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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Legs in the air.

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 18:41

Hello ladies Smile

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!! Grin

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you?? Blush

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

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ChubbyKitty · 05/07/2013 00:42

I also don't like to sleep in a wet patch so I clench and scrabble around for some underwear Blush

I have put my legs up the wall before but my side of the bed is right on the wall and I started to get uncomfortable so I don't bother anymore.

rootypig · 04/07/2013 23:40

at least I am honest

You're not though - not with the man whose child you're trying to conceive, or with us, or even yourself.

I agree that he shouldn't assume you're taking care of contraception. I don't agree that that gives you the right to make this decision for him. Everything you say shows that, on some level, you know that's true. One level of honesty would be to say I know it's not on, but I'm desperate. But you're trying to convince us he's really ok with it. Well then, talk to him. Everything else is just an excuse.

OhBuggerMe · 04/07/2013 21:56

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seatfor5 · 04/07/2013 21:49

i have done pillow under bum and legs in the air with my second DS TTC for 1 month :) am 3 months in now and did it again this month (first 2 months were more should we as have 3 DS all ready)

I have a friend who has had her coil removed and is going to TTC without telling her husband - He has said no Shock

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 19:43

I also put a pillow under my bum and then I always swap it with one of my hubby's, lol.

I don't want to be sleeping in sperm dribble Grin

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internationallove985 · 04/07/2013 19:43

Hi Rootypig. I can't reconsider as this is something I want. (to be a mum again) and he has no issues about donating his product! Also he has never mentioned contraception so perhaps he thinks I have it covered or perhaps he is also hoping for a happy accident, who knows what goes on in a person's mind! Also I can promise I am not the only women on planet earth ttc in deceietful way and at least I am honest. xxx

rootypig · 04/07/2013 19:32

internationallove Shock

How would you feel if you were in his shoes? For a decent person the choice is not to stay or go, but a sense of responsibility and connection to a child they would rather not have. Please reconsider, for his sake and the child's.

rootypig · 04/07/2013 19:28

I put my bum on a pillow post sex when ttc. Figure a little gravity couldn't hurt. Legs up the wall a lot of effort though! Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 19:26

Lemonies : your post made me laugh out loud!!!!!!

Brilliant!!!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 19:26

My friend is 32 and is going through the 'Do I wait for Mr Right forever' phase. She has desperately wanted children since she was about 20 but has never been able to hold down a relationship, let alone find herself with someone where they want to TTC.

She has queried going to the Sperm Bank but I wouldn't be surprised if she has a 'happy accident' one day too.

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Lemonies · 04/07/2013 19:25

I knocked one out straight after sex when I was ttc.
I had read about the cervix contracting during orgasm so I would trot off to the lav with my dorty book.

CashmereHoodlum · 04/07/2013 19:20

my partner or rather friend with benefits does not know I am ttc Shock

internationallove985 · 04/07/2013 19:17

That could be where I've been going wrong as I never hold my legs up after making love. Mind you I might as well be honest as you don't know me but my partner or rather friend with benefits does not know I am ttc, so I think he'd wonder why I had my legs up after the event! I see him Wed and Fri just to make love there is no commitment. Although there will be no love making tommorow as A.f arrived today (sad face). We are using each other, really. There is Absolutly no argument that what I am doing is deciectful I know that, but what do I do wait for Mr Right forever, and and needs can/do make a person deciectful. I am certainly not doing this to trap him. I mean once I am pregnant he is free to go or to stick around. If he does opt not to stick around well the world will still turn. It's not like I am a stranger to being a single mum. If I am lucky enough to fall pregnant I will just say it was a happy accident.

I find quite a lot of sperm leaks out of me. Carry on putting your legs in the air after making love it can't do any harm can it.

I guess all I can do is keep having fun trying and hope for the best.
Sorry for the life story. Good luck on your exciting ttc journey. xxx

PuppyMummy · 04/07/2013 18:48

don't worry it is! I asked this question at an appointment with fertility consultant! she said its pointless (I still do it!!!) the sperm swim to where they need to be, what comes out is seminal fluid.