We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

Thinking of you today emki. And you too flower, hope you manage something nice for yourself on your birthday, even though you probably don't feel like it.

greenlizard and omama sorry you're here but hope the company helps.

Symptom spotting all sounding hopeful! Any POAS news? Everyone being strong and holding off? My fingers are crossed for you all.

I'm considering the ethics of avoiding TTC talk with DH and just taking advantage of the fact that its weeks since we last DTD so he's prob a bit desperate. Waiting for bfn anyway. He'll have to be very desperate to see past my holiday pot-belly full of cherry lager, cheese and chocolate.

well done birds! now you just need to hold out until next friday...
when is AF due?

aly I displayed extraordinary willpower this morning and didn't poas because it's just too early...I feel quite proud f myself.

missp confusing I agree.
I think if you stuck with every 2nd day you'd still get enough swimmers up there in case it really is your ovulation, and still have enough energy for later in the cycle.

saggy i'm on CD10 and also dog tired. maybe i'm pg too, haha.

birds. Said to her last night. She wants me to call her if it happens again so will do today. Said its quite possible.
Probably best I just keep going every other day. Don't want to frighten DP.

And emki and flower big hugs, sorry to hear you've been having a shitty week - hope you have a treat or two lines up for the weekend!

Alright ladies, it's fertile friday. Hands in the air, who POAS today?

Hmm missp I'm not sure - have you talked to your acupuncturist about it?

Hee hee, saggy, ham holding?

But yes, welcome to all newbies - have been lurking a bit over the last week and sorry to see you're here but as saggy says this is a lovely thread to be on.

I think at day 17 you can def start symptom spotting! I'm 8dpo and symptom spotting like crazy - getting quite breathless when going up stairs like I did for last pregnancy, waking up super hungry in the mornings, forgetting the occasional word. All of this of course could just be because I've been doing lots of exercise and not getting enough sleep!!

guff congrats on your BFP!! How are you and the other newly pg ladies doing?

Any legal poas-ers this morning?

saggy. As an avid symptom spotter maker up I say spot away.

After me saying I was finding the clearblue dual ovulation test was working for me. The same thing happened as last month. Got a peak on cd 11. No flashing ones before. Last month I went on to have flashing smiles and peak at cd 16. Had pain and ewcm last night - a bit confused. Common factor is I have had acunpuncture on cd10 both cycles. Wondering if it's linked. We are following SMEP so not sure whether to start 3 in a row as if it's a flase alarm I don't think we could manage it again this cycle. What do you think guys.
Anyone poas today??
emki. Big hugs today.

Right! I'm on day 17. Can I starts fly symptom spotting yet? I have 3 spots, keep peeing and am absolutely dog tired! Must be PG surely!?
Welcome newbies. It's shot that you are here, but these are really a lovely bunch of ladies. No better place for support and ham holding.

It seems quite a few of us have AF imminent. emki, hope you're okay. floweroct, I hope you're wrong about your AF. I'm DPO12 or DPO13 and I've had a few crampy feelings too. But my LP can be up to 17 days, so I wouldn't be 'late' until Tuesday or Wednesday. And the days are drraaaaaaaagging...

Hi all

omama - so sorry to hear your news, it's so shitty but you'll find some comfort here I'm sure, we've all been through the lows and the even lowers, but somehow manage to keep each other from going cometely crazy.

Take your time, that's all I can say. Hard, I know, but I still randomly cry about my mc and that was early March.

So af is due Sunday - I've had cramping the last few days so have written this month off. The good news is I won't feel guilty about drinking on holiday, and I've decided to give myself a month off, I'm not taking any sort of sticks on holiday with me and hopefully I will come back more refreshed. Ill be ov whilst were away so you never know.

emki - keeping fingers crossed for you

emki how you feeling today? Are you going to poas tomorrow? I think af is on her way I'm 14dpo but can't remember whether it normally appears 14dpo or 15dpo and my phone appears to have wiped everything in my calendar so I can't check! But imagine af will be here before the days out :(

omama. Sorry you found yourself here my story is very similar with mmc and length if time ttc beforehand! We were going to wait until first af but it didn't arrive for 10 weeks so just waited for bfn which took a few weeks but I think I actually felt better once I'd had one af but I know what you mean about wanting to start ASAP I'm still here 6 months later :(

Any Friday poasers??

Hi green lizard, sorry you find yourself here. With regard to temping, I only resumed temp taking during my first full cycle after AF returned (5wks after MMC). However, it wouldn't surprise me at all if your temps were irregular - it isn't called the WTF cycle for nothing!

