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I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.

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internationallove985 · 18/07/2013 00:10

I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.

Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx

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Luxlisbon82 · 21/07/2013 15:19

She writes in the 'You' section of the free app. I'm ashamed that I know this and wouldn't admit to it in RL but it is terribly amusing and at the same time sad that someone gets continuously allowed to publicise such drivel.

Itstartshere · 21/07/2013 15:18

'Rape is a lot more than just rough sex. Had the OP said 'no' or pushed her FWB away, cried/cried out with pain, asked him to be gentle and been ignored/etc, THEN it would be rape.'

SO glad to see that rape myths are alive and well, despite MN's excellent campaign. Plenty of rape victims do none of the sort and they have still been raped.

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2013 15:15

Oh I see Grin

I will go and have a read....

Luxlisbon82 · 21/07/2013 15:13

An inflammatory, narcissistic journalist for the daily mail who writes about her uninteresting life and spends a lot of time saying 'poor me'. Her online articles incite a huge reaction and she is very skilled at rubbing people up the wrong way. Check out the daily mail app for her latest one and it might give you an idea of what yaabob means.

ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 15:12

who the fuck is Liz Jones?
and just who the fuck is Alice?

and I still don't know who Sharon is.....Sad

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2013 15:07

Who is Liz Jones?

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 21/07/2013 15:04

Are you Liz Jones?

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2013 14:58

Or a cat if you are more so inclined Grin

I have 2 kitties and they are my little angels Grin x

ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 14:58

juicy has been vaporized...that was quick

ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 14:57

yamser

that is one of the things that leaves me cold about this.

you do not have a child in order to have someone to love you back!
for that you get a dog

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/07/2013 14:56

Yams - I have indeed seen the other threads. I will not say much more. Just be careful people.

yamsareyammy · 21/07/2013 14:55

Hang on
Are my eyes deceiving me.
A post of JuliScurr's with a link, has completely disappeared.

ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 14:54

miss strawberry
OP is already a single mum, she said so on the other thread

yamsareyammy · 21/07/2013 14:53

Gosh. If you see her on other threads, you will see how she comes across.
I could be wrong, but I dont think so.

yamsareyammy · 21/07/2013 14:52

Trouble is here that she says yes though, doesnt she.
And in between, as she says she didnt say no.
And people dont necessarily keep saying yes as they go along do they.

The reality is that she is probably going to say yes again, initially anyway.
And no one on here, myself included has managed to persuade her against it.
What the op really needs is love. Enough love in her life, that she doesnt carry on doing what she is doing.

Because her desire to be loved by a new child literally does trump everything else.

international, he has gone away for a few weeks, so it does give you time to think.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/07/2013 14:47

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Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2013 14:38

People only get professional help if they believe they need it.... Hmm

MissStrawberry · 21/07/2013 14:35

Yes, I posted before I read to the end.

OP, seriously, get yourself some professional help.

JuicyFatRump · 21/07/2013 14:32

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MissStrawberry · 21/07/2013 14:29

"as long as I get him/her."

What a terrible way to approach parenthood.

I ask again, OP, do you already have a child?

JuicyFatRump · 21/07/2013 14:20

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RaRaZ · 21/07/2013 14:10

International : Even when they're most likely never going to meet their father? Hmm You're just going to leave it as "Your dad's called Mike [had to call him something]. I never told him I wanted a baby with him and he knows nothing about you. He probably wouldn't care if he did because he thought we were just having casual sex. But there you are, his name's Mike."

RaRaZ · 21/07/2013 14:08

And thanks for re-iterating that you were NOT raped or abused. I hope people can finally get their heads around that Hmm - not your fault, International , but this thread seems to have turned into a witch-hunt against men... I worry about the possible consequences of convincing women that rough sex/sex not in the manner hoped for/bad sex/sex without adequate foreplay/etc constitutes rape. If women start going to the police about this sort of incident and claiming rape, innocent lives could be destroyed. Rape is a lot more than just rough sex. Had the OP said 'no' or pushed her FWB away, cried/cried out with pain, asked him to be gentle and been ignored/etc, THEN it would be rape.

internationallove985 · 21/07/2013 14:08

Raraz because the least my future baby deserves is to know is his/her daddy's name. x

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JuliaScurr · 21/07/2013 14:07

Itstartshere you're right

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