We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Ha! If I get a BFP, not only will I be gobsmacked, but before I announce it, I'll be buying in a job lot of syringes to flog to you lovely lot!! Hehe

Also, I'll be offering free snogs to pass on the bug that I've had in case that helps lets face it we're all a bit up for trying anything!!

I poas got a BFN! Due Sunday so 2 days early? I never know how to count the days before !
Really hoped that my symptoms may have been an indicator, a niggling period type dull ache for past fees days and tender breasts , however no 'twas my mind playing tricks!

happy Friday ladies I am going to enjoy mine xxx

over I was so shocked to read your post, I'm so sorry this has happened to you, and well done for being positive and here's to a speedy but gentle recovery. get yourself a box set / down the garden centre / baking.. what ever floats your boat and ensure you get lots of TLC lots of bunches of to you xxx

I am on 7DPO, keep symptom spotting - grrr!! now have a mild lower back ache I always have this from lifting 3 year old and standing all day but convinced this must mean this is my month!!!

Re - earlier thread about acupuncture - I'm also in London and I've been to a lady in Nottinghill, I hightly recommend her, she is pricey so I haven't been going, but will next month - If anyone wants her details let me know. I also went to her after the ERPC and she was great, settled my hormones and was just good to have some TLC really.

Can't believe there's no POASers today ... guff how you holding out?

Have a feeling there will be lots of us next Friday ....

Also if sal does get a BFP there will be a sudden demand for syringes on amazon!!!!

Anyone got anything nice planned for the weekend?

Over - you poor thing, sounds utterly horrendous, I'm so sorry. Big hugs and sending lots of 'get well soon' vibes.

So, no takers on the POAS friday this week? Sal looks like you're in for a nerve wracking wait, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Though it's a little bit exciting too isn't it!

The 2 ww is already doing my head in and it's only been 3 days, I'm going to have to distract myself with something, though brie and gin does sound amazing.

Over - so sorry to hear your news, I hope you make a speedy recovery physically and mentally . I think you deserve lots of wine, chocolates and flowers!
Here's hoping for some positive news for all xxx

oh over how awful for you. I'm glad you're OK (although understandably devastated), but I'm glad that you can see a bit of a silver lining. Plenty of people have children with only one tube and I'm sure that will be you soon too.
I second guff's sentiments about your GP. Get a new one immediately. What a useless piece of shit.

fedup I'm loving the story of you dancing around the kitchen at lunch.

Oh over, that sounds terrible for you. But as you say, if it was a "bad tube" at least its gone now. You are so right about your instincts. With my first pregnancy I was really excited and got a strong feeling that it would be a little girl from the off, with my second pregnancy I never had that and so the mmc although it was awful and shocking, was also in a very very tiny way a relief as it never felt quite right or real to me.

That's shit over!! Take time to heal and make sure you're looked after!!

I will not POAS today you lot! DH says I should go old skool and wait til I've missed 3 AF......f*ck that. I'll wait a week.

over that sounds horrific - I'm so sorry to hear that. Big hugs for you and glad you are some how seeing the positive - I.e getting rid of the poss dodgy tube. I know someone that happened too - had one child, then a mc, then an ectopic and her bad tube removed, then another healthy pregnancy and a lovely little boy!

Sorry thunder I didn't know. But like you say, now it's managed it shouldn't prevent a future pregnancy. But totally understand the lack of hope. I struggle with it too.

I decided to dance to the radio at lunch time and looked like a right idiot but felt a lot better afterwards!! I was throwing some pretty half decent shapes around my kitchen. DC was staring at me open mouthed....

Oh no over you poor poor thing. What an awful shitty ordeal. I'm not surprised you're feeling a bit delicate. I hope you're having lots of rest and making yourself as comfortable. Big for you.

fedup it doesn't really reassure me unfortunately as my hypothyroidism was probably triggered by the pg (I didn't have it before) and probably caused the mmc. Therefore I am in a worse position than when we started to ttc over a year ago. Having said that hypothyroidism should be no reason to prevent it happening in the future now it's managed, I've just lost a bit of hope if you know what I mean?

