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Ttc after an early miscarriage, any advice appreciated

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/08/2013 17:00

hi everyone, my husband and I were delighted we'd conceived baby #3 3 months after having my mirena removed. Unfortunately I miscarried at around 6 weeks, my bleeding started on 6th July and ended on 15th July, my hcg levels never got above 143 so they left my system pretty quick, by the 18th I was having bfn at the drs. I wondered when should I expect my AF? before the mc I was always 28 days bang on! I have had no symptoms for AF, although I have had really bad heartburn for 4 days, this was my first symptom last time too, so could I be pregnant? I'm useless at working out dates and cycles and ovulation etc..... we bd'd on 15th July and have been pretty consistently b'ding every other night since then with the exception of a couple of days. when should a test show bfp given all these dates? thanks for taking the time to read, hope someone has some advice for me x

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MrsAnderson22 · 23/08/2013 00:05

hi, I am 7 days into my cycle, 8 days until ovulation and 22 days til next period. we're pretty much taking the same approach as MrsRV and keeping everything crossed......except the legs of course ;)

No snail trails for me either MrsRV, I almost feel I'm missing out on something haha! It's another week until I'd class myself as in the 2ww stage, then the horrible wait!

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cheesysmile · 22/08/2013 23:11

MrsRV knicker snail trails made me laugh Grin

cheesysmile · 22/08/2013 23:07

Hi ladies and welcome rb. I'm really sorry you've had such a tough time.

My mc was only at just over 5 wks but when I asked at the scan I was told that the only reason to wait for af was for dating purposes, no extra risks. I think you have to wait for bleeding to stop but thats it I think unless advised otherwise by doc.

I've been temping and think I ovulated on cd 27 if counting 1st day of mc as cd1. So I guess this will be abt a 6 wk cycle based on that. Abt 10 days to go til af due for me ... starting to get impatient!

MrsA, MrsRV, Positive, where are you in your cycles now... Is it dtd time Wink

rb30 · 22/08/2013 22:51

Hi ladies. Can I join your convo? I hope you don't mind. I had an mmc and baby was finally removed (though medical management) after 3 weeks after I found out in july, on 2/08. can't say how far gone I was( sac was 15 foetus much smaller). It was so traumatic because my body was still pregnant until I went into hospital for treatment. It came out in 1 go like I almost gave birth in a bed pan. Anyway after a courses of antibiotics and 2 weeks of very light bleeding hubby and I started ttc again. Is this wrong? Should I wait til af? I was told my af could take c8wks to come but I can't wait that long. I hope you all get positive news soon. Xxxx

MrsRV · 22/08/2013 21:41

Oh god, ovulation tests sound complicated. Not sure I have the patience. We're on "just keep shagging, just keep shagging". Have been keeping an eye on knicker snail trails. Pretty non-existent so am confused... Confused, but chilled, had lots of things to think about and keep me busy which is good!

How are we all doing? Grin

Positivementakattitude · 20/08/2013 22:59

Yeh that's my app period diary well sounds the same intimate days but I found ovulation cycle day on settings and well thought I ovul cd 17 changes it and recalculated so depends what setting you have it on and I read depending on cycle length we can ovulate diff days ? I think I may have cd 8 ??? Faint lines on ovul but then nothing !!! Now one line yday and today so have missed it I think !!! Only dtd sat beige mon which was last one had a line on.

Concieve plus great reviews - much better than pre-seed mine hasn't arrived so still hoping haven't ovul anyone using cheap sticks found faint line then none and then dark one I believe not positive until darkness matches ?

Xx hoping a miracle baby has managed to appear if I have ovulated !!!!

MrsRV · 19/08/2013 19:32

Hope u feel better soon cheesy! x MrsA we are literally a week apart with everything!!!! Hopefully a week apart with BFP's at the beginning of September too!?!?!?!

