We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Sundance great news about the test! And yay to the end of ovulation. It's always such a relief!! Ahh pregnant friends - its so tough. I had lunch with the friend I was supposed to be having a baby at the same time as on Saturday. I also bemuse my DH with crying and upset. He is such an optimist!

Al - yeh really don't think it is implantation bleeding. Think it's just my silly confused body. I'll give it till at least thursday if AF still hasn't showed before I POAS. But have got zero other symptoms.

Thanks all for your feedback on strange cycles post mc. I think I read so much that people got pregnant really quickly post mc and you were at your most fertile etc I think I just expected that it would be the same for us. So maybe I just have to learn to accept that it is just like before we got bfp and could take a while.

Hi all! Great new thread title btw.

Hope everyone had a fab weekend....think we all ended the week feeling the same: pissed off, sad, frustrated and in my case....slightly desperate too (full on crying on Saturday when I got home from having dinner with 2 pregnant friends!) poor DH, he didn't know what to say.

Anyway, have reached the end of OV finally, probably one last heave-ho tonight before I can get my precious uninterrupted sleep again and start the horrendous 2ww.

Ending on a positive though - got the results back from the colposcopy clinic this morning (I had a dodgy smear 2 years ago), and all is fine and normal - phew! I don't have to go for another year now which is one less thng to worry about in 'that' area. :)

bugger OLTT but at least you can sit back and enjoy some nice cold white wine in the majorcan sun.

flohs my AFs (3) have also been quite light since mc, but so far there has been one day that makes me say it's a bit heavier than just spotting. Nevertheless each time I think "oooh maybe it's just an implantation bleed", but no.
I find it easy to fall into the implantation bleed trap because i had it with my DD and was totally fooled into thinking it was AF: hence had my dates all wrong when i finally found out at around 8 weeks. But now I think every period is an implantation bleed!

Right! AF is done, work is out of the way, and I'm back in the saddle! Here goes....
Flohs my AFs/cycles have been weird.
I think it went:
Really light,
Really heavy,
Short cycle,
Long cycle,
Normal cycle but really heavy...
Hoping its all back on track now!

Ps misstakes - trying in a relaxed way might be a good idea... Can totally see the idea of stopping altogether would be v frustrating. people do say cooling it for a bit can be good for the mind and therefore the body!

Hmmm... No idea what's going on. Started spotting on Saturday and have been on and off but that's it! No proper flow yet... Hmmm. 4 mths on and still getting weird cycles - anyone else get this?

birds i'm sure my box says it's for cycles up to 42 days. I think their websites would say the longest cycle it can handle. However, if your cycle is also irregular, then it probably won't be much help? I don't know about this one, but charting is usually only for fairly regular periods?

If your cycle is long, you need 20 sticks a cycle. The manual says it'll use either 10 or 20. On cycle 1, it will ask you for a stick from CD6. So if you ovulate before CD16, then you'll only need 10. If you ovulate between 16 and 25 then you'll need 20. HTH.

Oh just for an update. Another BFN. I think I deserve that fish slap!

To be so fraught

Morning folks.

oltt hope you have a fab and sunshine-filled holiday!

missmakes I agree with aly, maybe just say to your DH you're going to take it easy for a few months but don't take precautions either - and if you want to keep an eye on dates etc, then you could still do that...totally understand why the idea of waiting stresses you out so much. Occasionally I think to myself, WHY did we wait so long before ttc?? But I guess you don't expect it to so fraught.

Like penguinita I have just been having a look at cbfm and now very tempted!! Does anyone else on here who uses it have long cycles? Pre- mmc mine ranged from 35 to 42 days - will it still work? Presumably I just have to use loads of sticks? (Expensive having long cycles!)

Pengunita I got mine from amazon too and I think it's about the same price. You'll need to get sticks separately. You need 10 for cycle 1 if you ovluate before CD16, otherwise 20. There are 20 sticks in each pack.

katatonic we are off to Majorca for the sun! Super excited about it, but mainly just getting away from work. It's been very stressful.

miss I don't know what I would do in your situation. I think I'll wait but that's because I'm a worrier about money.

Since everyone is talking about the CBFM I took a look at it. It is £54 with free delivery on amazon at the moment, is that a good price? And does it come with sticks or do I need to buy a pack of those separately?

I was going to wait a cycle or two before trying any monitoring, but after reading the rave reviews on amazon I'm starting to get tempted...

Poor you missmakestuff, life is being pretty rotten to you at the moment. But being 36 isn't all that bad, honestly - take it from a 36 year old

hello all, i hope you've all had a lovely weekend.

bummer kata re AF, but loving the positivity.

missP i'm also loving your symptom spotting.