A negative HPT is a good sign though (oh, the irony), so hopefully once your hormones settle, your temps will settle too. Best of luck to you

And I didn't use OPKs on cycle 0 either time. Just temping.

omama sorry for what you've went through. I had a very similiar experience as yours on my second mc. The 12 week scan showed only an empty sac, measured at less than 6 weeks. Then the mc naturally started before the scheduled second scan. I bled so much that I ended up in A&E and then an emergency EPRC that night (and a stay in hospital overnight to recover). I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

We tried again on cycle 0 (ie before first real AF). You will know when it feels right again. Medically there is no reason to wait. I'm 38 so maybe that's why I felt strongly I need to try asap again. I still haven't get over the losses btw.

greenlizard I'm so sorry you are here too. I'm onto cycle 2 after mc. I got a bfp on cycle 0 after my first mc so it's entirely possible. I think I was into CD 30 before ovulation that time. The second mc was recent. And cycle 0 was a mess. BBT was normal showing a biphasic chart. Ovulation was CD 20, and then I had a luteal phase of 6-7 days. It got me so worried. But it was back to normal in cycle 1. HTH.

hi omama and greenlizard and welcome
omama you should do what feels right for you mentally. we started ttc again straight away once the bleeding stopped (that is a buffer which gives you a bit more time to think about how you feel). It didn't work and here we are on cycle 4 now. Maybe this will be our lucky month!

greenlizard i'm sorry I can't answer yout temping question. I've only just started doing it myself this month. out of desperation

tobe bfn and no bleeding is great! all aboard the ttc train . Of course you aren't a bad person. It seems like most of us just want to get pg again immediately.

oh and dildoos I used the cb digi advance ov sticks last month and found them quite confusing. they gave me 4 days of high before the peak fertility, and none of that coincided with my physical symptoms. This month i'm using internet cheapies combined with temping. I'm v curious to see how the two compare.

Good morning ladies

May I join you? Firstly sorry for all our losses - whilst it is comforting that we are not alone it is a tragedy that so many have had to go through the pain

I had a MMC diagnosed (on my 44th birthday) at 11 weeks - our baby died at 9+3. I had an ERPC 15 days ago and I have just stopped bleeding and got a negative HPT yesterday and today. I was floored by it - emotionally rather than physically but we both want to try again as soon as possible given our age (the gynae at the hospital pretty much said - get on with it). It took us 9 months to conceive and I know we would be very lucky if we conceive again in that timescale but I am absolutely terrified that our LO was our only chance. It was my first pregnancy.

So i am back to the charting and POAS'ing - temperatures have been all over the place -is this normal after MC? Also is there any point in using an OPK in cycle 0?

Emki, sorry you're feeling so down. The anniversary is bound to be dreadful. I am dreading mine already and it is ages away. As someone said upthread, whatever you feel is perfectly natural. Hopefully, once this milestone is over, it might get slightly easier although what do I know

Omama, sorry for your loss. I had a MMC (baby died at 11+4) at the end of April. I would've started TTC straight away but DH was reluctant. We waited for the first AF after the miscarriage (took 5 weeks to come back) then this was our first month ahem back in the saddle as it were. Whatever feels right for you. Perhaps wait until AF returns and then see how you feel?

omama. Hi and big hugs. We started TTC in first cycle after 1 mmc and conceived in 2nd cycle. Sadly mc again. Started trying again straight away. Now on cycle 2. Still miss my beans but need to look forward not back. It can take some time for your cycles to settle. Some of the guys had to wait weeks for first period but once u get a BFN you physically are good to go physically. Emotion wise I think another preg will be difficult whether you wait or not that's how I feel anyway
2beornot. I ovulated a few days late in cycle 0 but think everyone is different. But you are good to go. Lots of us feel the need to get pregnant straight away it's natural.

dildo I am using cb digital dual ovulation expensive but finding it works better than cheapies
emki will be thinking of you this week. Hoping you get a BFP this cycle.

Omama welcome and so sorry to hear the reason you are here, it must be heartbreaking, hope you are taking care of yourself. I don't know if this helps as I had my MC very early and naturally, so it isn't the same I think as it sounds like you have really been through it, but we started TTC straightaway, I think it helped me feel positive, although we were told to wait for dating etc. However, since 1 AF, I think I was still raw and very emotional the first cycle, maybe waiting would have been a good idea as I wouldn't have felt so disappointed at not getting a BFP straightaway. We are now putting it off for other reasons, and although I am gutted I am feeling relieved that I don't have to do the 2ww for a couple of months, I am slowly coming round the idea of a short break from TTC.
I am sure whatever you decide to do will be for the best - I worry about it taking a while and it didn't take us that long really this time, although with DD it did.
I used OPKs to see when I ovulated, then we just talked about it and made up our minds then to try again - you could just see what you felt like when you know you are ovulating.

Welcome omama sorry you find yourself here. 2be of course you're not a bad person for wanting that.

We started again as soon as stopped bleeding post ERPC and got AF a month later. Had no idea what day was what so we just enjoyed ourselves and took the pressure off in that month. Last week was fertile week so lots of baby dancing. Think I'm still recovering ;-)

You will know when it's right I'm sure. I do believe that although you feel physically ok quite quickly post ERPC your body still needs time to sort itself out. Emotionally it can take a lot longer. In no way tho are we being disrespectful to the babies that didn't make it by wanting another one, I truly believe that. bakingtins linked a wonderful article over the weekend that's a wonderful read. If you're lurking lovely lady can you link it on here xx