotting a few days before the witch arrives proper!