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Ttc after an early miscarriage, any advice appreciated

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/08/2013 17:00

hi everyone, my husband and I were delighted we'd conceived baby #3 3 months after having my mirena removed. Unfortunately I miscarried at around 6 weeks, my bleeding started on 6th July and ended on 15th July, my hcg levels never got above 143 so they left my system pretty quick, by the 18th I was having bfn at the drs. I wondered when should I expect my AF? before the mc I was always 28 days bang on! I have had no symptoms for AF, although I have had really bad heartburn for 4 days, this was my first symptom last time too, so could I be pregnant? I'm useless at working out dates and cycles and ovulation etc..... we bd'd on 15th July and have been pretty consistently b'ding every other night since then with the exception of a couple of days. when should a test show bfp given all these dates? thanks for taking the time to read, hope someone has some advice for me x

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greeneone12 · 07/11/2013 20:33

MrsA and NellyOC I am so sorry for your loss. I haven't been around as we have had various issues going on family wise. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that all gets back to normal quickly so you can start again when the time is right. So very sorry :(

lucyfluff I know every doctor is different but mine told me it could take up to 3 months to come back but to check back with him if I hadn't had AF after 8 weeks.

NellyOC · 07/11/2013 10:00

So sorry MrsAnderson. My positive turned out to be a molar pregnancy so I'm off to have it removed today. I've put a thread on to see if anyone else has had one and can offer advice. I've not posted earlier as have just been dealing with all of this.

Good luck MrsAnderson I hope it happens for you soon xx

lucyfluff · 07/11/2013 09:45

Hi ladies, would you mind if I joined your thread?! If you have any advice it would be greatly appreciated too Smile

I had an early mc on the 4th oct @ 4+4...that would have been dc4 :( Bled heavy for two days then spotting for two so over pretty quick. Neg test a week later and started again ttc. Only now im on day 35 with no AF?? Has anyone on here experienced late af post mc?

I have poas today and bfn. Last week I had ov symptoms cramps and sore nips so Im maybe guessing it took a while to ovulate again and I will have a crazy cycle??!!

Sorry for long post and I will have a read through the thread to catch up Smile

Leons · 06/11/2013 20:36

Hello MrsA. It is quiet isnt it. I have been lurking but had nothing new to post so hence the silence. So sorry about your poor son, hope he gets well very soon. I had a scan last week due to irregular bleeding since my last mc in August, and it was all clear. Hoping my next cycle is normal as I havent been ttc, but the plan is to start next month.

When you say its your final attempt, do you plan on taking a break for a year or something or giving up completely. I know what u mean when you say you cant go through it again. Desperately want to be pregnant again, but at same time cldnt face the prospect of another mc (I have ds born in 2007, 1st mc Dec 2009, dd born 2010, 2nd mc March 2013, 3rd mc August 2013). Im 42 so I have age against me.

In your busy life MrsA, try to look after yourself too, get as much rest as you can.

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MrsAnderson22 · 06/11/2013 15:19

finally stopped bleeding! so back to ttc...again! :( this is our final attempt, can't go through this again so soon.

how is everyone doing? do we have any 2wwers? its been VERY quiet on here recently, I hope everyone is well

I've been busy with uni, hospital for myself re miscarriage, hospital for my 9yo DS who has tonsillitis and glandular fever :( he's in a mess with a huge lump just under his ear, poor thing :(

xx

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MrsRV · 04/11/2013 08:09

The whole thing sucks Hmm

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MrsAnderson22 · 03/11/2013 21:51

not sure why it's happening again :( I never did have a positive feeling though, it's the weird shoulder tip burning I get! I actually knew I was pg before poas because of it! I never have problems with my shoulders, only in the last 2 pg's. hoping my hcg levels drop quick and the bleeding calms down. We've decided we will try once more, I can't be that unlucky for it to happen again, surely Hmm

sucks that my body still thinks its pg and my breasts are just as sore as they were a couple of weeks ago :(
xx

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MrsRV · 03/11/2013 19:21

Oh MrsA, I'm so sorry this is happening to you again. I can't imagine how you're feeling Hmm

CallingAllEngels · 03/11/2013 17:53

I'm so sorry mrsa . Didn't see your msg Friday (oh, I nced, but easy to spot!).

