The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

kitty (its trying here) was waiting for fc appt, used opks for 1st time last month - had jusr been using calendar before - and did not get LH until CD20 - did not really know much about short luteal phase but read alot that day and went out and started taking 50mg B6 and a B complex as this is meant to boost/increase progesterob=ne and hopefully lengthen luteal phase and make/keep lining a bit thicker so hoping for better stick. I have a suspision that the 3 times i have been late in the last have been very very early mc's also this was a 3 week DTDathon !
So like i say I am hopefull but very early days. have done abit more reading and it seems 50-100 mg B6 is probaly safe in PG - 50mg is recomended for morning sickness so must be fine - helps with keeping lining so am goong to keep taking for now.

oh and guys, the 'brookers' thread are all getting up the duff you know! i think there must be summat in their water so i'm filling up our kettle from their thread!

Mrsboombastic LOVING the new name!!!!

Sorry, didn't realise it wasn?t the fc you were going to see. If its any consolation, we?ve been seeing the fc for 9 months and shes not much more use than a chocolate teapot either!!!

tally I wouldn?t know re your bedsheet question as I spend most of my time keeping the stuff in rather than out!!!

trying that?s GREAT news!!! Remind us, whether you?ve had any clomid or anything (if you don?t mind sharing!)

bunny that?s rubbish . I have that same glimmer each month too. Big hugs xxx

I don't blame you bunny. I'd be on the too.
So do you use opks? Just thinking about what the doc said.

Thanks guys! heres to starting a trend x x cheers

happy def hope from the 6 -swimmers live a good bit, and from 10 really!!
boom that is shocking - i work for nhs but still get surprised at how crap they can be, some people have the tact and emotional intelect of a rock, they should not be allowed to be Drs.
I can't imagine you would want to get involved in anything else stressy or i would suggest putting in a complaint, quoting what she said. it is not acceptable. I am sure however that they will accept a 'feedback' letter should you wish to send it to the manager of the practice. Might find writting it helps. I sent one to my mums gp a few years ago after some shocking practice and found writting it cathartic.
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
maybe look at councelling for both of you so you can both talk through how you really feeling in a 'safe' place.
tally 1. fold the towel over at the top as you wrap it round then tuck it in near your armpit.

1. generally we roll onto our sides whilse still having a bit of a cuddle, then i turn/slide onto my back as flatly as i can!

Congratulations trying. Hopefully this is the beginning of a flood of bfps for the berries!

boom and cate would you consider changing gps? Seems ridiculous they are making you wait so long especially considering NICE guidelines. I saw mine once at 6 months and fully intend going back to insist on starting the ball rolling in another 3 months when trying a year (if I haven't been lucky before then)

Oh wow Trying! Congratulations! It must feel so unreal! Really happy for you and glad you shared; don't get me wrong, I'm totally but glad it happened to a berry and not an insta-d!

Congratulations trying!!

Hope it's a good healthy sticky one!

cats yes I'm sure it is possible. And I think ov can be delayed for no reason too. You know a faint line isn't a positive though eh? Or do yours get continuously darker when surge coming?

HIYA GUYS!!!

Sorry have not been around for a bit. Have been living in hope in Sarahland (other wise known as my own own A*). Not really sure wether you guys would want to know but I have bitten the bullet and POAS today (again).
BFP. After 17 months.
Off to but another test or two as I am not quite convinced some how.
Had chance to read some of the above posts and am sad to not have got to know you all better before now x x x
Very very early days, so fingers crossed.

Hello all! Joining in on the grrrrrrs to bumps/fb scan posts/crap GPs.

My uPdate:
Charmingcats, 32 ttc since August 2012. Cd 20 of unknown cycle length.

Started using ic OPKs yesterday. Got a faint line thins afternoon, so I think dtd would be good this eve, but DH has a cold and not up for it. This is getting mor than frustrating after last week's lack of ejac.... Got more ov pain and cm, so not sure what was going on last week. I think I could have delayed ov due to stress. Is that possible?

And cate, jealous isn't the word for me. GRRRRRRR!!!!! Is closer to it.

Hi all,

bunny bollocks. That sucks. Sorry about the results too- do you use opks? (sorry I know I should know this)

frog I thought it was meant to be between 10-6 ish with the best time around 2pmish? On mine it said not to do it late or early. Worth doing them more than once a day too I reckon.

sid well summed up lady.

