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Ttc after an early miscarriage, any advice appreciated

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/08/2013 17:00

hi everyone, my husband and I were delighted we'd conceived baby #3 3 months after having my mirena removed. Unfortunately I miscarried at around 6 weeks, my bleeding started on 6th July and ended on 15th July, my hcg levels never got above 143 so they left my system pretty quick, by the 18th I was having bfn at the drs. I wondered when should I expect my AF? before the mc I was always 28 days bang on! I have had no symptoms for AF, although I have had really bad heartburn for 4 days, this was my first symptom last time too, so could I be pregnant? I'm useless at working out dates and cycles and ovulation etc..... we bd'd on 15th July and have been pretty consistently b'ding every other night since then with the exception of a couple of days. when should a test show bfp given all these dates? thanks for taking the time to read, hope someone has some advice for me x

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cheesysmile · 10/09/2013 09:18

MrsA it could still be too early yeah, but could you tell the dr you are ttc and ask for a blood test to check - am I right in thinking that would pick up pregnancy earlier than a stick? Good luck to today, hope they can do something for you.

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MrsAnderson22 · 10/09/2013 08:26

I have an appointment at 9.35am!

I tested this morning just to see if I got a + and the dr wanted to give me meds...it's still too early though isn't it? although I am 3 days before AF I'm not 10dpo until the day before my AF due :/

xx

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cheesysmile · 10/09/2013 08:10

Aww MrsA didn't realise it was that serious, poor you. Take care of yourself, I hope you don't have to have surgery Sad

I got another flashing Smile today on my opk this morning. Didn't get round to dtd last night, so defo getting on it tonight Blush

I'm going to do a little list that we can update with when bfps due so we know when to expect that all important poas news! Grin

BFPs due:

MrsRV - Already got it! Grin est due date?
Positive - 9th Sept???
MrsA - 13th Sept
cheesysmile - 26th Sept
Greeneone - 28th Sept???
Leons - 6th Oct ???

I've had a guess at everyones based on posts and what I can remember so just update / let me know if I've got it wrong - I probably have!

Positive - have you poas yet or has af got you? Or have I just got your dates wrong? keeping my fx for you and hope you're ok if the witch did make an appearance.

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MrsAnderson22 · 09/09/2013 23:29

hey MrsRV, I've missed you :D glad you had a fab time away though and happy to hear you're feeling good!

I have something called Trigeminal Neuralgia, its neuropathic pain in the left side of my face caused by pressure on the trigeminal nerve :( there's no cure and according to the drs, even painkillers don't work. I have to see a neurologist and have scans to check what is causing the pressure, scary stuff! it often ends in surgery under the skull to sort out the pressure! shitting myself! tonight, the bottom part of my head is throbbing on the left, the left side of my face is tingling and burning, and my forehead is stinging! I have a bulging vein on my forehead which appeared yesterday and is really sore to touch, called the drs today but they had no appointments, have to ring back tmrw at 7am.

my AF is due on 13th, hoping it doesn't come but I'm not feeling pregnant, had no sign whatsoever of ewcm this cycle, I ovulated on 2nd of sept which is pretty late for me, think it works out as CD17 of a 28 day cycle.

xx

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cheesysmile · 09/09/2013 23:14

So sorry Leons Flowers Trying to make it positive ... at least now you can start your first proper cycle since mc.

Hey MrsRV glad things going well for you and you've had good hols Smile How many weeks / days are you now?

At the moment im gonna say bfp due 26th, but may have to revise that depending when I ovulate.

MrsRV · 09/09/2013 21:08

Hi Ladies, been off the radar for a few days as hubby refused to pay £6 per day for wifi in our caravan in Devon. Tight arse. Had an amazing time away and DD really loved first trip to the seaside. Going back to work tomorrow though booooooo!!!

Aww, Leon's, its only cycle 1, cycle 2 was the lucky one for me when all was "back to normal". Chin up chick.

Mrs A.... What the hell do u have?? Is it a virus? Have they given u some drugs? It sounds bloody horrendous!!!!

I'm getting confused with everyone's cycles.... Can we have a list of AF due dates please? I just like to keep a check on you all Grin

Not told a soul about our news. Which is a first for me. We're going to try and not tell anyone until 12 week scan. We had a 7 week scan last time & saw heartbeat, whilst I was still wary as I was bleeding hubby told EVERYONE. I just don't want to tempt fate. I'm also taking a different brand of folic acid this time, I'm not usually superstitious but something just made me uneasy taking the cheap Sainsburys supplements this time. Although, weirdly & unexpectedly, dare I say it, but I have a good feeling about this time. Feel completely different to how I felt last time. Hard to explain.

Anyway, essay over... FX for some BFPs soon ladies!!! xxxxxx

Leons · 09/09/2013 19:47

Think AF has hit. I had another discharge today which was dark red, a couple of times when I wiped. I guess its starting off light. I normally come on first thing in the am and heavy for a few days but as this is first one since mc I dont expect it to be normal. But its bang on 28 days since I first started bleeding so at least its back to a relatively normal cycle. Im so so gutted.

cheesysmile · 09/09/2013 09:03

Ah no worries, I wondered where you got that from! Grin

greeneone12 · 09/09/2013 08:22

Fingers crossed! Sorry I got you and Leons confused :)

cheesysmile · 09/09/2013 07:29

Flashing Smile on opk this morning. I'm thinking its not positive until its fixed but better than yesterday!

