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I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 03/05/2013 11:25

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods... Grin

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Emki · 21/05/2013 17:41

Good for you floweroct we need all the positive vibes we can get - I'm feeling quite good too even though I'm at start of 2ww - also feel lucky that I'm off to France for a few days next week so that will keep me busy and not too anxious - am I? Aren't I? Can't be, could be??

After second mc I've told people we're taking a break from ttc as couldn't take the pressure of people waiting/ asking - even though I know they just mean well - I've said it's been too much and we just need to rest - this is why all of you are all so important as I have no one else to share embarrassing information with!!! Hee hee Grin

Floweroct · 21/05/2013 16:53

Well done emki I did a return home for lunch last week! Glad i didn't read your story first sapphire!

I'm feeling quite positive at the moment even though I'm in 2ww not even sure how many dpos I am but should probably not test til early next week. I'm coming up to the time when I should have been going on maternity leave so not sure what ill be like for the next month or so but once edd has passed hoping it will be ok! Or even have my bfp before then.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 21/05/2013 16:06

Its just soo annoying! When I was accidentally PG and MC everyone was amazing. So supportive, just lovely. Announce that you are actually trying, and they look at me like Im insane! I suppose it just shows what they really feel! Sad

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RainbowConnections · 21/05/2013 16:03

You have my sympathy Saggy. Lovely as they can be, no one can quite get to you like your mum.

My Mum's top quote recently, "its amazing you're not skinny with all the running around you do". I hadn't mentioned my weight - and was actually feeling OK about my size having lost over a stone since MC.

OneLittleToddleTerror · 21/05/2013 13:58

birds I got my BBT thermometer from ebay.

BirdsDoIt · 21/05/2013 13:30

No no emki I'm with you on the yoga...embarrassing isn't it.

Glad to hear I'm not alone with the RAGE. Not helped by the fact it should have been 20 week scan around now. Must stop thinking about things like that. saggy your mum sounds like she's being impossible - poor you. My parents came to stay this weekend and mum kept telling me how I should relax a bit more (NOT in my nature, or hers), that i was too tired (yes, from running round trying to cater for you lot) and at one point said 'is your eye a bit bloodshot?...oh yes it is isn't it' (sounding quite pleased she'd noticed that). Well thanks mum, now I feel even better. If I felt like punching her, then I can't imagine the rage levels you must be experiencing saggy!

In happier news, DH was surprisingly enthusiastic about the idea of temping (though he is a scientist so I guess I shouldn't be surprised be liked the idea of collecting data). He did start looking a bit iffy when I shared my newfound knowledge on cervical mucus though, hee hee! Off to purchase a thermometer now - if I can find one in boots...

Emki · 21/05/2013 13:13

Googled and found out .... Does she not realise its not so simple!!! Hope I haven't embarrassed myself too much re- yoga ... Blush - xx

Emki · 21/05/2013 12:10

What did Kate Garraway say?

Emki · 21/05/2013 12:00

OLTT it's terrible and I'm sad I can't practice yoga in public! I did try wearing a tampon once .... Blush sorry if tmi xxx

OneLittleToddleTerror · 21/05/2013 11:45

I'm really laughing out loud on all the talks about ff. Really emki didn't know yoga can bring on bouts of ff!

Saggy I can't believe your mum is so insensitive Sad. I'm 38 too. When I had my second mc, the thought I'd no longer be a 38yo mum made me really sad. (It was due around my bday). I'm sure we are all well aware of that and don't need people reminding. It's the same with that Kate Garraway woman. It's so insensitive and condescending.

Emki · 21/05/2013 11:38

Oh saggy how insensitive of your mum!!!! What can you do to let out your rage? Do you have any walls that need knocking down??? Or maybe just sit and do some deep breathing.... I've had people say it to me - im 38 too - some people get menopause early / maybe you were only meant to have ds ..... Hummm grrrrr - why can't people just not say anything!!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 21/05/2013 11:31

GAH! Talking of the RAGE...
I'm out with my Mother today. If she mentions the FUCKING MENOPAUSE one more time I might have to get stabby! "We'll you are getting on a bit"... "Are you going to be one of those people who hit the menopause and its the end of the world"... "You are so touchy"...
I've just lost the plot and told her "NO, but I am ONLY 38 and trying to have a baby, so I would prefer it if you didn't keep on about it!" Sad Angry

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Emki · 21/05/2013 11:23

I only do yoga now at home to a DVD on my own! Since dd there have been many ff when doing yoga sooooo embarrassing!!!!!!

