I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

Hi Thunder No - I was just waiting for the follow up appointment, but I've had all my results back and there is nothing wrong with me. I think we'll probably cancel or at least postpone the appointment, there doesn't seem to be any point. We had a chat about it today and the consultant thinks I am "superfertile" that's a fucking joke and my uterus accepts embryos that are flawed and should never get as far as implanting. She's still saying she thinks with the right embryo I can carry to term, but I just don't feel like I can face it. How many times can you go through this shit before you conclude it just isn't meant to be?

Oh, Bakingtins, I'm so so sorry. Life is just so unfair, so sorry that you have to go through this again.
Please look after yourself, hope that you get lots of RL support. Thinking of you and sending hugs x

tins weren't you due some more testing next month and then you got pg which put a hold on things? Is there more investigating they can do as to why it's gone wrong? Don't worry about answering if you don't want to be thinking about all this at the moment x

So sorry Tins that really is terrible news. We're here for you. That's the least we can do after all the support you've given to people on here.

Just had a little lurk and saw your news tins. I'm so do sorry, heartbreaking. Sending you a big hug. You don't need to decide anything, just look after yourself and be looked after too.

There's not a chance it's ok, I should have been 7+4 so 10 days beyond where they expect a heartbeat, and there's no doubt about my dates, they are just covering their behinds asking me to wait for another scan. Don't waste your posifrickingtivity holding out any hope for me, you need all you can get for some more good news on here. Don't want to hijack the thread, just explaining where I've disappeared to.

oh tins I'm so so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I really hope it all ends up being ok. Wishing you loads of love and hugs. xxxx

Oh tins I'm so sorry. You poor poor thing. I really really hope it's not what you're fearing - are they doing another scan in a week's time to check if a hb has appeared by then? God it's so tough. Big hugs to you and your DP.

Oh bakingtins I'm so so sorry, it is just totally shit You don't deserve this, it's so unfair.

We're here even if you just want to rant, you don't have to think about next steps yet xxx

So so sorry bakingtins can't imagine how you must be feeling.

bakingtins I'm so so sorry to hear this. Have they referred you for tests to see if there's anything wrong?

missp would also involve getting twin brother very drunk as he's gay .... But have to seriously consider if dh keeps going away during fertile window .....

bAkingtins. I am so sorry to hear this - tears in my eyes. It's so tough.
Are you sure dates are right? Big hugs to you.

tins I feel physically sick - I want to cry! I was just thinking of you this morning - your seat is reserved but hoping for a miracle /blessing / bestest of luck for you xxxxx

Can someone put a "reserved" sign on my seat for a while? 7+ wk scan shows no heartbeat and fetus too small, so MC 4 is on the way. I'm not sure I can bear to try again, but keep my seat warm for a bit whilst we think about it?

mtb welcome an sorry for your loss. No medical reason to wait - just for dating as ovulation can be unpredictable to first cycle - stress of size of baby heart beat not detectable and then rescanning and all the worry and waiting after you have Already had a horrible experience. That's why some tell you to wait a cycle.

Well folks started spotting at 10dpo and af arrived whilst drinking a glass of proscecco in covent garden ob my tomantic night away!!! Took the sadness out of it but glad af came back just slightly outside normal 28 day cycle DP suggests egg meets sperm plan this month so have anther week of rest and then all systems go. Has anyone else given it shot.

emki. Identical twin brother - sure who would know lol.

saggy I alternate between being positive and then thinking if I keep going there might be something wrong with baby and it's my fault for tempting fate or that I won't have another child and just accept it and not to put myself and my family through this.

sal you'll look great in your wedding photo. Don't think about how you'll look fat. Enjoy your big day.

saggy I know how you feel about alternating between normal and feeling very down. One moment I'll be thinking about having a new baby and feeling very positive about it. Another moment, I'll feel all sad about it never going to happen.

MTB I'm so sorry you are here. You can start trying as soon as you feel you are ready. I've asked the doctor in A&E and also my midwife after my first MC. The dating won't be a problem because I got another bfp in cycle 0 after my first MC, and the midwife just dated me from the MC. Google isn't the best doctor around

saggy & sal sorry to hear you're both down. It's such a chappy time. Sure you'll still be a gorgeous bride sal

mtb think the only reason Drs advise waiting for 1st AF is for dating but scans are pretty accurate really. If you both feel ready to try again it's probably fine. Sorry to see you here hope you're doing ok.

Morning all, mind if I jump on and join you all. Had an MC last week, confirmed on Monday, and well, feeling I need to get back in the saddle, now that I'm physically feeling a lot better, and emotionally more stable.

I'm just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on how long to wait after an MC before you try again, do I need to wait for AF? I read so many mixed views on line, that I wanted to ask those of you that had been through it themselves.