The Elderberry Pavlovas- All aboard the Berrycopter. Thread 14

Omg Boom!! Congrats!

And official MN congrats to Kitty too

I third that Barking is utterly amazing

Wow! Congratulations kitty! That's brilliant news. And boom, what is it they say about buses?!

Barking, I'm so sorry that your fears were confirmed. I hope everyone was right and that this is the lowest point, and everything is up from here on in. I don't know if it is actually any comfort, but I know that for me all the TTC was hellish because I was so sure that it would never ever happen for me, that my body just wasn't built the right way, but you know now that yours is. You clearly can get pregnant, so it will happen again. It seems that mc are scarily common, so it's a very lucky person who never experiences one. Hopefully this will be your only heartbreak, and things will just get better.

I second that lol, barking you are amazing! X

Barking what a wonderful person you are. Pushing for good news to be shared so as to liven up the thread.
Congratulations boom. god help you with one baby on each boob
How u keeping barking?

No barking anything but that! Ok, ok, for anyone who may have missed it, found out today we're expecting twins !

Do I need to send a threatening pm to you too Boom?!

Oh I thought you meant another BFP, that's old news

Come on boom

Errrrm yes I think someone may have something(s) rather EPIC to share.

Oh Kitty!!!

Now you will have a kitten! We should get MN to do a kitten emoticon.

Come on Boom, spit it out .

Errr...really? Who?

Nice one kitty, I'm so happy for you . You go and make sure that helicopter pilot knows where to come back to when he's safely dropped off the current load of berries .

Oh Crikey not another one

Haha!!! And a little birdie tells me someeone else might have something to share...

Congrats kitty!! That's amazing!!

Wow kitty I am incredibly but so very too x

Hooray Kitty, been waiting for you to own up all day! MN official congratulations!!

*tears

Well barking has threatened to out me anyway so for those of you that don't know my iui actually worked! After 2 1/4 years, countless years and bfns I finally have my bfp!!! Keep thinking I will wake up in a minute!

Barking, I tried to post earlier it for some reason my work computer wouldn't let me

I am so very sorry. I have no experience MC but thinking about grief more generally, I think you can bet it's not going to be smoothly uphill from here. It'll grab you unawares, but as long as you are prepared for that and let yourself grieve you will get there.

Also, you might want to not think about this now or put it aside for a few weeks, but one important thing is that now you know you can get pregnant. Your body can do that. You are not now facing the special bitterness of never. Not now, but not never. It is not impossible that you will have a bump on your wedding day.

Regardless, take care of yourself and don't think too far ahead, just getting through is important now.

Yes barking hang around with us, come sit under the warm and comfy duvet with me x

thunder I didn't answer your question earlier, yes FC appt is a week today!!!

How are peeps today?

Oh bark I've had shivers down my spine reading your post. I too had the "I'm sorry" scan and I will never forget it. But this is absolutely the hardest part and hopefully the bleeding will cease soon.
Look after yourself and hang around us

I've spent all afternoon 'talking' by email to someone I know fairly well but see rarely as she lives a long way away. She's been great and I'm feeling a little calmer now.

I'm officially off facebook but I would like to hang around here and rant intermittently if no-one minds too much? I don't want to make the thread all doom and gloom, and I'll be back with some pretty lighting for the yellow brick road come end of October-ish when we should be able to start trying again. I've been reading through the miscarriage threads but I think trying to join one would make me wallow too much so I'd rather stay with the berries, especially as so many of you have already been where I am anyway and have been absolutely amazing.

What we need now is some good news to cheer us all up and make us only a tiny bit [jealous] as a berry bfp is always something to celebrate .

Anyway, there's a spare seat for someone in the 'copter that I've left a lovely comfy cushion on and ev'ryfin.

barking yes, that is the worst part - that exact same moment with the scan is the bit I still remember most vividly, and is still the most upsetting. It's up from there, or at least it was for me.
We had some falling out with family as well - people can be so clumsy with their words, and don't know what to say. But they will get over it, and will hopefully realise in time what it all means, when you're better able to talk about it. But good idea to get a few people to tell others, so you don't have to have that conversation individually with everyone now.
+1 to keeping busy - it seemed to help my DH a lot to do some 'normal' things with his friends, and although I didn't feel like doing anything, my parents came to visit soon after and took me out for the day, which was a really good distraction.
for you and do whatever makes you comfortable today.