We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

guff how many days past OV are you? X

Or I have pmt! AF due next fri/sat so could be! X

plockett welcome - sorry you are here - hope you find we can help - I have the ladies here fantastic xxx

So.... Is being really sad, then really angry, then really sad again a symptom of being pregnant? If so this must be my month!!!! Ggrrrrr - had a thought this morning that if I'm not up the duff by the summer I'm going to resign - job is stressful enough without all the emotional turmoil - dh won't allow it as we can't afford it... But argh !!!! Have to find a way!!!

When I've calmed down later I of course will be more rational xx

Hi alyant79
Thanks for your reply! The crazy club sounds fun! haha! plus it's always nice to know that there are others that can help!
I guess as you say everyone is different so it's just whats best for you!
I'm gona ignore all the haters and just do whats best for us...sick of people saying we shouldn't do certain things! if my body isn't ready then it wont happen!

Thanks again and look forward to all the craziness! haha!

hi plokett sorry to hear about your 2 mcs , but welcome to the crazy club!
i think you should probably do what feels right for you. I'm sure your body will be fine and if it's not ready to get pg again then it won't. More importantly you should do what's right for you mentally. If you're ready to go at ttc again full steam ahead then go for it, if not perhaps take it easy for a cycle or two.
I'm sure your body will be absolutely fine and if you did get pg again straight away I very much doubt that would be the cause of a 3rd mc.

sundance i just read about you falling off the bed with your legs in the air after dtd. hahaha.
sorry no advice from here. i obviously haven't been putting my legs up high enough. Will try harder next time and see if i fall off the bed too.

agnus castus is some sort of herbal supplement. I think it helps to bring on AF or ovulation or something like that.

thunder we struggled in shag week too. I think in the end we had 5 goes over 7 days which was, frankly, almost more than we've managed in the (almost) 2 years since DD was born (OK that is an exaggeration but considering that she was in our bed for more than a year, and then soon after she moved into her own room i got pg you can see how it's not THAT much of an exaggeration)

Hi all!
My first time posting but have found this thread really helpful....I know I'm now not going insane! haha! maybe a little!

I had a mmc last September at 12 +6 which was horrendously horrible and hard to deal with as we had no clue until about 2 days before our scan!
I then spent months obsessing over ov day etc and ttc...felt like I just had to be pg especially as my sister was caught pg at the same time and all was ok for her....was obv over the moon for her but just painful for us!

We than got caught with pg #2 6 mths later in march of this year but unfortunately had a complete mc at beginning of may at 9 weeks, but managed to cope much better 2nd time around!

I've had my 1st cycle which was at 34 days, quite long for me but not unexpected! I've been feeling relatively positive and not obsessing over dates etc....until now!

Please help as I keep getting conflicting options saying I should let my body rest etc etc....I really want to just go full steam ahead and enjoy but am obv very scared about this happening a 3rd time! I've managed to cope with 2 already but just don't think I could cope with a 3rd!
Just need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel! xx

Aly - I'm the same. I'm worried I'm getting a bit too obsessive over it and wonder whether it's time to just ease off a bit.

Just entered the 2ww phase - if I get pg, yay, if not, at least I can drink on my hollibobs and I'll be OV then too - I'm not taking any kind of sticks with me so maybe the more relaxed approach will work.

That's the weirdest video ever - he doesn't blink for ages!

What's Agnus Castus? Am I missing out on something amazing here?

oh my, obviously i went to bed far too early last night and missed all the fun!
I'm not going to check out that video - can't at work and DH is away tonight and tomorrow night. I'll be freaked out enough as is. Just the description of it.....

sal welcome back from your minimoon. I hope it was fab.

Feeling stupid for POAS early now that AF has started. Could have saved myself the money plus i smell fishy and that's gross - but I have to admit that every period I harbour secret "maybe it's just an implantation bleed" thoughts. At least I know it isn't that.

