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Legs in the air.

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 18:41

Hello ladies Smile

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!! Grin

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you?? Blush

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:37

If he isn't wearing a condom he is ttcGrin

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:36

But Four, she is doing the added thing of ttc. He isnt. He may be being naive, or casual about unprotected sex, but he is not actively ttc - as far as we all know, international included.

international. Is there anything on this thread, anything at all, that has made you think twice about what you are doing?

You havent answered one or two of my questions. Obviously you dont have to, and perhaps they are too near the bone.

But generally, when people go through life, and keep burying their feelings about all sorts of things, it leads to problems, both practical and emotional ones, later on.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:25

I agree four.

FourLittleDudes · 15/07/2013 21:23

I don't think and sounds proud of herself, she sounds sure of her decision and confident in her abilities to raise a child.

Its almost like some posters want her to be beating herself up over it, crying with guilt and feeling awful.

She is doing nothing different to what he is doing - having unprotected sex knowing it could lead to a pregnancy.

MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 21:17

Writer- I completely get that too, that's what's made me angry

OhBuggerMe · 15/07/2013 21:14

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:57

It isSmile

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:54

I don't want her to feel anything.

She feels what she naturally feels and such is the nature of her personality.

I just know it is something I could never do. That is probably why a lot of us are reacting the way we are, we can't understand it because it isn't something we would consider.

But, everyone has different morals and different reasons for living their lives the way they do and that is just life I guess.

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:48

Why is it better if she feels guilty? Guilt is a useless waste of time.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:46

I'm not judging what she is doing, like I said, it is her attitude I find difficult to understand. She has said herself that she feels no guilt about what is doing and that is quite happy to lie and deceive people in order to get whatever she wants.

They just aren't personality traits that I can take to, that's all.

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:43

Writer-I don't get that at all from international's posts. I see a woman desperate for a baby that's all. Who on earth are we to judge?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:31

And genuine question:

If you do conceive, do you intend on telling him and hoping he will stick by you and maybe turn your FWB into a relationship?

Or are you going to break it off with him and raise the baby alone?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:23

If I'm honest, and I wont speak for everyone, but what shocks me about the whole deception isn't the fact that she is doing it, but more because she seems to be so proud of herself for doing it.

Almost like she thinks she is some Independent Woman type figure, if that makes sense?? Some kind of Martyr.....

In my opinion, it is her blasé, 'I don't care about lying to people to get what I want' attitude offends me more than the actual deed.

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internationallove985 · 15/07/2013 20:20

It is due to commitments (working) that we only see each other twice a week.... Erm not that it is your business Winterwannabe.

Shock horror I am having U.P.S!!!! XX

FourLittleDudes · 15/07/2013 20:20

I think a man who chooses to have sex with a casual partner without a condom without even asking if their partner is on the pill etc can't be to concerned about a pregnancy, everyone knows that unprotected sex sometimes leads to conception its not like anyone is pretending that they are taking precautions. He's made his choice to take a risk.

Good luck to you International. Plenty of babies are born to parents that don't want them, don't look after them, don't j is what they are letting themselves in for. At least this baby is wanted and loved.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:14

If I hadn't have been in a relationship

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:13

Actually I'm not at all as I said in an earlier post. What I can't stand is all this 'poor unsuspecting man' and blaming her for everyone's misery. In an ideal world babies are conceived within marriage but it's rare that everything is ideal. I had ds when I was married with a long term partner but tbh my biological clock was ticking louder than big Ben and I wouldn't like to assume that I wouldn't do what international is doing. I would not entertain the idea of a sperm bank.

MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 20:11

That doesn't mean a baby should be conceived in this manner.

I'm not all in favour of the rose tinted dating, marriage, house then baby but this? Really?

Writer agree whole heartedly with you

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:05

I can't help but feel you are supportive of what International is doing? Smile

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:03

Very few babies are conceived within marriage and moonlight and roses!

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:59
  • how I would cope with it.
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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:58

I'm guessing she will go for the latter as opposed to telling the truth....

I also worry about what example is being set to her daughter? That it is okay for a woman to have unsafe sex with a man she doesn't know just so she can have a baby for her own selfish reasons....

Great lesson to teach your daughter...

If I ever learnt that I had been conceived in such a vulgar manner I don't know who I would cope with it.

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 19:50

I'm okay, I have my own thread that's hidden now. I'm just seeing this thread as a huge red flag to a bull.

I honestly thought these stories he had heard and read didn't exist. Now I've read this thread.
No wonder some men are so u trusting.
I'm aware I got a bad one, and he can't have loved me that much to not believe me but still I can't believe anyone would do this.
It's not just that its deliberately sabotaging a unborn child's possible relationship with its father. Every child has the right to a relationship with the father, sadly in this case the child may not even get that chance.
Why you would do that and find that acceptable is beyond me?
I'm fighting for my dd to see her father. I'm trying to get set times and days (he just wants whenever) so that my daughter can never turn around and tell me I didn't do all I could.
In this case what are you going to say to this child, if the father walks away, are you going to tell them why? Or are you going to do the whole daddy is a wanker routine?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:38

Zola : "available for dates 2 afternoons a week" - I don't know why, but that made me laugh out loud!!! Grin

Maybe it is the image of casual sex being referred to as an afternoon date similar to when children have Play Dates Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:36

MakeItUp : what an awful situation to be in and I can see why it must be so hard for you to read this thread - and see somebody flaunting the same thing that you are being accused of but would never do. If I could give you a hug I would Smile I won't probe into your situation but we are all here when you need to rant or need a shoulder to cry on x x x

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