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Natty1806 · 2006-06-14T12:25:23+00:00

Hi Just thought as there was a thread for the older mums (there words not mine)[smile] that i would start one for the younger ones. Think AF is on her way (fingers crossed) as i normally have 48-70 cycles this will be my first one at 34/35 days - yippee. It probably won't happen now, anyway feel free to write away. TTC 11 month - waiting for appoinment at fertlity clinic.

Xavielli · 14/07/2006 09:07

Hey PicknMix.

Having a baby really is a life changing event and no one can stress to you how much so. However, it is the best thing that has ever happened to me, yes it is hard work, but as Natty says, the pros heavily outweigh the cons.

Me and DP decided we wanted children at some point but both our babies were happy little accidents (I should say gifts from God) and I wouldnt for a moment have had it any other way.

DP is the only one in our relationship that works, we have no savings and he only earns roughly £200 per week... Our babies don't want for anything. You don't need half the things people tell you you will. Just a few sleepsuits/baby grows, somewhere for them to sleep, pushchair, bottles (steriliser is an option not a necessity, pan of boiling water does the same thing) nappies and cotton wool, and when they are about 2 months old get a play gym. Before 6 months feeding them only costs £6 per week, unless you breast feed of course, then its free, something I have failed to do both times, but hey, thats life.

I really feel, as someone who was trust (not entirely unwillingly) into motherhood that no, there is no right time. Whenever it happens you will enjoy it because they bring out a part of you that you wont have used before and you will love that you can cope and that you know what is best for the little alien in front of you.

It is not easy, no one says it will be, but it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done. I dont miss pubbing and clubbing and I dont care that my friends rarely come to see me anymore, because the people who I really like spending time with are now my children.

Yes, it is life changing and no, there is no right time (see now why couldnt I have just typed that in the first place?! lol)

Nicki10 · 14/07/2006 08:35

Hi PicknMix I agree with Natty I have always wanted a family and I've always been very sure of that but I still have days where the thought of becoming a mother terrifies me and I doubt my ability to be a mother.

I also think that everyone worries about the financial side, we have a baby fund which we each put money into every month. But regardless of how much money you earn, you really can have a baby on a small budget (they don't know whether their clothes are cashmere or cotton!)

The pros definitely outweigh the cons for me. Hope this helps and welcome

xxx

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Natty1806 · 14/07/2006 08:07

I sometimes think, will i be able to afford to have a baby, will i cope with someone needing me 24/7, but i think the pros outweigh the cons (well doubts)

Like you say it is only you who can make the decision. x

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PicknMix · 13/07/2006 22:05

Hi to everyone. I'm new to this so please excuse me for jumping in?!

I'm 26, DH 28 and we are beginning discussions about TTC our 1st baby.

I'm hoping all of you can give me a bit of advice!??

DH is really quite desperate to start a family, however I am still a bit unsure. What I really want to know is this - is there ever a 'right' time to start? DH seems so sure in what he wants (even though we have nowhere near enough money IMO) but I just don't know.

I have a beautiful Godson and a neice and newborn nephew and I love spending time with them but the thought of changing my life so drastically terrifies me!!!

I know I'm the only one who can really answer this but I'm interested in other opinions.

Sorry, ramble over.....

MrsMcJnr · 12/07/2006 12:43

Hello ladies, I am just keeping quiet and seeing what happens, I think DH is enjoying all the action and though we discussed TTC this Christmas, he thinks that means I'll get pg immediatley! So I don't really feel as if I am deceiving, just dipping a toe in the water if you like! Still now sure what the body is up too, felt awful yesterday, really bloated and grumpy and I'm spotty, not had spots for years, they are all on my chin. Sound gorgeous don't I!?! It'll be 4 weeks on Fri since I came off the pill so I know it is really early days for me! Good luck to you all and fingers crossed!

MrsMcJnr · 12/07/2006 12:43

Hello ladies, I am just keeping quiet and seeing what happens, I think DH is enjoying all the action and though we discussed TTC this Christmas, he thinks that means I'll get pg immediatley! So I don't really feel as if I am deceiving, just dipping a toe in the water if you like! Still now sure what the body is up too, felt awful yesterday, really bloated and grumpy and I'm spotty, not had spots for years, they are all on my chin. Sound gorgeous don't I!?! It'll be 4 weeks on Fri since I came off the pill so I know it is really early days for me! Good luck to you all and fingers crossed!

Nicki10 · 11/07/2006 17:34

Try things like I won't winge about you watching the football, rugby or tennis for a year. Seems to work for me

bubblez · 11/07/2006 17:31

hmmmm bribery, must try that one!

Fingers crossed for you Nicki...xx

Glad you're feeling ok today Natty...xx

Hope that there will be some BFP's on this thread too...

Nicki10 · 11/07/2006 17:06

Hey Everyone

Well we are defineatly getting to it! I'm on CD13. So fingers and legs are crossed at the moment!. I know Natty I get so excited when people get BFP's that I call my DP who really isn't anywhere as near as excited about some stranger who is now pregnant!! He thinks i'm mad.

I agree it's time for someone on this thread to get a BFP. Have you thought about Bribery Bubblez? This has worked a lot for me in the past!