I would LOVE to just relax and let it happen. If we don't get pg this month I think I will try and chill out about it all. no i won't, i'll join project desperate with even more vigour

saggy my mind is boggling at that one a bit! Did they just take a while to drop down or something?

sun I'm afraid I know that I don't have more sex than anyone else on mn! I know there are folks that happily have sex everyday when me n DP struggle to get enough in just during shagweek. Not good I know.

Can I ask what's with the pineapple for ttc? Surely not the same tale when they say it starts labour?!

Its not my advice! Im stressed to the gills!
Thunder hellooo! Yes there was a foal. He who was a she for the first 4 hours is doing great!
Its great to heat that your thyroid levels are down where you want them.

Alyant - Really sorry to hear your news, that bloody AF, needs a bitch slap. At least you've got something to look forward to next month at Latitude so hopefully that will be a welcome distraction. It's not wrong to be hopeful, but I know how upsetting it is when you find yourself back at square one. Big hugs.

MissP - totally agree with you on the timing thing - hopefully we'll have some springtime babies instead!

Hi Squiggly, really sorry that you're here but welcome, we're a nice (if not sometimes slightly desperate/crazy bunch).

Emki - I have 8 pregnant friends now! Clearly there's some sort of chair I should be sitting on or drinking from some tap but being over exposed to pregnant people has only made it harder to cope. Not all of them know about my MC so I have t politely sit there talking about birth plans, names, scans etc, knowing that I would have been due before them. It's so hard.

Randomly, the legs in the air thing...does anyone else struggle with this?? our mattress is really hard so I don't squish into in and when I tried the legs in the air thing, I nearly fell off the bed, and then nearly did a backwards roll! I'm not as flexible as I should be clearly.

Also, there is one thing we can claim girls, we might not be preggers, we might not have kids to coo and plan for, we might not be ready to shop for prams and baby clothes yet....but I bet we can boast we have more sex than the other members of MN!! :) Whether for pleasure or just TTC, at least we can take that trophy home!
That is all.

Ps looking forward to checking out the video when I get home!

Ha ha, loving project desperate! You ladies are psychic - seriously, I was googling all these things last night and making myself a little list. How sad am I? One thing to add - apparently to increase quality/quantity of cm, drink lots of water. Disappointingly uncomplicated but it's on my list because I all too often get to the end of the day thirsty...

This month I am temping and we're sort of SMEP-ing but don't think I've ov'd yet (and on cd 29!!) so DTD energy is fading somewhat. Have convinced myself it's not happening this cycle anyway, beginning to feel like roll on AF so we can try again from the beginning! Next cycle I'm on the grapefruit juice, conceive plus, and poss cbfm as well as temping. And maybe acupuncture as well if it's not too horrendously expensive...kat I'm in London too- any good recommendations for acupuncture / reflexology? Went to neals yard for reflexology session which was amazingly but hideously pricey - not sure I can justify that again!

Also any views on what's better, conceive plus or preseed? Dr Google has differing opinions... And does anyone bother with the applicator thingies for conceive plus?

But MUCH more importantly sal how was your wedding?? And mini moon? Hope you had a really fab time!!

Thanks all I am crazy but I don't want to smell of fish!! That video was freaky I lasted 30 seconds and nothing really changed.

Must sleep now but ill probably have nightmares of the man and his hands!

kat am chuckling at that video! Has he got creepily long thumbnails? Phhhbbbb

Hey saggy or should that be kipper knickers?! you alright duck? Did I see a beautiful little foal was born recently? How are they getting on? He/she looks absolutely beautiful.

I have now caught up on sal's new syringey special friend. That is absolutely amazing. If you don't get a bfp with that effort then I'm giving up!

emki impressive pineapple munching!

sal ooh just one slice! I've been eating about 1/2 a pineapple a day! Oh well - next month I'll do it properly

how could we forget the syringe method'!! CRAZY

If this works I'm going to have to think of a cunning way to get DH on board!

What about ...dashing home at lunch to dtd when DH working from home / or following DH around the country when OV due (and then he cancels trip and i'm still at home and less cash as didn't cancel in time.)

I'm off to bed now .... thank you ladies - DH away and this has been such an entertaining and nourishing and comforting evening xxxxxx

OMFG Kat That is freaky as shit!