We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Aly - irritating on the spotting front but it's not over till she arrives properly!

Sundance - I do keep trying to think that about getting pregnant too soon.
You are so right. Everything happens for a reason....

Emki - there are so many things you should and shouldn't do! It gets v confusing. But people have got pregnant without sticking their legs over their head, so I'm sure you are fine.

Fed up - even though I'm a reformed POAS obsessive (sort of) I always had to hide evidence. He once caught me smashing open a cb digital to see what it looked like on the inside after i had a 'not pregnant' he looked totally baffled by his insane wife!

My spotting turned into proper AF overnight. Relieved really. Think I dealt with not being up duff on Saturday and just wanted to get on the next cycle.

Hello ladies - so I was supposed to be going away for the night with DH tonight, train and hotel booked - however he is now not going to be there and be at home instead! So much for a naughty and decadent night away!

Luckily had positive for OV on saturday, so we have dtd every day since - should I fit in one more tonight???? Eek, will try! And now begins the 2 WW.

aly still keeping fingers crossed!
Hello newbies - sorry you're here!

I agree with above about POAS early - I've done it so many times and totally messes your head up - I don't like having hope, or thinking there is still a possibility! When are you due Aly?

Why is it that before my 2 mcs I fell pregnant so easily and now all I can think is that it will never happen again - and I don't know how to get pregnant - even though I've been pregnant 3 times! I'm now stressed that because we've been DTD in the morning, I haven't stayed horizontal for long enough after the deed .... read somewhere that you should stay horizontal (or legs up in the air) for 20 mins after - agghhh - instead I've got up and got on with day .... seriously I'm driving myself bonkers!!!

damn. bit of spotting.
lucky i haven't bought a pee stick

Thanks guys, i'm still teetering on the edge.
have gone through the pros and cons with DH and he thinks i should poas tomorrow since he'll be away thu/fri so better to get a bad result now while he's still home to give me a hug. Valid point.
But i'm super busy at work today (as you can tell by my complete absence from here ) so it all hangs on whether or not I get time to go to Boots....

hehe loving fedup hiding the evidence of rampant POASing from DH

• AF rather, not AG!

Thanks Alyant

Oh I'm the queen on POAS - sometimes a week early, even when I know it will be negative. this month I POAS on 4 days before AF was due, and then on due day and then when AF was 4 days late. 5 mins after POAS on the last day, AF arrived 4 days late - typical.

I'm hoping the rules on this thread will curb my POAS addiction.

Hold off if you can... you can do it. You are lucky you don't have any in the house and please don't go and get any til tomorrow! I've taken to hiding them deep in the bin from OH as he thinks I'm mad (which isn't untrue) and i feel sick when I think about the expense!

Here's hoping AG doesn't arrive for you

Welcome Fedup my MMC was April - it's awful getting AF each month but I'm trying to see it as a positive - at least I know my body is recovered from the miscarriage and hopefully it'll be able to carry to term next time.

Aly test tomorrow, it's worth the fish slap if its BFP and if not then ban any peeing on things until the weekend :)

hi fedup sorry that you're here but you'll fit right in with loopy symptom spotting

AF not here yet........ despite my confidence last night i'm now not sure that i can hold out until POAS friday..... ladies, give me strength!
as well as the cardinal sin of breaking the thread rules, i terrified that i'll be tempting fate by buying a test and AF will start immediately!
But if i do a test and it's bfn then i can get mentally prepared for AF to start....

hello, can I join too please? Had a MMC in March, just a couple of days before my scan day I started spotting. Been trying ever since. I am a little loopy, imagining symptoms left right and centre and doing pregnancy tests AFTER my period on the off chance it was a heavy implantation bleed (yes i know i'm mad). After tears shed every month on the arrival of AF, I'm attempting to be positive and somehow look forward to trying each month - maybe this month is the one!

Flohs - I think I was a bit paranoid that I hadn't got pg again straight after the MC as I had read so many examples of that happening to people. However, I'm glad I didn't now as I think I needed the time to just get my head around everything. My AF is still being a bitch...much more painful and heavy than usual, but weirdly, I get dull pains when I ovulate now too which I never noticed before the PG.

alyant & Guff - keeping my fingers crossed for both of you.

The 2ww is so annoying. It feels a bit like some sort of Bingo game...statistically, someone here should hit the jackpot this month - secretly hoping it might be yourself but thrilled for anyone else who 'wins'. "Baby Bingo".

MissP - Booooo, hisss! to AF symptoms.