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Natty1806 · 11/07/2006 16:41

Afternoon All

I am okay today,love it when there are BFP's on MN, we are yet to have one on this thread though.

So all of you ovulating at the mo, get to it so we can have one on here.

I am really happy for the people who get BFP but part of me is as i want it to be me so much.

Anyway hope everyone else is well. x

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bubblez · 11/07/2006 16:18

Hiya all,

Natty and Nicki - DP is still as undecided as yet. Maybe I should start a "my dp is leaving me in limbo" thread or "how do I shake off this burning desire to have another child" thread. CD9 today and was so hoping to at least start trying this month. How are the both of you anyway?

How is everyone else getting on with TTC??

Good luck to you all BTW.

MrsMcJnr · 11/07/2006 11:16

Hello all, sorry I have been away a few days, home computer is on the blink and have been out of the office!

I really admire all your exercise efforts. I am useless, even before my wedding I was useless and put on 5 pounds the week before! After our honeymoon, I now have 2 stone to lose rather than the 1 to be the weight I would like to be again (9 stone 12). DH could do with losing a bit too, not from an appearance perspective, I think he's gorgeous (I would) but from a health one.

We need to cut down on the booze too but I guess we are only 3 weeks into even thinking about babies (me much more than him!)

How are you all?

aprilmeadow · 10/07/2006 19:50

Hi,

Well it's all go on the baby making front . DH has almost managed to get over his fear of trying for another baby. He gets quite worried after bd'ing, so we have to not mention what the outcome could be.. Last night was our anniversary (not wedding, but 'since we got together') 7yrs, so quite a good way to celebrate. Just worked out that i am CD13, so i guess its the right time and i have to just wait it out for 2weeks and see if AF arrives.

Nicki10 · 10/07/2006 19:44

Yeah thats a bonus but I've just eaten to much and I am now rolling around the house complaining! So that will make it interesting

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Natty1806 · 10/07/2006 19:42

No appointment is not until 31st. Have fun bding at least it is not that hot yet.

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Nicki10 · 10/07/2006 19:40

Hi Everyone

I am on CD12 so it's all go on the BDing front, I've got terrible cramps and pulling sensations in my lower stomach so i'm hoping this is just me OVing.

How is the persuading going Bubblez? Is it your appointment tomorrow Natty?

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Natty1806 · 10/07/2006 14:33

Hi

Am on CD26 really don't think i have ovulated so just waiting for AF to arrive, was 35 days last month but can be up to 70 days. Have sore ish boobs, achy period pains and felt sick this morning which is usally how i feel before AF arrives.

Just counting down now to the fert appointment so i am focusing on that.

Hope everyone else is well, have you presuaded DP yet bubblez?

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bubblez · 10/07/2006 14:12

How are everyone else getting on then??

bubblez · 10/07/2006 11:43

LOL - dont wory Xavielli I didn't read it as bitchy

Heya Natty - No I'm not pgnant (still trying to convince dp to have no2) but I do want to fall pgnant in the next few months. If I dont fall by oct I will have to give up (personal reasons) or if dp point blank refuses. Which BTW he hasn't he is just leaving me in limbo.

Finished AF three days ago and am on CD7 so have a few precious days before OV to talk dp round.

I have been hanging around, reading the Twiglet thread, but it takes me a while to pluck up the courage to post on any thread. And as dp is undecided I don't want to post on too many pre-conception threads just in case he trashes my plans.

EvesMama · 09/07/2006 20:21

aprilmeadow · 09/07/2006 20:17

thank you - knew it would be a simple thing

EvesMama · 09/07/2006 20:01

i was 25 when startet ttc with dd, it took a full year and i found out i was expecting the weekend after i booked ferrtility tests at docs!!!

dont know wether he was more happy i was up the duff or that he didnt have to squirt into a teeny bottle!

we'd just moved house too so that had stopped me stressing about ttc and you know what they say..new house...

yeah just move thatll sort you out

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Natty1806 · 09/07/2006 19:57

CD 1 would be the first day of your period and then you just continue counting. HTH

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aprilmeadow · 09/07/2006 19:44

Hello, is it ok if i join in...
Stats:
Me: 25
DH: 27
DS:14mths

We decided 3weeks ago that we would start trying for no.2. We fell pg with ds on first attempt (5weeks after getting married), but know that just because it happened first time that it might not be that easy 2nd time around. I am quite lucky that after having ds my AF's returned back into a 28 day cycle. We have kind of decided to leave it fate and perhaps if nothing happens after 6mths then we might try a more structured bd'ing routine

Natty - my ds has the same name as your doggy

Daft question, but when you say 'CD9' when is that calculated from? Always wondered but never asked.

Nicki10 · 08/07/2006 10:45

Don't worry Bubblez I'm really not that good I do go to the gym but because I enjoy it but we do regularly have 3 take aways a week or eat out, I think we probably only cook once and week for ourselves! Very Bad!

This will have to change when our little one arrives (have to fall PG first!) we won't be able to do that.

I'd love a dog Natty but DP says we are not having both so I obviously went for the baby option and am working on him for the dog!

What is everyone up to this weekend? I am currently at work please cheer me up by letting me know the nice things you are doing