We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Yep been trying a lot since and nothing... . Frustration is so much worse since than before we got pregnant. But I guess that's normal. Thanks for the nice welcome!

It's so sad that we have to be scared of being pregnant, isn't it?! I'm the same. Really want to be, but at the same time, I'm terrified. And I'm sure that next time I get a BFP, I will make sure my calendar is clear around the 8-week-mark

Sorry for BFN OLTT but hopefully it's just too early for testing on a Sunday :)

Welcome Flohs sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Have you been actively trying again since it happened?

Ps v scared of being pregnant again too! Getting that elusive bfp certainly seems just like the first hurdle

Hello! Can I join? 4th cycle since mc at end of February. We'd been trying for about 7 mths before that. Started spotting a few days early yesterday - queue tears and drama from me. So wanted to be pregnant again. Tried SMEP but it didn't work. So I guess I'm in need of positivity!!!

I don't know why I POAS this morning. 14 dpo and I never have results this early. Ofc it's a BFN.

And yes I'm terrified of being pregnant again, but it's because I'm scared of having another MC. I'm constantly thinking that this is it for me, secondary infertility.

Hopefully others have more happy thoughts today.

aly I too got pregnant straight away with first two pregnancies - and now following 2 mc it's not happening straight way - i feel like I'm in a tread mill and can't get off!!! But it will happen and your not out of the game this month xxx {hugs} to you xx

guff fingers crossed for you - I really don't like any part of this ttc!

aly fingers crossed for you too- we are really being tested in the patience area - I keep saying to myself 'ok so lets pretend noting has happened and I want to try for a baby' I keep trying to shed myself of the baggage I'm carrying around all the time

tomkat I know - I'm terrified of the thing I want most! But I agree with aly one worry at time - and all the ladies are here to give support x

missp i'm feel very very non-positive. Also been feeling crampy with a few pains coming and going.
AF due tue/wed according to my usual cycle (not due til friday if ov sticks were to believed and i have a normal length luteal phase), but i won't be surprised if when she shows up earlier.
Pretty ticked off about it, and even DH is a bit sad. He usually plays it cool and pretends not to care but I think that's because he also really thought it would be very quick. Kind of feels like a kick in the teeth - I know that I was lucky to get pregnant immediately with both my previous pregnancies but because of that i expected it to be quick this time too. I can't help feeling that something is wrong...

missp how exciting about the 5* hotel! woo!

emki i'm glad you're feeling better today

nearly of course you should hang around as long as you want

my new tactic for this next month will be temping. going to order a bbt as soon as AF arrives. I might toss cheap ov sticks into the mix too, but defo not getting the cb digi advance ones

Hi guys...have been looking at this SMEP. Today is day 8 but feeling about as sexy as a wet fish!

Bit worried that this is going to carry on all month. If I'm really honest, and you're the only ones who know this, I'm just so frickin terrified of being pregnant again!!

hi,
hope you don't mind if I hang around, really not ready for joining a pregnancy thread. (and I really must know if the syringe worked )

missp great news about the trip away ! And huge pat on the back for not planning around OV - we've not totally lost the plot! Xx

missp preseed is a fertility lubricant .... Some of the ladies here have talked about it and conceive plus .... I actually think I have conceive plus and not preseed ... Sorry - unintentional lie!

Fingers crossed AF stays away for about 9 months

alyant. How are you coping with our 2ww. I find it really difficult at least in the DtD window there is some thing practical to do.

emki. Sorry you felt so rotten yesterday and glad you are having a better day. What is preseed and enjoy your trip away.

Still slightly crampy today with some sharp pain in left side. Not feeling very positive.

On the plus side my DP has won some vouchers for a 5* hotel in Ireland. So booked a night away on 8 July and I didn't even check if I would be ovulating. .

Hope everyone is feeling a bit brighter today

mummy and tins. Still thinking of you guys and hope your both doing ok.

Hope everyone is feeling a bit more upbeat this morning! I am, the cocktail evening went well as the conversation didn't go anywhere near babies so I held it together. Now I have a thumping headache to show for it (ow).

And thanks to guff for starting the new thread and coming up with the new title. Although I thought the title of the last one was very witty, I was getting that sodding chumbawumba song stuck in my head for hours every time I checked the thread!

