We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Morning ladies

I would just like to add that in my experience with the miscarriage, some doctors will be brilliant and very sympathetic and others will be rubbish. You can usually bypass the doctors though and self-refer to your nearest Early Pregnancy Unit. That's exactly what I did when I was pregnant just before I miscarried. I don't think they can actually turn you away. It takes so long to actually get a doctors appointment in Central London that I couldn't be arsed to wait. And rembember you can also fudge your dates slightly! So sorry to hear y

missP you have a SMEP buddy! I've read up on it again and since it's basically what we planned to do anyway with the additional three in a row we're going to go for it. Day 8 is tomorrow....
i've got cheapie ov strips (they came with my bbt) so am going to steal a tube from work to collect my wee in - they say i need to let the reaction go for 40 min once my wee is at room temp!!
Took my first temp this morning after dreaming about it all night.
Project desperate is underway!

teaand bug hugs and for you. we all have days like that and it's so embarrassing. Are you the kind of person who can cry and then look gorgeous 5 min later?? I'm not.

rock that was very brave of you. I hope they do give you the early scan (if you want it). They said the same to me at EPU, also because i had a mmc found at the 12 week scan. When I told that to the Dr later, he said "sometimes they just say that to make you feel better at the time, but when you actually ask them for an early scan they'll say no".
Bollocks to that I say! They promised me an early scan and an early scan I shall have. if i ever get pg again

Me too. Just a massive sac producing a load of hormones lying to me that I was pregnant still :(

I'm not far from Liverpool, I was shocked that they cared after one miscarriage but don't know if its different as it was MMC - baby died around 8 weeks but wasn't found until my 13 week scan, everything was still growing and producing hormones apparently but just not the baby

And tea I'm not having a good week either as I keep hearing more and more pregnancy news. Happy for them but just so wish it was me too. Big hugs. I've cried on the tube too and the bus. The bus incident was after Managing to drop about 20 of my business cards (i keep some in the same place as Oyster card) all over the bus floor and had to scramble to pick them up whilst the bus was moving and a little unstable! I'm sure you can picture a red face flustered person trying desperately not to flash her pants and remain kind of cool about the whole thing. Failed. Embarrassing and not sure how good for business - emotional wreck, sure you want to hire us?

Rock - where abouts are you? Im amazed they said that, thats caring of them. Our NHS people don't really care til you have about 3 miscarriages. I'm pretty much going to fork out for early scans myself, if and when I get preggers again.

Good luck and hope that bean is sticky xx

We did SMEP last month and it worked for me DH knew nothing about it - my BFP is definitely stronger now so I got brave and rang the community midwife yesterday as I was told when I miscarried to refer ASAP when I got BFP so I can have early scans if I want to.

Tea I know just how you feel, coping fine one day then having a really tough day the next. I hope today is a better day for you

Been sort of SMEP'ing too then. DTD cd 6, 9, 10, 11, 12, 12. blimmin knackered. But going to do it once more today - pos opk early yesterday morning so hopefully done all we can this month. Might eat some energy bars and lucosade for later!

Hello all, welcome to newbies and sorry you are here.

Cd9 here so should be getting busy but I'm ill and DH is working about 20 hours a day for a couple of days so looks like it ain't going to happen. Have ordered some new cb digi opks though so will hopefully be back in action once we near time just to give ourselves a slight chance this month.

saggy am so impressed with your stamina! Good work!! Saw you on the hamwidge thread yesterday too- was weeping with laughter and disbelief.

For those with more af symptoms than before mc, I definitely get these too. Boobs get sore before af now- which they never used to do (was my only pg symptom- how cruel!) and the ov and af cramping is much more pronounced.

We've been trying the SMEP for two cycles now - but I don't tell the hubby either, if it gets too technical he gets all sulky.

Getting bad pains today, though AF not due until Friday which is weird. Since the MC, pains have become so frequent and stronger.... Seriously, why do women have to put up with this crap, it's so unfair!

Big hugs tea- I think we've all felt that on a regular basis, I was a wreck last night but fine today after I'd demolished half a packet of biscuits.

DP isn't aware of SMEP though. He gets a bit freaked out if I actually mention TTC!
I may have put the mockers on tonight actually. I went to Tesco earlier, and bought a turkey baster. because I needed one
I left it on his pillow!

guff. I know day 8 and I usually don't ovulate till day 17. I am going to be extra tired.
alyant I am with you on chilling out for a couple of cycles if dosen't work this month then time to relax.
saggy you go girl!!!!!!

Early night tonight as DTD in morning before work. Will probably have a basal thermometer in mouth at same time. Oh the romance!!!!