MrsRV · 19/08/2013 19:31

I think I have a very similar app... Again, I probably rely on it too much. I wouldn't bother with twice a day, I read that there is more chance of TTC with DTD every other day. Has worked for us!

Just about to google conceive plus. Sounds weird.

Have just eaten my body weight in chocolate digestives, despite being day 1 of being good. Bugger.

cheesysmile · 19/08/2013 17:50

That's good Mrs A, you can start afresh now. Hope this is ur month.

Pretty sure I ovulated yesterday or day before, so abt 4 wks after mc started. However don't think I have much chance of a bfp this mth as have had some sort of bug yesterday and today, hideous cramps and feeling sick Sad

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MrsAnderson22 · 19/08/2013 17:29

AF done and out the way! so pleased it wasn't any longer than normal AF x

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MrsAnderson22 · 19/08/2013 01:23

I've never used conceive plus (never actually heard of it) but it's definitely something I'll be looking up!!

the app I use only asks for first and last day of AF and turns the days you 'should' be ovulating yellow, to give an indication, it plots when you are due AF and ovulation for every month thereafter too, obviously it can be wrong but I tend to just dtd around those days anyway. my app has never let me down in terms of AF due date since I started using it 4 months ago :) it does allow you to enter temp too but I dont, I also select 'intimate' on days we have dtd and it puts a little love heart on these dates on the calendar. can you tell I love my app? haha xx

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Positivementakattitude · 19/08/2013 01:08

Hahaha love it keep shagging and the. Keep swimming to the swimmers hahaha

Good news hopefully done wouldn't wish 7 days of what I had on anybody !

Yeh good shout was going to go for 2 a day during the 4-5 hot days ?? Haha maybe kill us both possibly not best idea we dtd every day anyway bar a few but not many

Only used as have nnnnooo idea when I do ovul and also apps depend on you inputting what day you ovul and can vary so much so for 4.50 for 25 worth a go!

Got some conceive plus on order too anyone tried it ?

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MrsAnderson22 · 18/08/2013 21:46

wow it sounds like you'll need that strength haha!! love the song too, great choice ;)

well day 3 of AF and it's pretty much non existent now, I'd usually finish night 3 early day 4 anyway so fingers crossed it's done!! :) never used ovulation sticks before, I rely heavily and probably too much on my app! we just dtd a lot in the time between AF's and hope for the best! x

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MrsRV · 18/08/2013 20:24

All sounds like we've had really similar experiences with the AF's.

I stopped bleeding end last week. Can't be arsed with ov tests. Hubby and I have been doing lots of practising these last few days - although secretly I have been thinking that we should be saving our best shagging and that we may have peaked too soon. I keep singing "just keep shagging, just keep shagging" in my head in the style of finding nemo and "just keep swimming, just keep swimming". Amusing myself anyway! Grin So yes, plan is to do deed every other night until next AF is due. Give me strength.

Positivementakattitude · 18/08/2013 01:59

Thinking of you mrs A I know the feeling ten times more bleeding than my mc and even normal AF

Good news is I read that it means fertile bright red blood so hopefully you're body clearing out ready for new passenger lol fingers crossed.

Cd8 and a faint line on ovulat!!!!! Woop so you not far behind me either hopefully it won't last 7 like mine did ! Xxx

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MrsAnderson22 · 17/08/2013 18:39

day 2- scared to stand up, scared to go to the toilet.....what a mess :/ bright red and very heavy :(

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Positivementakattitude · 17/08/2013 00:04

Mine was 7 days in total 2 days of what u describe pink light red and brown and then came the flood dtd triggered mine but was so light took us while to realise what it was sorry if tmi 4-6 day worst was filling tampon and pad and if carried on past 7 Wa a going to go to the hosp as doctor just sent me away !!! But stopped today finally xxxx