Welcome flohs i'm sorry i'm lacking in the positivity dept atm but will try and pass some your way anyway!

OLTT have a fabulous time on your holiday. Really hope that you don't need the cbfm! and here's a fish slap in advance of your testing tomorrow

Thanks so much EVERYONE for the support. sorry i'm feeling so low and inflicting it on you guys. Tomorrow is a new week and it's up, up, UP!

missmakes it is a tricky situtation that you are in. What if you don't actively ttc but also don't take any precautions? I think i'd be paranoid about waiting and it then taking ages and ages to fall pg. And maybe, magically, taking the ttc stress away will make it happen for you - in which case I'm a bit fan of ''everything will work out OK in the end": DH will get a new job easily before his 3 months pay ends.

Hi all, I was on the last thread but after a crappy week I have been just lurking. Feeling a bit happier today after a bit of sunshine and a nice day out with DD and DH. Just coming to the end of the first AF since MC and although very heavy and painful the fist couple of days it wasn't too bad, although it did make me very tearful and emotional - we aren't really sure if we should TTC this month as DH has just lost his job - although he has to be paid for three months regardless and is pretty positive about getting something else, it is a worry. He wants to put it on hold for a bit, we talked last night and I just got very upset as I am 36 in August and although I know it shouldn't make too much of a difference I do worry about my age and waiting. We are financially ok for another few months but it would use all our savings - which is what we were keeping for Mat leave. I am just gutted and really fed up about the thought of waiting.

katatonic all the best with next cycle. Like your positivity already.

And welcome to the new people. I can't scroll back up to see all your names since I'm on the phone. But hope you find the support you need here.

Thanks for all the fish slaps too. We have packed our bags today and have lots of luggage allowance left. So in going to pack my CBFM (and some tampons) if I don't get a bfp tomorrow. I know I really need slapping to plan on POAS tomorrow again. I think it's aly saying why I need to pack the CBFM. I won't be in my fertile window while on holiday. But I need to press the M button at CD1. And also turn it on once a day to advance the day window.

Though actually I haven't been turning it on since about CD18. So jopefully I haven't messed it up already. It is supposedly to learn my cycle, isn't it?

penguinita I think I might have made that one up along with the ulcer thing. .

Tingly teeth?? That's a new one on me!

Its not easy. Don't rush. I'd talk lots more to DH about whether i was ready if I was doing it over.

Ha rainbow yep that was me. Rumbled. I can happily apply all of that logic to anyone except myself ;-)

Welcome Flohs. We had a chat on a SMEP before. It will happen for u all. You will find lots of positivity here

oltt. It's very tempting isn't it to poas. Don't feel bad but here's a big slap with a mackerel.

I am currently 10 dpo and normal cycle due AF Tuesday. Let's do some physco symptom spotting

Sore boobs
Nauseated
Dizzy when stand up
Tingly teeth
Stuffed up nose
Mouth ulcers (think we decided this was not a symptom)
No spotting at all ( I know this can be a good sign but with my only viable pregnancy I didn't have any at implantation and with 2 mc had loads and a lot of pain
Mild cramps and pain in LhS

Gut feeling is AF will arrive on Tuesday. But sure a bit of symptom spotting wheels me busy. alyant guff and oltt fingers crossed for you guys.

Hi all, including new folk. Like the new thread title.
Congrats nearlyreadytopop.

I had BFP a couple of weeks ago but still lurking, hope thats ok. Sorry the posifrickintivity has been low.

Just to share my very limited experience so far of being pregnant again. While it is every bit as scary as I thought, and more, there are still little joyful moments when I allow myself briefly to dream about the future that make it worth the worry.
Tomkat i think it was you who talked about having "faith" in the discussion re early scans. It came back to me yesterday and was wiser than i realised. Scan or not, I think its what you ultimately get by on.

DH and DS are at in-laws today and I'm lazing around watching embarrassingly trashy teen drama today. I hope some of you have good weekend things happening. x

But keep your chin up, results can change in the next 5 days.

Welcome flohs, hope you can absorb a bit of posifrickingtivity from the lovely ladies here.

I'm totally terrified of being pregnant again too. I was a bit scared last time, but mainly because of childbirth and the changes to my body. This time I have a whole heap of extra stuff to be scared about that in my innocence I didn't really know about before .

And even though I really want to get a BFN so that I know I'm back to "normal" () again, I'm also dreading it because it will be back to square one and time to get on the treadmill again.

Will be interested to know if the cheap OPK sticks work for you aly. I got some as a "free gift" with my bbt thermometer off ebay. Haven't tried them yet as I'm rather sceptical about their quality! Although the free gift pregnancy test sticks that also came with it were brilliant.