Sperm Meets Egg Plan. You DTD every other day from day 8, then when you get a high on an OPK or signs that you are OV, 3 days in a row. Apparently it increases the chances by up to 40%. There is a website if you google it.

Can someone enlighten me? What is SMEP?! Sounds technical and tiring.....

Well we have inadvertently been SMEPping this month. Day 8, 10, 11, 13, day 14 today, probably up for it tonight, possibly tomorrow. According to my app, peak day should have been yesterday, so tonight and tomorrow should have it covered. Its flipping hard work!!

Some days it starts to feel better, but today I cried on the Metro (mortifying), not sobs, just eyes wouldn't stop running. Missing what we didn't get to have x

thanks for the ideas fedup. I guess i'll wait a couple more months and then if nothing has happened and they are still light i'll go back to the dr

ooh penguin that is a surprise. So how long did you have to wait for it to show up in the end?
Great that she's here, now you can get to it with gusto.

Not sure about SMEP missP. thinking about it. The alternative option is going for every second day over what i think is the critical week and a half (not entirely sure when i ov). Will see what our enthusiasm is like. I've already decided that if it doesn't work this month we'll just take it a bit easy for a couple of months and see if magically the "relax" method works. I want the fun to come back.

badhair welcome. Sorry you are here but I must say the thing with your hair is so random! I hope you have ovulated from the working tube this month.

Penguin glad af has arrived - it's good to get that first af out the way. My cycle was very weird the first one. I don't think the body has a clue what it's doing. I too think I ov'd a day or so after first neg preg test and the af pretty soon after. Was weird! But was pleased to have af as felt like it was flushing all the other funny hormones out that I didn't need any more. If that makes sense!

aly to be honest, after that ordeal I'm not suprised they are a bit light... Two ops and all that bleeding may mean it will take some time to build up again. I'm no dr though so haven't a clue. If its worrying you though I would go see the dr. Although when I asked mine, she said "I think it's just you". Another really helpful dr response. I was explaining how everything was heightened since my mc and erpc. Like I had sore boobs and nausea for pmt and generally cramps from ovulation onwards til end of af. None if which I had before mc. Basically I have less than a week each month without cramps. She didnt seem bothered. Which in a way is a good thing but not in others as didnt give me any answers to what's going on!

Hi newbies. . Sorry u all find yourself here.
Well AF is over after 7 days and as its day 8 tomorrow we start the SMEP. I am tired even thinking about it. Though DP and I keep giggling about it. It's like our little secret that I share with u guys too.
My periods have been really horrible since last mc. Lots of spotting before and after and very big clots (tmi). Hoping it just because of mc and not my endometerosis misbehaving. Does anyone else have endo? I don't seem to have problem conceiving with it just mc. Anyway acunpuncture on thurs so hopefully that will help.
penguinta am sure you are glad AF is finally here and you can get on with the job in hand.

alyant are you doing SMEP this month? Need a buddy.
over. Natural to worry about having one tube but only take 1 egg to conceive so try not to worry. Did you ask how the other tube looked when they operated. I am sure they would have looked and you can ask at your check up.

Hi Over , you poor thing. Yes, I can say that I recovered physically really quite quickly. The docs in Australia terrified me by saying I couldn't lift anything for 6 weeks so I arranged to have my mum down to stay to help me with my DS who was 9 months at the time, but I was fine after 10 days. I had a C Section after having my son and that was a million times worse to get better from.

And - I was told by the docs that I only needed to wait one cycle to TTC again. Standard advice is to wait three months, but different docs say different things. I had a blood test at 6 week's check up which i assume means no pregnancy hormones were left. Mind you, I miscarried after 3 months although I was reassured that it was just 'bad luck' and due to my being old(!) which I think it probably was. I stopped bleeding after the op on 1st Jan, then had my first AF on 2nd Feb. My periods have always been heavy and irregular, but they aren't any different than they were before. Have you looked on the Ectopic website today? There is some good news for us one-tubed gals. Wishing you a speedy recovery and lots of magic for all of us ttcers! X

So AF arrived today. A bit of a surprise seeing as only 6 days ago I still had pregnancy hormones in my blood according to the hospital. And only 5 days ago I was ovulating according to my bbt. Truly a WTF cycle!

BadHair - Thank you, it is reassuring to hear that physically you were okay. It's a week tomorrow since my Op and I am gradually becoming more mobile/less sore. So sorry you went through that awful experience too. Fingers crossed for a BFP for you soon. Just out of interest when did your hcg levels drop to normal/your cycles become 'normal' again? x

I do worry about my future fertility and how much my one tube is going to affect me. 3 months wait to Ttc again also seems like a lifetime. Wish I had a clock to fast forward time.

Good luck to everybody heading into the 2ww, and those still dtd!

Sorry to those who AF got

x

Not at all Guff.