I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

So I have completely strayed from the rules (sorry!) and have got a BFP this afternoon Feel free to fish slap me!

I thought about testing yesterday but AF was due today and couldn't bring myself to risk another BFN yesterday (and there was no way I could wait until next Friday!). I've felt a bit nauseous this week but also really felt like AF was on its way. Also wouldn't let myself think it until I woke up this morning and felt properly sick and just knew.

Now feeling hugely guilty about the alcohol I consumed last night....but after months of stressing and doing everything by the book I think it's actually the fact that I've relaxed that might have helped things.

Will obviously be on here for some time yet - a least until I get past 12 weeks (fingers crossed) x

Hi Guffsmuggler is this the thread you were recommending I could join (I'm from the pregnancy loss boards)? I just wanted to check I'm in the right place! DH and I waited for first AF after ERPC and then got a smiley on digital opk this cycle. We dtd but I don't think we did it at textbook 'optimum' times but there's no point in us getting obsessed and fraught as the ttc journey is emotionally tough enough already on all of us folks methinks. In the waiting phase now.

PS saggy I'm due 26th too, is going to be a loooonnnnggg couple of weeks! I imagine I'll buckle and POAS by 24th....

Right, got EWCM today. DTD yesterday, but DH is out at the rugby all day today, I told him he better not be too drunk to DTD when he gets in later.

GAH and I was going to 'be cool' this cycle about TTC and I feel totally neurotic. How can anyone possibly be relaxed about TTC after a MC, it is beyond me. Thank goodness you ladies understand how crazy it can make you.

MrsF So sorry you are having such a tough time, you must feel so helpless I agree with rock tell him contraception is for him to sort out then as I bet he won't bother.

Emki I roared at you forgetting you had actually DTD since the MC, best not tell your DH is was so memorable

saggy I haven't had that dream but have had some horrible dreams since the MC, guess it's your brain processing everything, horrible.

Cbfm saying high so we've just had a lovely Sat morning dtd. I love the bit around ovulation where you feel excited and in with a chance. Before you start going crazy with symptom spotting, but when it's just nice. It makes me think back to the TTC smiley chart a few threads back which really made me giggle. Perhaps we should add that to the top of all our threads alongside the poas rules. Oh by the way, I know I said a while back we weren't going to try until after the uterus scan; well that's out of the window! Scan is on 21st though - slightly terrified.

Rockchick, glad I made you laugh. It wasn't that though! Def the other thing.

Saggy, harsh dream. I haven't had any pregnancy/baby dreams since the mc (though got loads while pg).

I've had two pregnancy announcements this week. While I'm really happy for both of them hearing one really hurt. Like them both so no logic to it at all. Aren't emotions funny things. She was just so excited in all the same ways we were and it just puts you in touch with what you're missing :-(.

Sorry to hear that some of your DH/DPs are being really insensitive. I really think that they have very little, if no clue what is going on with us. Regardless of how much we try to explain

Things are looking relatively ok at my end - in spite of this being the wtf cycle after mc, it appears that I ovulated when expected and am now on 6 DPO, temp is on the rise
I shall poas next Friday, anyone joining me?!?

Camomile never had it but your post just made me smile - when we were first TTC I thought I was getting EWCM every day until I realised it was DH's baby gravy the next morning - obviously not saying that's what yours is, I was incredibly naive!

MrsF I'm sorry your DH is being so insensitive. I'd be tempted to leave him in charge of contraception, I know my DH would rather not use condoms and would just abandon them if he knew I wouldn't insist so we would end up TTC anyway, do you think that would work?

Saggy I've not dreamed about being pregnant but about having a newborn and woke up hugging my pillow

MissP that made me smile, definitely think you've done this a few times already!

oh no saggy, I had that too and its awful. Really upset me for the rest of the day.

Sorry to hear things aren't good at the moment ddmf.

Can't believe we've had no luck on fertile Friday. Absolutely rubbish.

I've random ewcm today, on day 11 of what is usually a 33-36 day cycle. Bit thrown by it. Has anyone else had random ewcm and does it mean I'm ovulating early or just something else going on. Can it be triggered by sweet and sour pork balls which is what shamefully was my dinner this evening? I've got a cbfm so I guess I'll just see what it says tomorrow.

Xx

Thanks saggy

Well, DH and I had the heart to heart last night and it didn't go too well.

I explained how I felt when he made the decision for both of us and then ignored my upset. He acknowledged he was in the wrong but then said he might not want to try again

I then left the room and cried myself to sleep. As usual DH has woken up today like nothing ever happened and has ignored my distinct coolness towards him all day. Feel like I'm going round in circles.

There will be no amorous advances any time soon in Finchville. But good luck to everyone doing the horizontal tonight!

emki I don't think that you forgot will cheer your DH up. Lol
saggy your a better woman than me if you can wait till 31st.

I don't really know when to poas as haven't had af since last mc. Thought 14 days after poss opt would work or maybe before or maybe several different brands on different days and line them all up - pull them apart looking for faint line. Try and convince DP there is a faint line To which he will respond " I want to say I can see it but really I can't. Please use the digital one". As u can tell i have been through the 2 ww a few times.

I will be POAS on the 31st - possibly xx

I lied! We actually did it twice after the mc - totally forgot! Oh dear! We're going to need a lot of revving up!!

nearly I bought opk tests cheap on line. Strip tests. Work for me but I have heard other people not getting positives.

I bought the early pregnancy test cheapies too thought would test again before af due as so many early mc and I don't need another one on my list.

emki your right baby sized elephant is always about. Your DH probably just needs to get in the saddle again and then he will be rearing to go. My DP used to hate it when i demanded to DTD Now he has just accepted it for an easy life lol Our OH's must be as nervous as we are about another pregnancy.

Next pregnancy I am waiting till booking app to get excited. A BFP will make me smile but I won't think about possibly getting a baby at the end until I pass 12 weeks. I think that's the only thing that will get me sane.

Is anyone else poas on Friday 24th :-)).

I did POAS today mostly just for fun as really there's not much chance but I live in hope, it was negative too.
Just wondering what ovulation pee sticks you all would recommend? Since I don't have a normal cycle the clear blue ones would work out v v expensive so any cheaper ones that work?

Fingers crossed for you topslou xx

Sorry to hear no BFPs today. Hoping our lucky streak is back next week. As long as AF doesn't arrive on Thursday I'll be poas next Friday, keeping my fingers crossed!!!

lies i'm also on CD8 and will be using CBOPK - its going to be interesting this month, realised we haven't actually DTD since Christmas!!!! which is when I last got pregnant... eek!

Yes romance would be good .... your post made me laugh missp but there is always this big baby shaped elephant in the room even when I'm pretending we're just doing it for fun!

I said to DH last night that first AF had been and gone, time to start DTD soon and he got really cross! He asked me why I had to be so weird about it all ..... I thought oh no here we go again ... just what we were talking about up the thread a bit ...egg shells I'll be walking on again ...

to everyone - its a Friday night x Happy holidays aly