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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Ttc after an early miscarriage, any advice appreciated

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/08/2013 17:00

hi everyone, my husband and I were delighted we'd conceived baby #3 3 months after having my mirena removed. Unfortunately I miscarried at around 6 weeks, my bleeding started on 6th July and ended on 15th July, my hcg levels never got above 143 so they left my system pretty quick, by the 18th I was having bfn at the drs. I wondered when should I expect my AF? before the mc I was always 28 days bang on! I have had no symptoms for AF, although I have had really bad heartburn for 4 days, this was my first symptom last time too, so could I be pregnant? I'm useless at working out dates and cycles and ovulation etc..... we bd'd on 15th July and have been pretty consistently b'ding every other night since then with the exception of a couple of days. when should a test show bfp given all these dates? thanks for taking the time to read, hope someone has some advice for me x

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greeneone12 · 04/09/2013 12:51

MrsRV keeping everything crossed for you!

Sorry to change topic slightly but how long was your first AF after MMC? Mine came on Saturday late afternoon and seems to have stopped. Not sure if it is classed as a proper cycle or not :( According to my ovulation app (never ever thought I would have one of those) my ovulation most fertile day stays the same no matter how lone AF is. Doesn't seem right to me. Soprry for hi-jack. Feel free to oust me Wink

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MrsAnderson22 · 04/09/2013 12:07

MrsRV!!! a line is a line isn't it? go pee on that digi and let us know! ooh how exciting!!

I don't know what's going on with me but last night it felt like my uterus was full of air ha!! such a heavy pulling feeling, it didn't come and go, it was there constantly and for about an hour I'd say, it's still a little crampy today. It's still waaay too early to test so will just keep plodding along, just wondered if any of you ever had that heavy pulling/bearing down sensation after ovulation or before AF? AF due on 13th so it's a bit early for me to have symptoms normally.

xx

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cheesysmile · 04/09/2013 10:37

MrsRV faint lines on preg tests??? I thought you were getting negatives? Surely a line is a line ... ok I'm getting excited now! How many days post ov are you - if not due yet (I thought you said you weren't due til this Friday?) then lines are likely to be faint aren't they?

Greeneone I'm liking the red wine idea, definitely more relaxing than OPKs!

greeneone12 · 04/09/2013 09:24

I had been using ovulation tests but have decided they make me into a crazy person! I have taken to using red wine instead Wink

MrsRV · 04/09/2013 06:49

Ok so, 2 days of the faintest line ever. Thought today it would be darker but still the same. Off to buy a digi one today. Felt convinced yesterday I was pregnant... Today, feel rubbish & annoyed at stupid cheap tests.

cheesysmile · 03/09/2013 19:28

Soz your getting bfns mrsrv Sad

Day before ov should be ok mrsa, hopefully the swimmers are there waiting patiently Smile

Not much going on with me at the moment as still early on, not got to the opks even yet. Starting this weekend tho me thinks, Saturday will be cd10.

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MrsAnderson22 · 03/09/2013 09:53

hmmm well, with man flu MrA finds it difficult to drag his carcass off the couch haha! He's aching all over and I'm back to negative opk's so prob too late today anyway....not looking good for this month unfortunately :( xx

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MrsRV · 03/09/2013 07:23

Mrs A, even with man flu if he's anything like my hubby he'll still be up for a quick one "with no warm up" as my husband puts it!!!! Ha ha ha.

Still BFN's. every day. Hmm

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MrsAnderson22 · 02/09/2013 23:43

aaah disaster!!!! ovulating today, im cramping something chronic from right hand side....and hubby decides it's the right time to be struck down by man flu....snotting and sneezing, the works! so hopefully last night was enough and tomorrow if I pump him full of nose spray and tablets ;)

xx

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cheesysmile · 02/09/2013 10:56

Hey ladies, I've been off line for a few days as out and about. Hope ur all well and yay for the +ve opk mrsa.

My first af post mc was fine, only lasted 3 days, one of which was pretty light. Not gonna start dtd for ttc purposes until at least cd10 or 11 this month I think and will start opks from a similar time. CD 5 today.

Good luck everyone, lets hope we see some bfps soon.

Mrsrv if your not due til Fri don't count yourself out yet, you never know. FX for you.

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MrsAnderson22 · 02/09/2013 00:48

oh, my plan is this...if I get a bfp (fx!) I hope to keep it from my husband until 22nd September which is our 1st year wedding anniversary! I hope to poas and put it in my husbands card!! that is obv if I am pregnant BUT also if I can keep it a secret apart from on here of course :) xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 01/09/2013 23:00

wowza, trying to dtd at a time of night before we get tired is almost impossible with a 9 year old in and out the bedroom, his dvd player broke so he's using his xbox, it wouldn't work, it kept freezing, it's switching itself off yada yada haha! anyway deed done for the night, it was a lot different to normal! a lot of jumping up and down.....not of the usual sort though, Wink eventful I'd say!!

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MrsAnderson22 · 01/09/2013 21:15

I am classing myself as in the 2ww anyway ha! sounds better than 3+!! maybe your AF was due to be late this month, are you still going to be testing? if so when?