Oh and used preseed for the first time and off to buy pineapple shortly - I thought I needed to stay loyal to the thread's title!

Morning! Feeling brighter today - being the weekend and not at work definitely helps! Also got a positive line on OV stick this morning .... A day or two or 3-5 earlier than I thought - only had one full cycle since erpc - so luckily dh home and we dtd this morning ... He is also very chuffed that I'm still planning to do the night away even though I won't be OV! I now need to start limbering up for more dtd action tonight and tomorrow! And next week when we are in Bristol - !!!

Thank you cam and birds and hope you have fun day sorting photos! Good therapy!

missp and rockchick sending lots of positive vibes your way.

Hope everyone ok x

If you are lurking mummy and tins {{{waves & hugs}}} xxx

Oh, and I'm going on an alcohol detox after we've polished off the bottle of red we've sitting downstairs that is

Sounds like lots of us having shitty times at the moment.

Emki - it doesnt come across as a 'me me me' post, don't worry. Please dont feel you can't post when youre feeling blue (if you want to). Posting here is always ok. Sorry you've got so many anniversaries coming up and really hope you get some good timing for your naughty night on Monday. DH working away from home sounds stressful. Lots of hugs.

Birds - I hope the photos are cheering you up today. I think I might do the same today as it sounds a good plan. I also go in and out of positivity. Although mine doesn't seem the standard two weekly swings atm, can go from happy to hysterical within minutes!

Hope people are generally feeling a bit better today. Alyant - how are you feeling today. Did you have a good wine/film night Katatonic? Was your cocktail evening ok in the end Penguin?

MissP - hoping she stays away!

Rockchick - sending positive vibes for a bfp your way.

Sorry if I've missed anyone, struggle with doing this on the phone.

In the spirit of the new thread title; this month I am currently eating pineapple under the delusion that this night help with implantation and because I love pineapple and I'm also starting evening primrose oil as my ewcm was disappointingly lack luster this month.

emki I'm sorry you've been having a shitty time too. I found the 20 week mark really difficult too - my boss went for hers a few weeks ago (she's the same dates as I would have been). As someone said, you expect it to get easier with time - which it does, but then these episodes of going back to feeling so sad all over again really blindside you. I'm glad you've got a naughty night away planned to brighten the week ahead! I've decided this weekend I'm finally going to go through our wedding photos (two years on) and choose some good ones to put up on our walls - haven't looked at them for ages and it always makes me feel happy!

Welcome home cam

Hello all - just marking my spot and thank you for starting a new thread - great title!

Can I also join in on being down in the dumps? I've been close to tears for the last few days. My boss and his wife went for their 20 wk scan - it is nearly ( a week off) a year since I went for my 20 wk scan and found out there was no heart beat - also their baby is due the day my father died - yesterday i thought my head was going to explode with all the dates and anniversaries going through my head. I really thought I would be further along by now - oh yes I am, i had another MC and now surrounded by people who are due in September which is when that one would have been due ..... anyway - at least the sun came out for a bit today and I went and had a glass of fizz after work with a friend - its all just so hard. We are grieving, we loved our little beans and bumps and now we have no where to put that love.

I also want to agree with what someone said up thread - a colleague of mine has told me the story of his friend and wife who had lots of mcs and now have a baby - IT JUST DOESN'T HELP!!! But I smiled and said I was off to get a cup of tea .....

Well Im on CD12 - DH is working away but back at weekends and he just called saying he'll be home by midnight and might also be staying on Monday too ... whoopie as hoping my cycle will be nearly back to normal and i'll OV CD15 which is what happened before MC ...

Before I knew this I'd planned to go up and see him in Bristol where he is working - just for the night and taking the morning off work .... again I'm being slightly very obsessive when it comes to OV days - I dont' even know if ill OV then or not! But it'll be nice to get away - feel very stressed with it all - feel i've aged so much in the last year ...

Anyhoo - sorry about the me me me post! I've been so low I haven't wanted to post recently, but have been lurking ..... but as we're generally feeling a bit low - thought it might be ok .

Big UN mumsnet hugs to you all - here's to a lovely weekend and planning nice things for the week ahead - mine is a naughty night away with DH x

Anyone want to second MissPositivities suggestion for an addendum to the rules?