Have a good day all.

cheesysmile · 08/09/2013 23:02

MrsA that sounds complicated! I have no idea what that is, but hope you're feeling better.

Greeneone I don't look after children, I have an office job! Hope beauty treatments go well Smile

Leons good luck holding out!

greeneone12 · 08/09/2013 21:51

Feel better very soon MrsA and hope the kids give you an easy day Cheesysmile. How many do you look after?

greeneone12 · 08/09/2013 21:49
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greeneone12 · 08/09/2013 21:49

Leons you are so good for resisting! Brown discharge really is a sign that would be making me hopeful.

Nothing to report here really. I cried today at my friends house as my DD was being so lovely with her 1 year old, giving him toys and kissing his head. She also kept telling us to shush because her baby brother was sleeping in her tummy!

CD 14 is the lucky day for us so think we will try and DTD on CD 12, 14 and 15. See where that gets us. That will be next week so until them I am planning on carrying out some essential beauty treatments and trying to make myself feel confident and sexy instead of tired and haggered [hmmm]

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MrsAnderson22 · 08/09/2013 21:46

hi ladies, just back in from the Dr's, turns out I have trigeminal neuralgia! a lot more research to be done on that one!

xx

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Leons · 08/09/2013 19:58

Nothing new to report from me. I had tiniest bit of brown discharge when I wiped today, really miniscule amount. I bought some tests, Clearblue 2 pack which was on offer in Superdrug, and they are burning a hole in my bathroom cupboard. Screaming out to me. I will hold off, at least until after tomorrow.

MrsA, hope you start to feel better soon, sounds like a nasty bug.

cheesysmile · 08/09/2013 17:56

Hello!

Not much to update really, second day of doing OPKs today and still negative, but still early really. Not much cm yet either so think the opks are right. Gonna get on with baby making dtd from tomorrow / Tuesday whatever its saying though as tomorrow is CD 12. Trying not to start too early this month.

I consumed rather a lot of wine last night, but that's it now going to be good now the baby making is starting again! Also I could do with dropping a few pounds so staying off the alcohol should hopefully help with that as well.

Ooo Leons that is sounding positive, I really hope AF stays away for you. Keep us up to date!

MrsA it does sound like you have a horrible bug, rest up and feel better soon. Keeping my FX that you get your positive at the end of the week. Well done on going back to Uni, sounds like you've had a tough time of it.

How are you feeling Greeneone? What day are you on now? It's boring in the first week or so isn't it, can't even symptom spot to keep ourselves amused! What's your plan this month or are you going to keep it laid back (no pun intended!)? I'm thinking every other day and maybe a couple of days in a row when I get positive opk ...

Hope you all enjoy the rest of your Sundays, I'm not looking forward to going back to work tomorrow after the weekend, got so much to do at the moment. At least it will keep me occupied I guess!

greeneone12 · 08/09/2013 16:57

That does all sound pretty horrible! Does sound a bit like a virus....enjoy your dinner!

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MrsAnderson22 · 08/09/2013 14:52

oh and my sunday dinner was sent home for me too, love Granma Mo...She's the best!

xx

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MrsAnderson22 · 08/09/2013 14:50

feel like I've been run over by a bus today :( but only my left side! aching hip, sore armpit; can't put my arm down, sore shoulder, burning pain behind my ear; going into my neck, jaw, temple and cheek :'( still feeling totally exhausted!

kids and hubby went to his grans for sunday dinner, we do that every week...I stayed at home and opted for a cuppa, blanket and a really old black and white Marilyn Monroe film Grin hubby has just walked back through the door and thinks I need to go to hospital, for my aches and pains but more so because I'm enjoying a b&w movie haha...

xx

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greeneone12 · 08/09/2013 14:08

I am so impatient it's unreal! Trying to keep busy to take my mind off baby making. Right now I feel scared that at the crucial time next week I will actually be too tired to DTD!

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MrsAnderson22 · 08/09/2013 01:27

5 more days until AF is due :/ hope it doesn't appear, every other time I've been pregnant the first symptom I have is heavy, extrememly sore boobs, like taking off my bra for bed is agony, I don't have that yet :( it's not giving me too much hope, then again it could just be too early. if I remember correctly I didn't have sore boobs until I had a bfp the last time :/ sick of this countdown, why does it have to be soooooo long haha

xx

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greeneone12 · 07/09/2013 21:44

We DTD on Wednesday 15th May and Thursday 16th and I had implantation bleed on 25th so 10 days after.

Leons · 07/09/2013 21:02

No. I dont even have a test in the house. Nearly bought one when passing superdrug today. I will hold out until next week if af hasnt arrived.

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MrsAnderson22 · 07/09/2013 20:45

I completely believe that the discharge I had was imolantation bleeding! I can't remember off the top of my head when it happened but I have read that implantation can happen 6-12 or 7-14 dpo! depends what site you go on :/ I wouldn't class yourself as out this month yet, have you tested at all? Xx

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