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Ttc after an early miscarriage, any advice appreciated

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/08/2013 17:00

hi everyone, my husband and I were delighted we'd conceived baby #3 3 months after having my mirena removed. Unfortunately I miscarried at around 6 weeks, my bleeding started on 6th July and ended on 15th July, my hcg levels never got above 143 so they left my system pretty quick, by the 18th I was having bfn at the drs. I wondered when should I expect my AF? before the mc I was always 28 days bang on! I have had no symptoms for AF, although I have had really bad heartburn for 4 days, this was my first symptom last time too, so could I be pregnant? I'm useless at working out dates and cycles and ovulation etc..... we bd'd on 15th July and have been pretty consistently b'ding every other night since then with the exception of a couple of days. when should a test show bfp given all these dates? thanks for taking the time to read, hope someone has some advice for me x

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MrsAnderson22 · 15/08/2013 18:54

hi ladies, this might be quite confusing but here goes...

if I'd had a normal AF in July I would be due my AF again tomorrow, cramping last night and a little today made me feel it was going to happen soon. However, I went to the loo this morning and when I wiped it was very very light pink, watery, so I thought, ok this is different, I dont4 normally spot before AF but at least I know it's coming. BUT I've just gone again and this time it was like a brown discharge when I wiped :/ this looks the same as last time which was implantation bleeding!! its been 10 days since we bd'd because I've been feeling quite grumpy and low lately....is it even possible it could be implantation bleeding? obviously I know it could also be spotting before AF which isn't normal for me but then again I'm not expecting this month's AF to be normal!!

hope everyone's mood lifts soon :) xx

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MrsRV · 15/08/2013 06:58

Positive don't worry!! I'm the same, day 6 of AF for me and the last 4 days have been unusually heavy and AF is usually only 3-4 days like you!!

I'm also feeling all over the place & crying loads. Feel really quite down too. I think it's the hormones. Lets hope we all get back to normal soon! Xx

Positivementakattitude · 15/08/2013 04:44

Hi mrs A and cheesy and rv hope you all ok I'm still bleeding very heavy 6 days now worried usually 2-3 day AF. How are we all anyway ? We all doing ok ?

Fx for BFP I've ordered conceive plus lube anyone tried these ? I'm re- thinking even trying again tbh fear maybe just disappointment tbh it's such a high and low and this AF is depressing me xxx

6 days heavy tampon and pad when would this become worrying !?

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MrsAnderson22 · 14/08/2013 23:43

nope, no news. tests haven't arrived yet BUT I'm cramping tonight :D boobs still super sore! fingers crossed for AF coming soon!! think I'll feel 'back to normal' if it comes! where are you in your cycle/ttc/ovulating MrsRV? x

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MrsRV · 14/08/2013 19:23

News??????

cheesysmile · 13/08/2013 07:56

Hope the tests turn up soon then MrsA. How do you survive on such little sleep, I'm still tired when I wake up at 7am even if I've gone to bed at 11pm! Although hopefully I will have to get used to less sleep sometime soon - TTC #1.

My method for counting the days is probably wrong after mc, just feel I need to count from somewhere!

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MrsAnderson22 · 13/08/2013 00:30

just ordered my super sensitive tests!! I'm a night owl, I do most of my work at night, going to sleep around 3am and waking at 7am, now I'm rambling, while working and watching tonight's soaps in my bed!! multi tasking.....or procrastinating.... probably the latter Confused

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MrsAnderson22 · 12/08/2013 23:25

thanks :)
going by your method I am CD38! And 53 days since my last period. I did bleed for 10 days during my mc though...

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cheesysmile · 12/08/2013 22:53

Oooo how exciting, really hope its good news for you!

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MrsAnderson22 · 12/08/2013 22:38

hi :) nope, not a very sensitive test but hubby bought them and to him a stick is a stick Grin I will be on ebay/amazon tonight to order some cheap super sensitive ones!

symptoms aren't getting any better, in fact boobs are more tender under my armpits and on the sides, and the heartburn is a nightmare! will keep you all posted though Smile

good luck everyone!!!! x

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cheesysmile · 12/08/2013 22:28

Evening ladies - lots going on here since last week.

MrsA sounds like you didn't use a very sensitive test, aren't the superdrug ones 10mIU? So still could be BFP! Will keep my FX for you.

Yes I'm also ttc. I didn't want to wait after the mc, just wanted to get back on it as soon as I could. My mc started on 23 July at about 5 wks and then at a scan on 2nd Aug I had a negative test and was told there was nothing left. So I have assumed CD 1 to be 23rd which puts me on CD 21 today, but as I don't think I've ovulated yet I'm wondering if maybe I'm about a week out or something.

Do any of you take your BBT? Starting taking mine again day after bleeding started and has been a bit all over the place, although does seem to have gone down now so hoping I will still be able to see it rise after ovulation.

Good luck MrsRV and Positive for your new cycles and hoping we will all have sticky beans soon Smile

MrsRV · 12/08/2013 19:36

Now you've tested you won't be able to stop! Get yourself on eBay & buy some early tests, they are so cheap. I have mine at the ready for a few weeks time.

MrsPositive Grin welcome! I was expecting a horror show too with AF but its also been fine although bit heavier today and sure I saw a bit of clotting earlier. Hope it trails off soon as normal and then I'm on it... Literally Grin ha!!!!

