I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

Thunder your post has just made cry. I hate all this. It's so unfair. Why has this happened to us all? I was so naive before started trying, didn't even think stuff could go wrong, and that desperate feeling of wanting a baby so much. Even though I don't post much mn has been lifeline for me, and still is. I'm v relieved to have bfp of course but I'm now absolutely rigid with fear about it all happening again. And there is nothing we can do about it other than keep trying. I KNOW we will all have healthy babies. The evidence out there is weighed in our favour. And in the meantime we can help each other not go as mad as we would without mn! I cant and dont want to talk to anyone in rl about it, they all say the wrong things, so this thread has really reassured me and made me feel far less alone. I hope you all have lovely bh and the sun spreads some baby dust magic xx

Sorry crossed posts, thunder glad to see you're still going to be lurking!

Congrats mummy!

thunder do stay - or come back once you've had a bit of time off as topslou says - myself I'm settling in for a long stay, as it took me 9 months to get first BFP.

ariel we've thrown caution to the winds and got going before first AF - though we're taking more of a 'when we feel like it' approach than before, when we were ttc - will be going back to every other day once I had first AF as have better idea of what my body's doing. Though I have v irregular periods so never really know!

Right, off for the weekend now - hope you all have a lovely bank hol and see you Tuesday! X

Hi everyone,

Firstly thank you for the lovely messages and you are all right about this being a great place to be.

Secondly, I really really don't want anyone to feel bad about getting a bfp here- I really am genuinely thrilled for my friends here to graduate and hopefully to have successful healthy pregnancies. It's not your good news that makes me feel bad, it's my situation!

I won't disappear then, I might go quiet for a bit but I'll be here in the background waiting for the good news and butting in when I can't not

On that note- iron supplements, use SPATONE! It's great- natural iron-rich water in sachets so you don't get the side effects. I think you can get it prescribed in some places too.

And in my news, my thyroxine dose has now been increased a bit. The doc said if I wasn't ttc she would happily leave it as it is, so I'm pleased she and I both have the same goal.

to you all lovely ladies.

(ps give up coffee/wine in 2ww?! I don't think so!)

Wow - all these BFPs! Well done mummy and kat and anyone else I have forgotten!

Hope everyone has a lovely bank holiday weekend.

I still can't wait for AF. Am currently googling stats to see if you really have to wait or whether we should just get shagging...

Quick google search later...

Though other research says every day!

I read somewhere that every other day is optimum as it gives sperm a chance to save up. No idea if that's true but it might be worth looking into if only to rescue DHs!

Oh my days - 5 times in a week is an immense effort!! We managed 4 times (and that was a stretch) and after that DH almost looked almost scared / worried if I came towards him!!

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That's more times in a week than we do for the rest of the month do think I've worn him out!

Evening ladies. Thanks for setting up the new thread saggy.

Congrats on the BFP mummy, great news.

Thunder - dont leave us. Why don't you take a few days/weeks away? I did this at the beginning of April as really needed to sort my head out and think of something other than babies for a while and it really worked and I'm feeling much more positive. I did miss everyone tho.

My planned sexfest this week has not worked out quite to plan. I was thinking twice a day while we were away and once a day when we got back and we must have only managed 5 times all week. Hoping that one of them was at the right time. I will be poas on 17th May. Just the horrible 2 ww to endure now. Thinking lots of positive thoughts and using my nervous energy to boost my get bikini ready fitness campaign.

What about coffee? Do people stop drinking coffee when ttc? I carry on with wine and coffee but keep it to a minimum

mrsexciited I just for AF 10 weeks after erpc - got tell you what a relief it is - I went for a scan 10 days ago and that was a great help as they could tell I just ovulated so if you're going crazy waiting see if you can book in for a scan at the epau x

mummy it's fab news and gives everyone hope - huge congrats xxx

So now that ill be ready to ttc soon I'm going to get a massage and reflexology and try and be as calm as possible eek!!!!

mummy you have to post bfp news. What else are we here for afterall?

chips I don't stop drinking entirely after ov but I do try and cut down a bit.

