How many times did it take you to get pregnant?

Dc1 got pregnant on the pill, never missed a single one either!

Newly pregnant with dc2, second cycle. Dtd 4 times.

We DTD 2x on the same day, so I count that as once iyswim. About 3 days pre ovulation too as we weren't trying. It is only when I felt my ovulation I thought, hmmm that was a bit risky wasn't it and then thought, oh no I am too old to catch that quickly, especially as when I was trying on purpose last time it took me a year!

I've only really had regular periods when I was on the pill, so no idea about when I ovulate really. With ds we decided one month that maybe having a baby would be nice had quite a bit of sex (3/4 times) over two weekends and were very surprised when I was late and ds was on his way.

dd was a total accident, conceived on Christmas morning when ds was 8mths and had just stopped breastfeeding. I think it was the only time that month!

We were then very very careful until dh had the snip.

What periodmath said, add into that the fact that the egg may not be of good quality, or that conception occurs but the cells do not divide properly, or that there is a genetic problem with the embryo, or that implantation fails to take place correctly, etc, etc. There are so many things that can go wrong it is actually a miracle we get pregnant in the first place! I think the stats are something like a 25% chance each month.

VJONES, with all due respect you really need to chill out! You are so early in your TTC journey that there is no point in winding yourself up so much. Yes it does take some couples a long time to conceive and yes it is hell but those are the odds some people are dealt and you just have to get on with it. Chances are you will be in the majority and conceive within a year but you will do yourself no favours if you allow yourself to get so stressed about it all.

VJones, some sperm swim in the wrong direction (too proud to ask for directions). Some stop off way before the egg to have a rest, have a look around (lazy, unfocused). Some do meet the egg but don't fancy her and move on (harsh). Some see the egg, decide to have a go but by the time they've sidled up to her she's...um...died.

See? It's a tough world

Notta I suppose that sounds like a lot of DTD for me! Since I came off the pill I have used an app to track my periods & I also started logging every time we DTD. So for information: Cycle 1 - 20 times, Cycle 2 - 12 times, Cycle 3 - 12 times, Cycle 4 - 11 times, Cycle 5 - 14 times & a BFP.
We had regular sex and never particularly concentrated on ovulation time as I was never very sure when that was. I decided in my head to try & keep it relaxed until I got to around cycle 6/7 & then start looking at OPKs, temping, etc.
I feel very fortunate that it didn't get to that stage.
Good luck all!

Came off pill one month and pregnant the next .....
that was 25 years ago , been very carefull since

Your hormones just need to regulate themselves and your ovaries need to learn how ovulate again I guess? Or something along those lines?!

It will happen, it just might not be as quickly as you'd like x

I won't be able to cope with waiting for months/years. But at least I can convince myself it's all down to the pill.

I'd be exactly the same VJ - I know the statistics say it can take up to a year to conceive but my common sense would be screaming "Why though??!"

However, the factor you have on your side is that you have been on the Pill so there is a very valid reason why it hasn't happened straight away. The Pill can delay conception for quite some time and so you can put it own to that. It may just be a waiting game unfortunately

Or perhaps DH's sperm doesn't live very long at all..?

See what I mean?

And this is when my natural worrying kicks in and I start wondering if I'm actually ovulating, etc. Must.stay.calm.

Enjoying the view?

I read as well that it can take the sperm up to 7 hours to reach the Fallopian tubes and the egg - and that a very high percentage of the sperm die on the journey.

There are some really interesting educational videos on YouTube about conception

Exactly. What are the spermies doing if they're not swimming into the egg?

I completely agree VJ - I don't understand these things either. I don't understand why if sex is done around ovulation the woman doesn't get pregnant??

There must be a number of factors that influence if conception takes place.

Common sense says if you were DTD that often, and every day over your ovulation time, then of course conception would occur?!

Why doesn't it work like that though?
It honestly baffles me how it happens so easily for some women but not for others?!

See, it just blows my mind how someone doesn't get pg if they're dtd at the right time! I know it's a dumb thing to say but we dtd at the right time,it didn't work and I couldn't make sense of it, ha ha!

Well, me and my husband don't have a very active sex life, we never have done really.....but his sperm definitely aren't idle, haha.

In fact he hasn't stopped talking about his super sperm since the BFP.
Men, it's always about them

First time prob 2-3 times a week, got pg first month. Had no idea when I was ovulating as just come off pill and hadn't had periods for years.

Second time - once - I understood more about ovulation, didn't do tests or anything but as soon as I stopped the pill I kept an eye on discharge (sorry tmi) and dtd as soon as I noticed a change to ovulation type. Pg straight away.

Aware we're v lucky (though dh was rather disappointed as he'd agreed we could ttc dc2 on the basis he'd get more sex while we were ttc - oops )

Hope all goes well for you

Writer - yep, it's possible. And also possible that not having sex often enough leads to idle, 'old' sperm! Who knows?!

Don't think have ever ttcd as such - more stopped t not tc! I think it was just the once over my fertile period though. Find it really easy to pinpoint when I'm ovulating as get horrendous pain for an evening and feel extra rampant in the few days beforehand and the raging pmt begins almost immediately afterwards

Maybe there is something in the myth that regular DTD reduces the quality of the sperm?? Stop jumping him every other day and just focus on your fertile time

Oh, we didn't, we just did it and it felt normal. I mean,it's all ttc sex, it's just that sometimes it's necessary and sometimes it isn't. Despite the more relaxed approach I want this cycle, sex during my fertile period is gonna have to be prescribed to an extent otherwise it could be missed conpletely!

I found it really weird having TTC sex - me and DH just kept laughing whilst trying to do it. It just seemed so awkward!

Katekate Your words have filled me with so much joy :) This month (our first month) we did the same as you did in the first month and today I got af (a week early, I might add). Have been through so many emotions but I think next cycle we will be more relaxed.

Nottalotta No way, we usually do it a couple of times a week! Have enjoyed doing it more often but it deffo felt more strained sometimes so wanna be more relaxed this time :)

First time, once. Second time 3 or 4 times.