I don't know how you managed a baby shower :( and to last until on your way home to cry, I feel for you, that must have been horrendous putting on a 'happy for you' face! I don't think I'd have managed! fingers crossed for you this month, we all need some luck very soon don't we!!

take care, hope you're feeling a bit better... xx

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MrsRV · 01/09/2013 19:48

Yay! That's nearly bang on time...! 13th is almost a 2ww. At last Mrs A. lets hope u get a BFP... Xx

Ithink I ovulated yesterday/today... Unless it was just a little wee :-)

Too bloody close to AF!!!!!!!!!! Still pissed off & had to go to a baby shower today. Obviously cried on the way home & wanted to wail "why can't I just be pregnant".

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MrsAnderson22 · 01/09/2013 16:48

Finally!!! +opk! the test line is soooo much darker than the control line and it came up straight away :D

xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 31/08/2013 22:38

jeese I can't wait til these opk's run out haha! just did my last one for the day about half an hour ago, test line was waaaay darker than it normally is but still not as dark as control line........fingers crossed again for tomorrow Hmm

as I have a pretty spot on 28 day cycle, I had to google ovulation dates to put my mind at ease, apparently I could ovulate anywhere up to CD18!! as long as I have a 10 day luteal phase it's nothing to worry aboutWink I am CD16 now so not worrying too much, just sick of waiting...

xx

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MrsRV · 31/08/2013 14:28

Nob, not bob Grin

MrsRV · 31/08/2013 14:28

Ha ha ha... Nobulating! Love it! Sounds about right though, I know I turn into a bit of a bob around about that time.

Totally pissed off today. Had huge row with hub lastnight which started off over a bloody lasagne & ended with him giving me a lecture on parenting. Idiot. He has since apologised & has bought me a new changing bag but still...

Did a preggers test this morning. AF not die til Friday but just couldn't help myself. BFN. So I reckon I'm out of the running until next cycle. I know it's early but tested a week early with previous pregnancies & got BFP's. so pissed off. AND... I seem to have watery snail trails today... 6 days before AF... What's that all about? Can't be ovulating this late? Maybe it's a sign AF on way early? Have had sore boobs, thrush, mood swings like U wouldn't believe hence the test. I just want to be frickin pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TTC is very stressful, I don't know how people cope when they've been trying for years. It would turn me into an actual fruit loop.

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MrsAnderson22 · 31/08/2013 11:20

morning all!!

I haven't kept anything from my husband, he laughs when I show him the little love hearts on my calendar etc....tbh though he's absolutely clueless when it comes to ovulating etc.....to the point where he honestly believed it was called nobulating!!! which cracked me and my friend up and the new term has now stuck haha!! he has never, in so many words said -maybe next month, but he's just so laid back in absolutely everthing, I can just see that he really wants another baby but is of the 'it'll happen when it happens...' mindset. wish I was! can't remember the last time I peed without collecting it in a tub!! Blush once these opks are finished I'm not buying anymore! no way! too stressful, too frustrating!

talk later, my little chicks are hungry :)
xx

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rb30 · 31/08/2013 10:18

Ps cheesy no idea about cycle because foetus only came out at beginning of August so not had first af yet. Had v little bleeding after medical management - brown...nothing since. I think I may have ovulated a week ago (but honest I've never been able to tell). Oh I dunno...I guess just eat healthy, live healthy and bd as often as poss.
I agree with positive the sticks are rubbish. Let e know how you get on with monitor. I might invest in one

Totally understand the sometimes frustration with dh. They try their best but will never truly nuderstand what we go through emotionally...

Anyway happy ovulating and baby making all cxxxxxx

rb30 · 31/08/2013 10:11

Positive I've just messaged you his details. Good luck xxxx

Positivementakattitude · 31/08/2013 08:16

P.s rb I live by Solihull ....where is the acupuncture ? Xx

Positivementakattitude · 31/08/2013 08:15

And Leon's sorry to miss u out there xxx

Positivementakattitude · 31/08/2013 08:15

Hiya ladies and welcome rb ... I am also ttc #1 on cd 20 and stopped opks now before I committ murder !!! I have bought the clearblue monitor (good deal on eBay) for next month a week today for AF which I'm almost certain will arrive unfortunately !

DH 's do have it way to too easy but still feel the pressure I think ??! I'm very open about my tracking/peeing/googling etc and think he feels pressure so we tend to do it less when it's important strange as I know he does want a baby but men are strange maybe pressure plus they listen but don't understand ovulating egg life span sperm life span etc etc gosh who does I know I don't hard to not be annoyed tho ok for men to say yeh hopefully next month !!!! They don't have the things to go through that we do !!!

And that's my DH who is actually a real softie in this case less maybe more so next month keeping peak days to myself see how that goes

Those sticks are utter crap excuse my frenchbut they are and tbh if u didn't really want a bundle of joy I would give up I hate the 1ww its yorture always feel so down ? !!! Or is just me

Mrs a and rv and cheesy smile hope u all ok sorry to rant xxx

Leons · 30/08/2013 21:58

hope all okay. Thanks for all your good wishes.
rb30 Im very determined, Im 42, so much want number 3 before it gets really too late for me. A last minute camping trip put my schedule right off, no dtd in a cramped camper van with 2 kids and it kept me off here too. Not sure whats going on with me at the moment, today I feel like af is coming, which would only be 18 days since mc, I was hoping to be in the 2ww, but its fine I suppose if it means my body is bouncing back to normal much quicker and I will be more sure of timings.