Legs in the air.

Wotcha Baby. I am absolutely fine and dandy. I shouldn't be loitering round conception threads though as my dh booked his vasectomy yesterday. How are things coming along with you?

My oh was not really that keen at first not cos of the children he wants loads but cos of money issues. I went on about it enough times got myself a permanent full time job and said there are issues but they will decrease now and by the time if and when get prg we will be ok. Its interesting now hes agreed and been off the pill a month he is much happier and is now quite keen to get on and have kids I didnt think he would turn around that fast. I do think i would feel a bit funny about legs in the air afterwards

OOh (mooncup use) - hadn't even thought of that. Wow. Maybe a mooncup, then a headstand before breakfast. Kind of like a second shag without the effort!

I agree with show (long time, no see - how are you?). Any decent swimmers are straight up there regardless. Far better to get up and pee to prevent UTIs.

International - just and

I'm in shock that people really say 'make love' (yuk), especially when it's sex with a friend for baby making sake

If female orgasm helps as the cervix dips into the semen, surely you are mimicking that by raising your bum/legs?

Not only is there no point whatsoever putting your feet up after sex, it can cause UTIs. You should urinate quite soon after sex to flush out bacteria from the entrance of your urethra. Particularly important when ttc as you don't want an infection when newly pregnant.

A decent sperm will swim to where it needs to be.

I have to shut the cats out when we dtd. They're starers.

I love my mooncup but the thought of it full of spunk makes me a bit!

It's an internal silicone cup to collect menstrual blood-they're fab!-but I've heard women are inserting them after sex to hold the semen close to the cervix. Sounds like it would help imo.

We not wee

I put my legs up the first month wee ttc, it didn't work, next month had a super quick shag and got up had a shower etc and fell pregnant with ds! When I tested positive I remember thinking 'but I didn't even put my legs
up!'

I've heard people use moon cups as well to 'hold it in place'

Hi Winterwannabe83. Sorry for not making myself more clear. I did not accuse your "D.P" of not doing anything I said what would would you do IF your "D.H" did want to T.T.C but you did want ti TTC would you not be slightly tempted to take the route seatfor5's friend is taking. I am afraid this I.T.R.W and certain women including myself will be deciectful to get to try and get pregnant if they have an unwilling partner. xx

Love the bits in the thread about the 'dorty book' (and where can I buy one!!), and the 'pearl clutchy'. Completely going to use these in many RL circumstances!

Re legs up, I find that the act of moving ejects a fair bit of wet (so I get my partner to hoick me round if feeeling committed/desperate. Also, I try to get him to not make me laugh (because I 'spurt' when laughing after sex - sorry TMI), which is hard, because we laugh at really silly things during/after sex. Which may mean that we're doing it very wrong, or very right, depending on your required outcome!

Hey international

'Us' I suppose was shorthand for whomever reading MN. Look of course I appreciate it's your life and you'll do as you wish! I just feel really strongly that men - well, anyone, but most likely to be a man - should not be deceived when it comes to the conception of children. Admittedly I am much more at Seatfor5's friend - because there has been an explicit no and that is a marriage, so the betrayal is worse and the consequences more significant, including for any existing children. And the partly unwanted child? and their relationship with the deceived parent?

Sorry if this is a bit pearl clutchy, but having a child is SO hard, I would be so upset and angry if someone forced this choice on me.

Agreed this guy you're seeing should glove up if he doesn't want children. But I can't help but think of him having to choose between being an absent dad or parenting a child he didn't plan on.... And how it might work out for the LO. (Don't get me wrong, I don't think lone parenting is remotely problematic, though can't imagine how exhausting - am talking about the effects of ambivalence on parenting.)

Can you not get your mitts on some donor sperm? Whether from a bank or willing direct donor?!

She is coming up to 40 and has twin who are 5 i dont know if she will go though with it I can understand where she is coming from but its not something I could do I just went on and on at my DH until he was so beaten down he gave in lol!

What you friend told you Writerwannabe is a myth that still gets banded about. It is not necessary to hold your legs in the air post sex as enough semen will get to the cervix from where it cannot escape.

Post ejaculatory fluid is seminal fluid.

Hi Winterweannabe83. Sorry to jump in here, and this comment comes with no direspect but I think it's wrong of you to be judgemental to Seatfor5's friend.

She is broody, like you! and wants to become a mummy again just like you. Be totally honest what you do if you wanted to ttc but your D.H did not. Like I said desperation can make a person decietful. Remember it could have just as easily have been you in that situation, and you don't know how old her friend is time could be running out. xx

Hi Rooty pig. I am not trying to convince anyone that he's okay with it where did I say that! Also what is all this "us" business can people not argue themselves. I am being a coward here but there's no way I am not going to talk to him, for fear of him running for the hills. xx