We are so lucky to have beautiful ds, almost 3, and dd, 7 months. I think dh is quite happy with two. He himself is one of two boys. I come from a family of three.
It's such a hard decision, trying for a third. I know I'm for it more than dh, but I think he secretly would love a third if it meant we could afford to have three. At the moment it's a case of do we let our heads or our hearts rule over this one. We are only just surviving on one income at the moment and I'm not sure if having three will be fair on ds & dd in the long run. But then I say to dh that I will be working again once the kids are at school and hopefully it won't always be such a struggle.
I guess we're also thinking about how physically demanding life will be. We were both so very tired when I was pg with dd. I can't imagine coping with two lo's when pg again. However, it doesn't seem as daunting this time round as we've survived the first six months of sleepless nights and are starting to get full nights again. Have started to learn how to juggle things with two of them so surely juggling three isn't that much harder??
Sorry, starting to ramble. I guess what I'm asking is how much more of a strain financially and physically is it going from two to three? How many years down the line does it not feel such a struggle?
My mum said the first six years are the hardest, when the last finally leaves babydom and enters toddlerhood. She also said the teenage years were quite hard financially as you're paying adult prices for clothes, shoes etc. and needing the next size up each year as the kids are still growing. She would love us to have three, but she's biased as she had three! ARrgh, decisions decisions!!