We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

{{{hugs}}} for Ickle. I agree, you are in good hands.

Aly is right Ickle - at least you'll be in the hands of fertility experts who can give you all the help you will need as opposed to the indecisiveness of a gp who might make you wait a year before they even refer you to a specialist. .

Sounds like you've had a really shitty time lately though, hope you get back on the mend soon.

yikes that was a lot of crossing out. sorry guys. got a bit enthusiastic

oh ickle
perhaps your silver lining could be the fertility clinic referral - at least it's better to get referred now than have to wait for months and months....

saggy i'll be very angry if you POAS before friday. Be strong! Early POAS is not allowed if AF was due for you today that would be another question entirely
sundance..... of course you should hold out until friday to test. if i were you i'd test tomorrow if AF still hasn't come

Hi everyone,

Good to see some familiar names & hello to everyone else!

Haven't been around a while as developed a whole new problem - abnormal & excess bleeding which would soak through pad after pad. Have been in a gynae ward all w'end but have been finally diagnosed with an ovarian cyst which I'll need surgery for. I've also been referred to a fertility clinic as it seems the MC may have triggered my PCOS to act up again. Great eh? Have to go through a MC & then face this as well? Please send me some positifrickinivity!

Hmm, thanks for the positive thoughts, though I've checked and am getting slight spotting now! Could, just could be implantation bleed but I'm not at all hopeful, think the evil witch is playing games with me again!!

Fingers crossed for you Sundance its not over till its over!
I'm on the last run up to AF now and the temptation to POAS is strong, knowing that I always get early BFPs! I MUST wait until at least Friday! Especially because of the random spotting!

Sundance, are you sure it's not implantation pains you are feeling? Especially as AF was due yesterday. Having said that, my LP can vary between 14-18 days...

As for the wine, I'm not a big drinker any way, and I usually only drink at the weekend, so I shall play it by ear, I think.

that would be 'chocolate'....not chocollate, though I think that sounds better! :)

Hi ladies, hope you all had a fab weekend.

I'm still waiting for AF to rear her ugly head. Got the tummy ache, craving chocollate, have been horrendously moody with the DH, so I know it's imminent, but should have been here yesterday really. We're going on holiday on Saturday and I don't want to be stressing about pains when we're away so need her here now!!

RE drinking - I would normally only really drink during af, but I did have a few glasses the other night as it was for a special occasion. That said, how many people get pregnant without realising and keep drinking, smoking and eating things they shouldn't for the first few weeks?! I think if you want to be prepared and give it your best shot then sadly, it's a case of abstaining from it until af arrives!

Need to find the strength not to POAS, knowing full well af is on her way...but there's part of me just hoping it might be my turn!!

The Red Tide of Doooooom

phew saggy that's good news.

DDMF I don't bother with giving up during the 2ww. I have the rule I don't drink anything unless it's the weekend. And if I was "feeling pregnant" and the weekend coincided with the very end of the 2 ww I might not drink much anything

Urgh, sorry about the apostrophe in 'its'. Set my own teeth on edge!

Phew Saggy - and how awful about your friend DearlyD. On the booze front, it's one of the only things I actually do towards Project Desperate, other than pee on OP sticks (though DH still thinks I'm obsessed by it - he would flee to the hills if I suggested the syringe!). I drink during AF (something to look forward to/drown the pain) and then abstain the rest of the month. I know it's irrational, but after the ectopic a tiny bit of me thought 'was it the drinking?' - not that I drink a lot, or that it could have made much difference even if I did, but I just want to know I've done everything I could to encourage S to meet E, and my remaining sodding fallopian tube to shifts it's tiny arse and waft the thing in the right direction. I mean, it has one job, how hard can it be?!

What's TRTOD?!

Aly I knew what you meant, of course! Good luck with the next few days of SMEP - I'm going to do that next month...if we can.

missmakes so sorry to hear about your DH's job, what a blow. I hope he finds another one soon, it must be a real knock to the confidence. Know what you mean about pessimism - I feel like I've achieved it this month. But on the other hand, I keep thinking about athletes improving their performance through positive visualisation and belief - and we're baby-making athletes, so maybe it can help!

Oh thank goodness saggy

Thank God. Friend has been found safe and well. -

Oh saggy, that is awful. I have been in a similar position and it is a terrible place to be. We were at the other end of the country and completely helpless really. (and in our case, the news, when it came, was not good )

All you can do l guess, is stick with your mobile in case she is trying to get in touch. Hope you get some good news soon.

Fingers crossed for badhair and saggy

AF got me this morning, but up until late last night I was still thinking 'perhaps that thermometer is faulty...'. Silly really, but hope has to be a good thing surely. And I'm sure I'd be gutted by the arrival of AF even if I had been more realistic of our chances. A little bit of optimism makes the 2ww less of drag, does it not miss makes? Maybe.

Any way, CD1 for me now. I might even get serious and give up the booze. What does everyone else do re. alcohol? Abstain all month, or just during the 2ww all the better to drown your sorrows when TRTOD arrives

Well my spotting appears to have stopped. I don't care right now though. Just got word that a friend has been missing since Saturday. She's tiny, and not always physically well and we don't have any details. Really not sure what to do!

of course you can stay missmakes!

We had a niceish day at the beach today (even though we encountered three accidents on the way there and back) and DD did make me feel really happy for a bit, she let us have a lie in this morning and has been mostly lovely and funny all day, sometimes I do think do I really want to do the newborn thing all over again - then I saw a tiny baby at the beach and remembered how lovely it all is. Mostly.

Alyant we DTD on the Friday, I did have symptoms of ovulation but didn't get a positive OPK until Tuesday, then again Weds, which ties in with my cycle - so I don't think we would have anything but a tiny chance from that. We did try Sunday but DH (ahem) wasn't up to it...TMI but I think losing his job has really hit him for 6, he is very worried. I did sit down and work out that by really tightening our belts and only spending what is absolutely necessary we could get by on the money he was given for redundancy and my wages for 6months, we also have some savings - but he doesn't seem convinced still.

I am kind of the mind to wait another month or so, then try to persuade him to start TTC again.

Dearly You're right, The hope thing is a killer, even though I know there isn't a chance this month and I know that when I got pregnant the last two times I felt it practically straight away, sickness and sense of smell etc, but I still will be symptom spotting in a week or so, you betcha. Glad I am not alone...I am also an optimist. However trying my best to be a pessimist, as I just spend my life constantly disappointed. Pessimists probably get a nice surprise every so often, surely?!

Probably best I am not allowed out in polite company. So even though we are officially Not Trying can I stay?

Hello everybody - saggy - I am spotting too, one whole week early and am trying not to think it might be an implantation bleed. But it might be, mightn't it?! Am keeping fingers crossed for us!

I just went to a lovely BBQ but was v abstemious and didn't drink. Am sure all my pals will think I'm already up the duff. Am also consoling myself with the thought of wine next weekend if the dreaded AF shows up on schedule.

Hello to seaside - thanks for your kind thoughts towards us post-ectopic, unitubed gals. Over - hope you feel a bit better today.