Gap Between Children

I have a 6yr gap between ds and dd as I had them with different husbands. It's great, there was very little jealousy from ds and they get on really well together, they are now 8.5 and 2.5. It's really a joy to see them together, she misses him when he's not here and he's very protective of her and proud to have a small sister. All very Charlie and Lola in our house, it's lovely, go for it. Plus you actually do get some time with the baby during the day because the older one is at school.

3.5 years btween dd2 and 3

5 years beyween me and sis - have great relationship

ds was 4yrs 4mtgs when dd was born. I don't think of it as a large gap either. The way I saw it was that as I'm young I would rather spread things out a little as I've got the choice. If I had another (I'm not sure I will) I would want another big age gap.

I can honestly say it's been easy. I worried myself sick during my pregnancy feeling really guilty on ds as we were so close and I felt so bad, but I needn't have worried. I don't remember the newborn bit being difficult (and I'm a single parent - have been since dd was born) I was taking him to school on the Monday after having her on the Friday. It all worked well as I knew as long as I got up and got ds out the house, he was getting his time at school, away from the baby, and I was getting my time with her.

Dd has always been very easy. She just fell into a routine, I think because of school run etc it was the same every day.

She is a lovely toddler, very bright as she's picked up lots from ds. They play very well together and ds is very protective of her. They have their moments (when they gang up on me!) but they don't really fight, I think because ds knows he's that much older and bigger than her.

I would say go for it, definately. I would never chose to have children close together. I'm a childminder and found it such hard work having dd and my mindee (a year younger)

With a big(ish) age gap you get to enjoy them properly!

I have 4 girls.8 years between dd1 and the dts (I didn't want more than one child and then my hormones took over ). I was worried about how the little one would keep up but it worked out ok cos they have each other! Dd1 was ok because she was/is old enough to understand and being at school meant she was fairly independent and had her own interests. The twins are now nearly 3 and dd4 is 9wks (although not at home at the mo but that is another story) but dd1 is great with them-reads stories,plays with them etc (sure they argue too but what siblings don't? )

I have 3 sisters the eldest 2 are 18 months apart and the next 2 are 2 years apart ... me? I'm 9 years younger than my eldest sister and 5 years younger than my next youngest sister

its fab

stop worrying

if you want a baby have one .. and the gap will be the best thing any family could ever have (I'd lay money on it and you feeling sorry for families who have different gaps )

i have a gap of just under 4yrs, i don't consider it a large gap but others might, we started ttc when ds was 21/2 i finally conceived when ds was 3.3yrs and dd was born 2 weeks short of ds 4th birthday, it has worked wonders for us and ds is now nearly 7 and dd is 3 in 2 weeks

I have 5 and a half years between mine due to combo of PND and infertility. DD (now 11.5) was desparate for a sibling. DS is(now 6). It was great when ds was a baby and toddler as dd was at school so I had a lot of time to spend with him and dd loved playing with him and helping look after him. Now they are either at each others throats and screaming and shouting or getting on beautifully. There is not much middle ground. I think it's partly due to the age gap but has more to do with their very different personalities and dd's raging hormones. It can be quite difficult practically esp on holiday as dd and ds are not into the same things (the beach being an exception) and cinema trips and things can be awkward. We do a lot of trips with one child to one parent. I wouldn't be without either of them but it's been quite hard.

I think dd would have been very spoilt had we not had ds as my parents are local. It's been good for her to have to share Granny.

Sorry this is such a long answer.