I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

ariel I just did the same thing. I was peeing on a stick just to see if I ovulated. Got poss yesterday and got so excited DTD. Then panicked that should have waited for one period after mc. Now think might as well do it tonight too. I am sure it won't be that easy to get a bfp this time. Don't mind a wait as long as its a sticky one

Is anyone else thinking its time to bring a bit of romance to the situation. I wanted to DTD last week and my DP said "oh are u ovulating" I said no just wanted to do it for fun. He said he was surprised an shocked.

Yes a disappointing fertile Friday. Hopefully that means we are due a flurry during the coming weeks. Only cd8 here so still got 4 weeks before poas. Using cbfm for the first time so hopefully I get a peak. Never really got on with internet opks.

go guff go!
we're aiming for tonight as well - 2 nights in a row! Only because we are flying out tomorrow and won't arrive until late, and then will be sharing a room with DD... So it has to be tonight. Hope we can manage it. eeek the pressure.

oh no chips! We have lost the fertile friday mojo. Hope it comes back with a vengeance next week

It's early days chips keep DTD!!

BFN here :(

I was 31 when I had DS1 and I was the younger end of my NCT group. They won't all be 20. The classes tend to be when you are in the mid-30-weeks but they fill up fast, so you need to sign up early on but probably wait until you have a BFP Our classes were all in September and we have October and November babies.

Happy Friday everyone,

Decided lack of BFPs today, hopefully it means we're going to have a bumper week in a couple of weeks

birds and chips you're not out yet!

Right I've informed DH things need to get going properly tonight and we will be heading straight for the bedroom once DS is down and he can then cook me dinner, I hope the pressure won't be too much!

I don't reckon I'm ovulating yet but judging by CM it's getting close, so am aiming for every couple of days. Yikes, feel knackered thinking about it!!

Chips I was the youngest at my NCT group (was 27 when I had DS) the others were all early to mid 30's.

chips I can't remember when I signed up for the NCT class, but it was deffo a while after my 12 week scan, and possibly even after the 20 week scan. I'm 34 and most of us are around the same age. One is 40, another 36 or so. The youngest is 25.
I don't know what I'd do without my NCT gang, they are wonderful (apart from all being preggo again!!!).

OLTT makes a good point about nurseries - sign up ASAP! I signed up as soon as I'd had the 12 week scan, and we only just managed to get a place for her at 8 months old. That was April last year, so a bit of an unconventional time I suppose.

OLTT I'm sure it'll be fine if you can dtd tonight. Or - here's a cunning plan - both sneak home at lunch for a quickie

Ah yes, that would've been good timing. My perfect timing would be next September but I hadn't even considered nursery places, it's more to do with the maternity package I would get from work (If I conceive before December I will only get a small increase in SMP for 6 weeks, after December I would get 3 months full pay before going onto SMP). I hope it doesn't take that long but at least I have that in the back of mind.

I will be 36 in a couple of weeks so I guess I will be an older mum too, I hope the NCT group isn't full of 20 year olds.

chips I signed up last time when I had my 20 week scan. They do get filled up quite quickly so you need to book as soon as possible. But because I was already an older mum (36 last time), I don't feel it's all real until after the second abnormality scan. You can sign up for the classes on the NCT website.

By the way, it's the same for nursery if you plan to go back to work. You need to sign up asap. There are huge waiting lists for the popular ones. I didn't get into my first choice until DD was 18mo. (It was the first September after I went back to work). The nurseries told me most spaces are freed up in September, and a smaller amount in Janurary. I was so happy with my timing originally when my first MC had a Sept due date. I thought I wouldn't have to stress so much like I was with my DD who was a Spring baby.

At what stage do you join an NCT group? Just curious, looking forward to that part.

Morning all. birds, it's not over until AF comes, like they always say. Besides, as we all know, cycle 0 is going to be a weird one.