My mc is apparently not over (despite it happening 3weeks ago). Had last routine appt on Friday and my HCG levels went up instead of down. Scan shows nothing in womb or tubes, but something is hanging on somewhere so have to go back next week. Ready to move on and feel like I'm in limbo.
Only consolation right now is a big glass of Wine

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MrsAnderson22 · 03/11/2013 17:01

scrap that! bleeding really really really heavy today!!! pain is unreal too, way more painful this time round :( xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 01/11/2013 15:27

hi ladies,
I haven't bled since that 1 time on sunday night! I have wore a pad every day amd had nothing on it at all, when I wipe there is a small amount of blood but it's really really dark brown and a really small amount. is this normal? I thought I'd be bleeding a lot more by now! advice please...

hope all is well with everyone else. where are we all in terms of ttc? Xx

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cheesysmile · 31/10/2013 10:25

Oh im so sorry MrsA Flowers Take care of yourself ((hugs))

IBelieveInEngels · 30/10/2013 20:53

I'm so sorry mrs Thanks

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MrsAnderson22 · 30/10/2013 20:48

unfortunately I'm having another miscarriage :'( so upset and frustrated! my hcg levels have gone from 209 to 85 in 48 hours

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cheesysmile · 30/10/2013 07:14

Good luck with bloods today MrsA, hope also offer a scan Flowers

cheesysmile · 29/10/2013 07:31

MrsA just seen your message, so sorry you are going through this. Keeping everything crossed for you. I think they will normally scan from 6 wks so tomorrow you should be able to have a scan. Flowers

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/10/2013 23:48

thanks for your kind words ladies :) I haven't bled since early hours of this morning, I am only 5+5weeks and the nurse last night told me it could have been implantation bleeding, it woild have looked like there was alot due to it being in water in the toilet :/ I thought it seems a little late to be implantation but apparently not :/ I had my results back today and my hcg levels are at 209, not sure if that's high enough or quite low, when I asked I was told the number doesn't really matter as long as it's doubling every 48 hours so here's hoping it shows that it is when I get my bloods done again on wednesday. the dr also wants to see if they can do a scan but thinks I might still be too early and I won't be offered one :( she wants to rule out an ectopic as I have shoulder pain again, she is also surprised I wasn't scanned last time with the shoulder pain to see if my last miscarriage was ectopic. I will let you all know how the next lot of results go when I get them back on thursday/friday. keep everything crossed for me :) xx

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Leons · 28/10/2013 20:10

Mrs so sorry to hear. Saw ur message earlier but cldnt post, thinking of u all day. Keepinñg fingers crossed for u. Hope u getting plenty of rest. X

IBelieveInEngels · 28/10/2013 11:27

Didnt want to leave your post unanswered mrsa . Fx everything is okay, hope you're not on your own.

Was reading this morning because will be ttc soon once my next af arrives (mc at 6 weeks 2 weeks ago). Alongside the regular June bus there is a RMC June bus and the ladies there have all been really supportive if you fancied somewhere else to chat.

Hope youget good news today

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/10/2013 10:37

drove myself to a&e last night, got back home at 6am, had bloods drawn, swabs done etc etc....follow up appointment on wednesday...dejavu I'm thinking :(

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/10/2013 01:46

just been to the toilet (2am) I'm bleeding again! can't get back to sleep and needed to tell someone :( so scared!!!

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/10/2013 19:45

good idea MrsRV!! DH handed in my urine sample to the GP this morning so should have it confirmed and on my records soon, then the midwife will be in touch apparently! xx

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MrsRV · 25/10/2013 19:26

MrsA they should get darker the longer time goes in but I'd say its still quite early to be noticing such a change... And it depends on which tests. I found that the cheapy test strips were faint lines forever. That's why I prefer the digi's gives u all the info u need in one go so u don't have anything else to analyse!!! x

Leons · 24/10/2013 23:59

hi mrsA, Im afraid I cant answer your question, I only ever did 1 or 2 pg tests during each pg, so I dont know. I know I did have some sensation during early pg, whether cramp is the right word, but always a feeling something was going on, so when I didnt feel like something was going on was when I worried, and in fact I did start miscarrying. Does that make sense. Thinking of you and fingers crossed its all ok. x

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MrsAnderson22 · 24/10/2013 21:12

hi, how's everyone doing? this thread keeps disappearing from my app!!

I'm having shoulder tip pains again! burning sensation, exactly the same as last time. going to have my pg confirmed at the Dr's next week. I do have one question though, should the test line on a hpt get darker the further on you are? or does that not happen? I'm getting cramps too, all day, every day, it's been 9 years since I was last pg and I can't remember if that's normal :/

hope everyone is well :) xx

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