Come on sal! Do it!

Hi Ladies

I'm going to be joining you again I'm afraid Won't be ready to ttc for a while yet, but would like to lurk and could do with some support.

Quick reminder - I got a BFP following a period and have always been negative about this pregnancy although Dr assured me that it appeared to be a viable pregnancy, bloods normal etc.

Well I was 8 weeks on Monday (previously mc at 6 weeks) but Monday evening I had horrendous bladder pain, dizzy, loss of hearing/sight...ended up at out of hours, prescribed anti b's for a 'water infection'. Tuesday I was still in pain, unconvinced...I went to my GP and insisted on a scan. 2.45pm Tues I was scanned...I only came home from hospital last night.

Scan showed no pregnancy in uterine...I knew I was 8 weeks so I knew bad news was coming. It was ectopic, partially ruptured and fluid in my pelvis. I was put on the emergency list and rushed into theatre the same night. I had ruptured beyond repair so had to have my right tube removed along with the 'baby'.

I am beyond heartbroken but also so grateful that it wasn't worse, my hcg levels were over 31000 and only a matter of time before my tube ruptured completely.

I am off work for 3 weeks, currently in bed resting and feeling sorry for myself.

I am now convinced that my 6 week mc was also an ectopic in my right tube, as again nothing showed up 'in uterine' on the scan and ectopic was never confirmed or dismissed as I mc naturally. So I must have had a bad tube, if so then I am glad in a way that it has gone - just hope my left one is in good working order.

Sorry for putting a downer on poas-Friday but wanted to share my experience. Should have pushed for an early scan sooner. Always follow your instincts though, mine have been right through out.

Do any of you ladies have any ectopic experiences?

Sorry for essay. Hope everyone is doing okay.

x

just checking in to see if there are any bfp today

sal you really do have patience of a saint!
I requested a different hospital for my antenatal care this time. Very glad I did as I had a phone call yesterday from the epu offering an early scan next week. still very scared and a little in denial so hopefully it will make me feel better.
hope you all have a lovely weekend x

Hooray for penguin! Finally!

boo hiss to thunder and saggy for nasty surprises. Try to put them behind you. I like squiggly's suggestions of brie and gin for lunch, haha.

my bbt should be arriving today but I have to admit I'm feeling ambivalent about it. I kind of want to try the "relax and it will happen" approach. But i'm scared that if we do and don't get pg then i be all upset for not having tried properly

sal if you can hold out unti next friday you must have the patience of a saint. I would also poas today .
Although the idea of finding out with one less week of nervousness to get through is appealing.

Oh saggy, the irony. On the positive side, it does mean people do actually win some things!

Sorry thunder you found that. I've still got the photo on my phone that I sent to DH of my bfp. In a strange way though its comforting as at least you know it's possible to get pregnant - hopefully that's th silver lining?

Af just finished here and still got cramps. Can't work out if ov related or still af. Who blimmin knows. Cd 9.

No BFPs yet?

I received a book today. I enter every mumsnet competition. This is the first one I have ever won! The title?
'The Antenatal Group!'

Oh Thunder - I hate it when stuff like that happens. Try to forget it, it doesn't mean you're going to have a bad day - it's just a sad reminder of a past hopeful day - you'll have another BFP soon enough. Try putting on some music that you love and jumping up and down a few times, then treat yourself to a brie sandwich washed down with gin.

Morning all

Just emptied a bin in the study which hardly ever gets used and my old bfp stick was at the bottom of it

Not going to be a good day for me

Well AF is due here tomorrow and no symptoms either way yet here, not sure how to take that!

But, I am going to put it out there and rigidly stick to the rules and not test until the Friday after AF is due...so next week!! Gulp. If by some miracle it is a BFP, that'll be another week gone by already!

Good luck today POAS'ers! Xx

BFN! Hooray!!!

Although from my bbt I think I may have already ovulated a couple of days ago. But I don't mind too much, I think DTD for fun without the TTC pressure will be good to ease us back into the swing of things gently! Staying with MIL and FIL tonight, so it is probably off the cards anyway given that our bedroom is right next to theirs!