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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Legs in the air.

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 18:41

Hello ladies Smile

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!! Grin

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you?? Blush

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

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Bunnygirlie · 09/07/2013 21:54

[shocking]

MissStrawberry · 09/07/2013 20:31

It really is so depressing.

Having a baby is such a huge thing and there are people who decide someone they barely know is the right person to be a father to their child.

Grow up, seriously.

rob99 · 08/07/2013 18:35

Jesus, I can't believe what I'm reading.

OhBuggerMe · 08/07/2013 18:23

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Suzietwo · 08/07/2013 09:16

MOON CUPS??
nutters

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Writerwannabe83 · 08/07/2013 08:26

Well, just be careful that he isn't having unprotected sex with other girls as well as you.

Nothing quite like an STI to ruin your infertility.....

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internationallove985 · 07/07/2013 21:20

I met him in May. we had well what I thought was going to be a O.N.S. He asked for my number and we have been seeing each other Wed and Fri. He is nice, we get on well but there is no emotional attachment there, and I call it making love which probably make a mockery of it! but I hate the word shag, it sounds so degrading but whether I like it or not the true analysis is and it makes me cringe to write this word but regardless or whether I like it or not he isn't making love to me he is shagging me!
I suppose I am hoping to ttc rather than ttc. xxx

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Writerwannabe83 · 07/07/2013 21:12

And how old are you both if you don't mind me asking?
Does he have any children already?

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Writerwannabe83 · 07/07/2013 21:11

How long has he been FWB?
And is it an exclusive situation you both have?

If so, it may be he feels something for you if he isn't seeing any other women?

Could you see yourself ever being in a relationship with him??

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internationallove985 · 07/07/2013 21:06

Hi Winterwannabe83. I can't risk talking to him about it. I tried being honest once (about a different situation) and it blew up in my face so never again! and the older I am getting the easier I am finding it to be scheming.
Like I say he might be all for it but then again he could run a million miles. xxx

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Writerwannabe83 · 07/07/2013 18:01

5 if I do get pregnant I am not forcing him to stick around, but if he doesn't like it my reply will be "What did you think was going to happen when we having unprotected sex".

Does he know it is unprotected though?
i.e does he know you aren't using contraception?

Mind you, even if he does think you're on the Pill, it isn't 100% guaranteed to prevent pregnancy, so really, he should be using condoms too if he wanted to be completely sure you wouldn't fall pregnant.

Maybe you should just ask him outright about TTC - you said yourself earlier that he might be after a 'happy accident' himself??

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internationallove985 · 07/07/2013 17:52

Magzfargharson.
1 Where did I say I was proud of what I am doing, but for the record I will/ do climb over people to get what I want I always have and I always will.
2 The reason why I am ttc is my business and my business alone. How dare you assume that I do not have a job! Whether I work, what I do for a living is my business. CERTAINLY NOT YOURS!!!! Are ttc just so you can 12 months maternity leave? You're not the only one who can jump to conclusions.
4 I am using a man for sex, so what! He ain't complaining!
5 if I do get pregnant I am not forcing him to stick around, but if he doesn't like it my reply will be "What did you think was going to happen when we having unprotected sex".
6 It may come as no shock to you but I do not give a hoot about unwritten rules. x

valiumredhead · 06/07/2013 15:05

Good post winter

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Writerwannabe83 · 06/07/2013 14:54

I agree - you need to think of the child, not yourself.

Say your FBW decides he doesn't want anything to do with you or the baby??

Which is a very real possibility considering you have deceived him to get pregnant behind his back.

How are you going to explain to your child why s/he doesn't have a daddy?

Dad's have a huge role to play in bringing up children and to deny a child that male influence just isn't right.

I absolute love my dad and when I was growing up I thought he was the most amazing person ever - I can't even imagine not having grown up with one Sad

No child should be forced to grow up without a dad - especially a dad that wants them and loves them.

I agree that your FWB should definitely wear a condom and he has been an idiot really for not even discussing contraception with you - BUT - that doesn't mean you have the right to make such a monumentous decision to have a baby without his agreement.

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MagzFarqharson · 06/07/2013 14:49

valiumredhead why is it rude to point out spelling mistakes, but it's ok to land a bloke with x amount of years of child maintenance - decietfully?

valiumredhead · 06/07/2013 14:48

He should take some responsibility then and wear a condom. Why 'poor deluded bloke?' Confused

MissStrawberry · 06/07/2013 14:44

Good God some of you sound about 12 years old.

What about the poor child who is going to be born or is it just about a cute little doll to dress up? I expect you'll be wanting maintenance from this poor deluded bloke and I 100% guarantee he does not want a "happy accident" Hmm.

valiumredhead · 06/07/2013 14:37

That doesn't mean I particularly agree with the situation btw but spelling is neither here nor there and all this pity for a bloke who won't even wear a condom? Oh please!

valiumredhead · 06/07/2013 14:32

It is very rude to point out someone's spelling/grammar especially as this is an informal forum not an exam paperHmm

valiumredhead · 06/07/2013 14:30

Perhaps he should wear a condom if he really doesn't want a baby? Any man that doesn't has to expect an 'accident' even if the woman says she's on the pill, and according to international he hasn't even discussed contraception.

MagzFarqharson · 06/07/2013 14:15

international please stop spelling deceitful wrong. How can you be so proud of living your life around so much 'deciet' - poor unsuspecting bloke, if it's just a fwb situation he probably has no idea you're ttc - there are unwritten rules you know. Him hoping for 'a happy accident' wtaf?

Are you just avoiding having to get a job by any chance, you decietful witch person?

ShowOfHands · 06/07/2013 13:55

You're very good to engage Baby. Grin

And excuse me, but 12 weeks? How is that even possible? You got pregnant yesterday, right? I feel like my mother some days but gosh, time does fly. Does she do that thing where she wakes up from a nap and gurgles and flaps and tells you all about her dreams? I loved that bit. And the gummy grins and that milk drunk thing they do after a feed. And the sneezing. Ohhhhhh.

I'm not sure it's some days whether it's wisdom or weary experience. Doesn't matter so much I suppose if the end result is the same. 12 weeks!

HadALittleFaithBaby · 06/07/2013 12:57

Ah right see that's where we differ. I'm a terrible liar and hate deceiving people. Each to their own I guess.

HadALittleFaithBaby · 06/07/2013 12:54

Good good! Yes I'm well, currently feeding my 12 week old DD! She's quite scrummy and worth the 2 1/2 year wait in the end :) I think it's fine to lurk in conception to share the wisdom of experience!

internationallove985 · 06/07/2013 12:53

Had a little faith baby. Continue to be scepitcal and confused about my chioces should they be that important to you, but I will freely admit I've never had a problem being decietful to get what I want, and nor do I feel any guilt. xx