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MrsAnderson22 · 16/08/2013 23:26

hi, so how long was everyone's first AF after mc? I am definitely on but nowhere near as heavy as I usually am, it's normally no spotting whatsoever, cramps the night before then wake up with AF, 3 days of really heavy bleeding then stop! no getting lighter or easing it's way in! so far this one has been light pink spotting and brown discharge yesterday, today has been bright red but light. if all goes to plan I should ovulate in 2 weeks, then be in the 2ww!!! exciting stuff :D all tests arrived, I now have a bathroom cabinet full, 2 different types too! xx

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Positivementakattitude · 16/08/2013 20:21

Also we say mc was latest AF was 31 days are you counting what last time was between mc and AF or usual one to calculate ovul? Ill just do sticks anyway but they let me down last month but got hormone one smily face just got normal cheaply ones

Also with the ovul sticks what time of day best as clearblue say morning and read somewhere morning not good ? Work 12-8 so will do in evening if that's ok ?

Trying to get excited for ovulat now finally bleeding stopped was worried never experienced amount of blood like it xxxxx

Positivementakattitude · 16/08/2013 20:13

Mrs A sorry AF turned up but hopefully good sign for you when will you expecting your bfp ?

Mrs rv thank you I've been the same like my body doesn't know what to do have 4 massive pimples probably 4 months worth normally get one during period my face looks like a dot - dot picture haha

Cheesy smile sorry same for you and exercise is a good call to be honest haven't myself either

Thankfully I've stopped bleeding today yayyyy massive clear out hoping a good thing means ready to conceive again I'm hoping, ovulation sticks and preg tests have arrived yay !!! Next week is the time.

I was speaking to lady on mn we misscarried same time she got her bfp chuffed for her but also gutted obv BUT she said they used conceive plus and worked - worth a shot I suppose anyone got any experience with it never one for lubes lol but always worth a go

Busy busy opening new office hiring and recruiting but always time for baby dancing ! Ovul should be next weekend so plenty chance too hopefully bank holiday yay lol when you all ovulating !?

Also lady used to prop her bum after didn't do that maybe also worth a shot haha so to speak

Baby dust smiles and hugs first AF after was definetly roller oater hopefully out next ones will be so long ago will be a distant memory

Thanks for helping me through ladies makes hard time easier .

Mwah xxx

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MrsAnderson22 · 16/08/2013 14:14

well as predicted by my app, my AF arrived this morning! THANK GOD! I was in agony last night, cramps in my stomach, aching legs, sweating!!! urgh! so my cycle looks to be pretty spot on, if I'd had AF last month it would have been due again today, so looks like we're all having a POAS date within the next month or so haha, good luck ladies :) xx

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cheesysmile · 15/08/2013 20:09

Mrs A - hope you find out one way or another soon! Keeping FX for you its a BFP rather than AF.

cheesysmile · 15/08/2013 20:07

Evening ladies, sorry you're not feeling good MrsRV and Positive. Hope AF leaves you both soon and you can try to get back to normal. Its no wonder you feel down right now, having AF hormones plus I think it probably bring back the MC memories. So be nice to yourselves!

I've started to exercise again lately which has actually made me feel better about myself. I used to do quite a bit, but one thing and another meant I haven't done much for a few months. Was feeling quite down after the mc and also kinda frumpy so the exercise really has helped. Going to try and make an effort to keep it up.

I think I'm at ovulation stage of my first post mc cycle right now as getting all the signs. So based on that think I'll be testing on about the 30th (if AF doesn't show up before).

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MrsAnderson22 · 15/08/2013 19:54

yeah my cramping is pretty bad, not like sharp pains just really really dull aching and almost like a pulling sensation! oh well, I'm sure it'll come to a head in the next few days. hope you have a good time on Saturday though, might take your mind off things xx

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MrsRV · 15/08/2013 19:47

Mrs A, could be implantation but that's exactly how my AF started this month too & a few days of that followed by a few days of heavy bleeding & its just tapering off now. My AF has been far from normal. Still feel shit. Sad At least the end is in sight now. Have put on weight, look like crap & have a wedding on Saturday. Amazing.