Kat - not there yet myself but certainly not ruling it out in the future, the sooner the better I say, any money trying will be well spent, especially if you've tried for over 3 years already. I was reading about having eggs frozen as well - loads of people seem to be doing it now.

if AF doesn't arrive (it will, i need to prepare myself for that) I WILL wait until friday to POAS - although AF is due tomorrow according to my normal cycle if I believe the ov sticks I'm not 14 dpo until around thu/fri. I don't believe them, but it gives me a reason to hold off and not risk a BFN. Of course if I don't get AF until friday I will be getting more and more excited and even more disappointed if it's then a BFN.
Also it's in the rules and i like rules.
plus i don't have any sticks in the house to pee on, otherwise i would POAS tomorrow

kata that sounds like an excellent plan - and excellent positivity too. I have no experience with ART though so I can't help you, sorry. I think that i'd be looking at a similar path if i was in your situation. the possibility of another 3 years (of course that won't happen!) would be daunting.

oh missP that's a pity about the spotting. Rubbish! And you are allowed to feel down so don't apologise

Thanks all, still a bit down in the dumps but we are just going to see how things go - we won't be 'trying' but won't be trying to stop it either I think, I know when I ovulate and usually don't have a problem being in the mood then! We will just have to see, have over a week till we have to think about it anyway. Will try not to use the OPK sticks and just will talk about it with DH when I know I might be fertile, we can decide then. He is positive about getting something, we are just looking at it as time for him to spend time with DD and get some jobs around the house done, I am on holidays in 5 weeks so part of me wants him to be not working until then at least as it would be great to spend time together, even though we can't have a holiday! Would worry too much though that he might not get something then though.

Missp sorry you are feeling down too, it is so difficult all this, it's a rollercoaster - I hated TTC last time and am hating it now too, I don't know anyone who can just relax and let it happen. I do think hormones don't help, just when you don't need to be more emotional is when it is worst!

To those considering that monitor thing - what make it better than the cheapie sticks - I got pregnant last time on those and have always had a positive stick when I expected, also use pink pad, an app for android, which tracks my cycle, seems to be accurate.

kata DH and I have talked about assisted reproduction but decided against it because of the cost. But we have already have one child so the situation is completely different. We never expected this to be so hard because we got our first within 3 months of trying without any knowledge of cycle.

However from the mums I have met when I was on maternity, I know two who have IVF babies, and another two with some sorts of assisted ovulation drugs. Two of them are now mums of 2. And another due her second in August. I know this is a biased happy ending with IVF or clomid, given I met them at mums groups. But I hope you also get a happy ending with it.

kata. I haven't tired assisted myself but a friend at 38 tried for 6 months and then went straight to ivf as she felt time was not on her side. She now has lovely twin girls. Think it a personal choice. I hear a lot of people get pregnant after they have decided to go down that route so keep bonking.

missmakes. I really hope your DH get a new job soon and understand why u maybe want to wait and why you don't want to. Sometimes there is no right time and you just have to pick a time. Good luck.

Well folk. I have had a day of brown spotting off and on with cramps so pretty sure AF is arriving in next couple of days and after all my efforts with symptom spotting

alyant that's a good sign. Fingers crossed for you

Good luck to everyone else testing soon

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To top it off my DP asked me why we are having all these problems when I had my DD so easily ( how quickly he forgets she was a threatened mc for 14 weeks).

Sorry being a bit self obsessed just feeling so down. Think it's getting on top of me but maybe period hormones.

Ps excellent positive thinking!!

Kat, I haven't. We've been trying for a year and would definitely do it in a year or so if we haven't for anywhere. So very much understand your decision.

ooh thanks guys. i thought it was a crazy symptom but maybe not...

CM is v good Aly!

Aly both times I've been pregnant I've had tons of creamy CM (far more than normal) a day or 2 prior to expecting AF. Other than that its been terrible wind, and spots on my forehead so these are the 3 things I'm looking out for - only 6 DPO though so far too early

Guff when are you testing? I'm torn between early test this Fri or waiting to see if AF arrives a week tomorrow and possibly testing the following Friday. Good luck with the house move - have read that it's not the stress itself that can stop you getting pregnant, it's the symptoms of stress eg eating junk, not as much sex drive, so try to stay healthy and shagging!

Brilliant news on the test results Sundance

i found a symptom!!!
increased CM just before AF is due can be a sign of pregnancy (apparently). I've got that! woo!
still think AF will come tomorrow so i don't know why i'm excited.

flohs I read so many good news stories like that too, and have seen a lot of them on here. But i find it a bit heartening that there are also a few of us who haven't been so lucky - at least we aren't alone

sundance that great news about the smear