I didn't have any good news either. Last night, I planned to jump DH for some BD because I have ewcm and we last DTD 2 nights ago. But DD woke up at 10pm and cried and cried. Took us till 11.30 to get her back to sleep. So ofc we didn't get to have any BD at all, and fell asleep very very tired. I'm hoping I haven't missed the window

ah bugger birds. perhaps next week?
anyone else POAS today?? Come on folks....

ariel I think that's exactly right about no physical reason to wait for the first AF. We ttc that cycle but it didn't work for us

sex-fest started here last night and I feel really hopeful for this cycle. Please please please please please work this time...
Heading off on holidays tomorrow. 2 weeks in the sun, hurray! Hopefully the lovely weather and relaxation (can you relax when taking a not-quite-two year old on holidays?) will create an optimum implantation environment in my uterus.

tins thanks for the sensibility. I did make a slight exaggeration by saying that I'm the only one not pregnant from my NCT group. There is one other who isn't either, and I know that she had 2 MC before her DD. So that's a bit unfair isn't it? The rest of them are now having 2 pregnancies completely easily, and the one girl who deserves a good run the second time round is struggling to get pg again. Mother nature is a bitch.

ariel we planted a Monkey Puzzle tree in the garden on the EDD for our lost one....I had started referring to him or her as 'monkey' while I was pregnant so it seemed fitting. I like sitting by it (on the odd days when its not freezing or chucking it down with rain!) as it gives me a bit of comfort.

I have to stop myself POAS after my Wednesday fail. I have to go shopping for baby clothes for BF's nephew (1yo) at lunchtime so no doubt I'll be straight into Boots afterwards

Sorry Birds, hope you enjoy your weekend

Ariel that's what i saw and why we decided just to go for it - also couldn't be bothered to faff around with condoms, it seemed ridiculous.

Bfn here this morning but I knew it was a long shot. Not really expecting anything to happen for a while given how long it took first time round. And on the plus side it means I can have a glass of wine or two when I go out for lunch with DH and my best friend on Sunday! - my nice thing for this week. x

Hi ladies. I couldn't remember if I'd updated or just dreamt it.

Was trying to wait for AF but got impatient and DTD. Think I was ovulating as EWCM was decidedly present. Not expecting anything but thought it wouldn't do any harm!

Looked at miscarriage association website and it said that you have no more or less chance miscarrying again if you don't have a period in between, which is something that was concerning me.

Sorry to hear about the ladies who are feeling shitty, and that some husbands/partners are struggling too. Mine is up and down - part of him is excited about trying again, part of him is still very sad. At least he is happy to talk about it I suppose.

The rose bush I bought for the lost baby is doing brilliantly! Lots of foliage and new buds.

Fingers crossed birds you never know xxxx

nearlyready I like the idea of taking your grumpiness to the GP! Don't know about tests I'm afraid but someone upthread mentioned having a scan 8/9 weeks post erpc when AF hadn't arrived, to see what was going on - so maybe you could ask for that?

dearly poor you, sounds rubbish. I hope you can manage to have a good talk at some point soon. My DH is definitely of the 'put anything difficult in a box' variety and he goes very silent if I ever bring up the mc - so I really sympathise, it's near impossible having a proper conversation when everything you say gets stonewalled or is met with total silence. I know he is sad about it but I think he feels it doesn't help to go over it all - so eventually I just ended up talking to friends/colleagues about how I was feeling rather than him. We did talk about ttc again though and I'm trying to be a little less obsessive (or less obviously so) and just have lots of sex! Definitely agree with others who said pressure doesn't help matters.

Interesting what people have said about opks - i think next cycle I'll be giving them a try.

But in the meantime I will be pointlessly POAS'ing tomorrow morning - 5 weeks post-erpc, no AF yet, I haven't got a chance but am doing it anyway! though I have been feeling a bit nauseous this week

Really glad to hear you're doing well tins x

Looks like I started us all off on a good moan today :)

Thanks for all the kind words, I'm not sure what I'd do without this group! I know I'm being stupid about only being on cd14 I think it's just that the only time I ever got a positive on cd14 I got my bfp!

It hasn't helped that dh has been very down at the moment and so things have been stressful and he hasn't wanted to plan things.

But feeling a bit more positive this evening and got a family weekend coming up and then seeing my best friend in a couple of weeks.

Really hoping for some bfps tmrw to cheer us all up :)

nearly I was the same - AF took 10 1/2 weeks after erpc felt so bloated and tired - I didn't go to the doc but went for a scan to see what was going on ... Don't know about any tests though sorry xxx

I am def on the right thread here, this week I am the grumpiest grump in the world. Tomorrow I am taking my grumpyness to the GP. Still no AF 10 weeks after erpc. And im knackered and need to loose weight but despite dedication have lost tiny tiny amount. sigh. So tomorrow I need my iron checked and I was wondering if there are any other tests I could ask him to do re mc?

Well done tins xxx and thanks for sticking around - a beacon of hope xx