For now though, I will take advantage of going to bed & being able to let myself fall straight to sleep!

MrsA, keep us posted wont you. The sore boobs was my very first symptom with DD... Oooooooohhhhhhhhhh EXCITING.

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MrsAnderson22 · 12/08/2013 10:22

aaaah....I caved and tested this morning! couldn't see a line but still convinced I'm pregnant!! could be that I've tested too early, I used an Answer test 100mIU... :/ anyway it might all be in my head BUT my boobs are telling me different! x

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Positivementakattitude · 12/08/2013 00:58

Yeh I was the same never needed to mark as would like clockwork nurse did say after mc can be 4-6 weeks for period but I did have sore back cramps and my usual period spot! Don't know how you haven't caved and tested but fingers crossed AF doesn't show and you have BFP positive soon

I just ordered 5 early preg test 10miu for just 1.70 amazon !!! Not worth wondering for that price ! Xxx fx for u Hun xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 12/08/2013 00:24

not really sure when AF is/was due :/ my mc lasted from 6th-15th july, before then my cycle was bang on 28 days every month! I'm useless at working out dates so completely clueless really. I just assumed it would have been here by now, or at the very least, my normal pre AF cramps would have! xxx

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Positivementakattitude · 12/08/2013 00:06

Lol oh gosh annoying but hopefully a very very good sign ? I know what you mean I have been poas crazy even a week before AF due in the hope my imaginary heartburn and residual symptoms were preg.

When was your AF due ? I even had a period with my first preg and tested 2 days before bfn so may test again(just as an excuse ) but have to make sure dont we lol

And thanks Hun yeh defo comfort in that been quite lucky in sense wasn't as horrific as some some experience and was expecting blood bath of a AF but has been pretty normal tbh hopefully means back in full working order xxx

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MrsAnderson22 · 11/08/2013 23:43

sorry if TMI but I have literally pee'd 5 times in 1 hour!!!! I might just set up a bed in the bathroom :/

I think I'll be testing again possibly tuesday? wednesday? I don't know.....the waiting kills me!

p.s sorry for your loss, hugs to you! AF will hopefully bring you some comfort, knowing your cylce will be back to normal.....wishing you all the luck in the world for a bfp in the very very near future :D x

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Positivementakattitude · 11/08/2013 22:14

Thanks Mrs A I mc my angel July and first AF since arrived yday feeling strangely ok ? Or maybe trying too not quite sure was hoping wouldn't come obv tried poas 3 times all bfn not sure if u ovulated. Or whether to test this month or even when,

On other hand glad AF here as should be all systems go for next month.

Fx bfp coming soon mrs a when are you going to test ? X

Loved reading all posts

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MrsAnderson22 · 11/08/2013 21:37

of course you can :) the more, the merrier as they say :D x

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Positivementakattitude · 11/08/2013 21:13

Hiya mrs A and mrs rv can I join in please? Xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 11/08/2013 21:01

woop woop! ( never thought I'd celebrate this but....) I have woken up with sore breasts, on the sides and under my arms! could be AF coming :) could be pregnancy :D, wee'd an awful lot today, feeling like I'm never 'empty'...could be infection I suppose :/ could be pregnancy :D, heartburn day 6 now, could be acid reflux (I am on lansoprazole for this anyway...), could be pregnancy :D....phew haha!

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MrsRV · 11/08/2013 07:07

I was exactly the same. Never been so happy to see AF! AF is a bit weird and not like normal but hey ho, it's still AF and a sign that all has returned as it should be. I'm sure yours will arrive shortly too!

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MrsAnderson22 · 10/08/2013 22:26

it's been 5 weeks to the day since my initial bleed, 4 weeks and 2 days since my heavy bleed! so hopefully I'll get AF soon!

I feel for your friend, I really do, she sounds like an amazingly optimistic person though! good for her!

I have never wanted to feel niggling cramp so much in my life! I really want sore boobs, cramps, mood swings....the lot haha! I feel like I need my AF to come so I can start to feel normal, and get my cycle back to normal! either that or a bfp!! it's so hard when you don't know when to test! x

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MrsRV · 10/08/2013 20:16

Defo young enough for another! maybe even a couple! Grin One of my best friends is 30, same as me, her eldest is 16 in October and she's pregnant with her 5th!!! Crazy girl. She's just had some news that her new little girl is going to be born with severe disabilities and baby is having to have blood transfusions every 2 weeks via a huge needle through her tum. Tough times but shes so positive & upbeat. I kind of feel like its put MC into perspective. I haven't told her about being preggers or the MC as I don't want her to play down her pregnancy in anyway. She needs to be as positive as she can without having to watch what she says for fear of upsetting me.

Get you with your posh lunch. We went to the harvester.... Needed a little treat after the traumatic morning I had. Decided it would be a great idea to take some old clothes to "cash4clothes". An experience never to be repeated. Next time I shall stick with being a good person & giving my crap to charity!!!!! Grin

Anyway, AF exactly 4 weeks almost to the hour from my heavy big bleed. Must be 6ish weeks from when I first started bleeding just a little bit.

Ordered a million pregnancy tests off of eBay in readiness for this cycle.

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MrsAnderson22 · 10/08/2013 18:45

MrsRV....I meant to add, how long was it from your first day of bleeding to AF? x

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