Birds and ddmrsfinch I posted on here a few weeks ago saying that I was in the foulest mood and kept crying - low and behold AF arrived - the first one after erpc was savage for me - maybe explain why you are feeling low .... Or it's simply because you've lost and hate the situation you are in - that is my general mood ATT!

Thanks for congrats - guess now its the 2WW!

CamomileHoneyVanilla · 21/05/2013 08:40

Fod, realised I haven't seen you in a bit and last time you posted things were really tough. Just wanted to say the posifrickintivity/ Laura Ashley thread is thinking of you. Xx

Also hats off to Emki for dedication!

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 21/05/2013 08:22

Respect Emki

Birds I have had the RAGE lately too. Also hoping that it is a sign of AF being on her way, although I am only on CD25 of my WTF cycle. And given that my previous cycles were somewhat erratic, I am hoping that I won't be waiting too long.

Emki · 21/05/2013 06:40

Morning - yes ttc definitely does send you crazy! We dtd - he's gone off to Ireland and I'm absolutely shattered!!!! Very early, undisturbed night tonight

I don't remember being this crazy after first mc .... Hope everyone ok and has a good day today xxxxxxx

Rockchick1984 · 20/05/2013 23:51

Sapphire that fanny fart story is brilliant - did your boss realise what it was or presume it was a normal fart? Not sure which would be worse though!!

Alice I'll try and be good and not POAS until fri 31st although not sure if I will hold out that long - that will be exactly 28 days since last AF - if I've not come on again by then of course! Not convinced I can wait that long but you never know. When are you testing?

Birds try the temping etc and see - I think different people react differently to how obsessive you become. If you go OTT I'm sure we will all subtly point it out to you :)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 20/05/2013 22:40

Fertility friend app you say?
I've been planning my long awaited trip to Shetland for next year. As soon as we get back from the Lake District this year, I'm going to start paying for it, bit by bit. Considering its in the uk, it's really expensive! Grin I am Soooo excited!

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BirdsDoIt · 20/05/2013 22:32

Hello ladies, sorry I haven't checked in for a while but hope you're all doing ok. I've had one of those days when you feel irrationally angry most of the time at most people. Especially pregnant people (who currently seem to be 50% of people i see). Perhaps AF is on her way - which would be good news - I'm now 6 and a half weeks post erpc and no sign otherwise...

sapphire, I laughed so loudly at your fanny fart story!! Brilliant!!! Don't think it got the acclaim it deserved. Has anyone had that happen to them during yoga?? It has to me. Soooo embarrassing.

emki congratulations on truly dedicated DTD. Top marks.

My happy Sunday thing - only a day late - is that we're going in holiday on Saturday! Only to Normandy but still, I will not be at work Smile

Have got fertility friend app and am now a world expert on cervical mucus types and furtling techniques (they have a tutorial with instructions and everything!) Now, will temperature charting and cm tracking turn me into -even more of an a crazy ttc obsessed lady? Or will it make me feel like I'm more in control and diminish the uncertainty around wtf my body might be doing? What do people think?

GuffSmuggler · 20/05/2013 21:30

Oh my word, 4.30am!? Are you crazy!?!?! TTC really does send you bananas doesn't it! I will be mightily impressed if you manage it.

Welcome baking sounds like you have been very unlucky, hopefully you won't be here long before a BFP.

Emki · 20/05/2013 21:18

Well dh said he's up for dtd at 4.30 am before he goes ... Eek!!!! Not sure this will actually happen! Will report back tomorrow xxxx

BakingBunty · 20/05/2013 20:58

Thank you Emki for the lovely welcome. I am doing better than I thought I would though good days and bad. Feeling glad that I finally plucked up the courage to post! And loving the sound of lunchtime dtd and fanny farts... You sound like my kind of people Smile

Emki · 20/05/2013 20:44

Hello bakingbunty welcome and sorry you find yourself here - hope you are doing ok x

BakingBunty · 20/05/2013 20:15

Hello all
I've been lurking for a while since having a mc at six weeks coming up for a month ago. I've taken such a lot of comfort from you even though I haven't contributed as yet, so thank you!
My mc was a c-sec scar ectopic, which means the embryo had tried to implant in the scar from my emcs with DS... which I had never heard of before it happened. Apparently very rare but that doesn't make me feel much better! But hormone levels were very low when tested when I started bleeding, so maybe it wouldn't have worked out anyway.
So I'm on the WTF cycle now, waiting for AF. Never been so keen for her to arrive!
Lots of positive vibes to all.