Thanks for the congrats ladies - think its sinking in!

I really hope I haven't upset anyone by putting my BFP news on - I honestly didn't expect to fall pregnant so soon after my miscarriage in Feb. I was hoping to stay on the thread for a bit if that's okay - I'm just so scared after last time.

I hope everyone is enjoying the lovely weather - sunshine on a bank holiday weekend - unheard of normally!!

New thread! I might manage to stay upto date with this one.

Still no sign of af or bfp 7 weeks since erpc now and getting a tad bored of waiting for some sign that am still fertile!!

Thunder, you have todo what is right for you! I have found myself increasingly lurking here than actively posting as it is hard to stay positive. Good luck on your jouney.

Chips I don't stop drinking at ovulation time. I just carry on as normal in the hope not thinking about it will make it happen. It hasn't yet

Thunder totally understand if you need some time out. I left the boards at Xmas because I was obsessing too much and the break helped my sanity levels.

Is anyone else fed up with taking folic acid everyday to no avail? I'm trying so hard to be zen about things but am definitely fed up at the moment! I'm 39 and went through a real period of I don't want another baby with such a large gap all this week... BF will make a fantastic dad but I'm so torn with what to do. Obviously if I got a sticky BFP I'd be over the moon but I am trying to come to terms with it not happening too and counting the blessings I do have. Doesn't help that ex is getting remarried tomorrow..! Woe is me yadayadayada.

Do stay with us, Thunder, you'll be sorely missed otherwise.

OLTT when we first started ttc my DP was anti-infertility treatment - he's very 'Darwinian' and assumed that the genes weren't good enough to continue into the next generation if you couldn't conceive naturally. However the months passed with absolutely no sign of pregnancy and those initial somewhat superior thoughts were no longer voiced!

Anyway, we had to ttc for two years before a referral to the infertility clinic. It took a while to get treated, but after 3 years I finally got a bfp from my first cycle. Unfortunately the little one lost its stickiness in March, but were already on to our next cycle and full of hope. At least we know we can conceive now, which we had our doubts about.

Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is don't make assumptions about the response from your DH without talking to him, and there is help out there for all types of infertility problems. I appreciate that we have different problems but infertility specialists can work wonders - I work with a woman who has repeated miscarriages but managed to have a baby three years ago with lots of monitoring and injections (as well as having a son who is 10). You just need to put yourself in front of the specialists and get them to consider your specific fact pattern. Please don't give up hope yet!

chips are you charting? Like bbt or ewcm? I learned from this thread anything is possible on cycle 0. Though myself was only 1 week late on my first mc. If you are charting then you could work on the principle that AF is due 14 days after ov.

I didn't stop drinking until bfp for DD. but after my first mc I stopped at ovulation because I got paranoid about it. I don't want to jinx anything. Didn't do me any good though as I had a second mc.

Also, what are people's views on drinking? Do you all stop around ovulation time?

Hi, I MCd 11/04 so not sure when to POAS but I reckon if I don't come on by Fri 17/5 I'll do a test - what do you think?

It was really scary seeing how much blood I was losing. It was like a leaky tap, with occasion huge fish sized clots. I was given an IV drip because of the blood loss before my (emergency) ERPC. I never thought an MC could be so dangerous. My first MC was just like a bad period. I can't help thinking if I wasn't in a place like the UK (with good medical facilities), I could have died. I felt even stronger about the Indian who died in Ireland after a 4 day miscarrage. I know it wouldn't happen to me over there because my scan showed only an empty sac. But before this I couldn't have imagined how scary and serious this is.

Sorry for that rant. It's only 2 weeks since the ERPC so I still feel sad about it.

Looking on the bright side, it's a long weekend and I don't have work on Monday . And yes I could have some wine