Sid count me in to join you in clobbering MrsBoom's GP she is as sensitive a mine!
MrsBoom your GP is rubbish can you see another GP next time you go? That's what I plan to do.

Just saw the Duchess of Cambridge with baby bump on the news looking beautiful as always....can't help but feel jealous

Quick qn anyone - on the cheapy OPKs do you know if it's important what time you test? I know you're not supposed to use FMU if you can help it but I'm pretty sure my original Boots ones said not to test after 8pm at night. Just asking because me & DP are off to theatre tonight so I won't be able to test till I get home - will that be too late? I didn't have a temp rise above cover this morning so haven't OV'd yet but it could be today. I'm hoping we still have time to bank another one! Rather irritatingly we've got a night in a hotel booked on Fri & thought it might be shag week but we'll have just missed it. Probably not a bad thing as will convince DP that I don't just DTD for his swimmers

Thanks for the reassurances ladies. OV usually arrives cd11-13 so not massively early just annoyed that we usually start shag week on cd8 and the law of sod has meant that the one time we start late I OV early grrr! No vino last night but we did have an Indian so maybe that caused temp rise?? Guess will have to wait and see [impatient emoticon]

Aaaah just got FB babyscan papped totally unawares! Not someone I know but the girlfriend of an ex who tagged him in it. Really wasn't expecting that as they're not married (not that should make any difference as neither are me & DP!), I thought he'd always been quite anti-kids & she already has a daughter who's about 16! Classic instadiffer

And bunny really sorry about AF

Boom on your behalf. How very dare the GP & your DH be so patronizing...that is really shocking. You went there for help, and they both basically patted you on the head and told you to go away. You could always get a new GP, one you could trust and knew the meaning of 'compassion,' and but assuming you want to keep your DH, I'll let you borrow how I've recently explained it to mine: every time you go for a wee, you're half hopeful, half agonized over what you might find (or not). Every 14 days you're either crushed, or mentally regrouping, or arranging things for maximum sexiness, or you're praying that the twinges you feel are good twinges and not ones that will start the rollercoaster again. It's relentless, and inescapable, and it hurts that your one partner in all this actually has the luxury of setting it aside, and getting drunk if he wants to, wallowing in illness if he wants to, or just being not in the mood or too tired, if that's how he feels. He is still in charge of his life, whereas your every move is at least sort of related to TTC.

Oddly my DH seemed to comprehend it after that. The tears helped.
Let me know if you want me to come round and clobber your DH, or the GP.

As to counseling, is there a Relate near you? They're a charity, and less pricey than private.

boom, I think the counselling idea is great. I went to a private place after my first mc be aide I was no linger wanting sex, and I really can't remember what she said, but it got me thinking and talking in a much more positive fashion. they charged, but it was income dependent so I paid the lowest whack. It really helped. Try asking at the epu in hospital or calling the miscarriage assoc. I actually think the treatment of women who miscarry is pretty shocking here - they might offer you a couple of sessions if you push for it but then nothing and no checking in wellbeing either. If you think you know the problem you're halfway to working out a solution and feeling SO much happier.

Maybe a MC association or charity could point you in the direction of counselling if you don't want to go back to your doctor? Or perhaps just phone up the drs reception & see if you can get the name of someone you can see privately?

I try & hide a lot of my obsessive normal TTC behaviour from DP now & only share it with berries. God help me the day he finds my exercise book in which I have been stapling annotated OPKs this month to check the various strengths of line! That was merk's idea anyway but is proving useful! Has anyone seen her recently? Our queen of pimping has gone missing in action.

How about private counselling then? I had some sessions last year about other issues and have contemplated going back. It's obviously going to cost you a bit of money but might help if you feel you have a lot of built up anger/upset from the mc. Just google counselling in your area and check that they are on the appropriate BACP list first.

I don't know if you do yoga but that helps me when I'm feeling anxious and upset.

'She didn't know why you were so distressed about it' ARE YOU SERIOUS?! I can't believe she actually said that to you. Does she not have any understanding of what you are going through? Apparently not.

I understand that feeling of wanting to figure out if there is something wrong now and not wanting to miss anything . If there is something wrong it means you can try and sort it out/deal with it now rather than spend months carrying on ttc and then they find out something is amiss which feels like wasted time I guess.

If you are obsessive and crazy then so are the rest of us on here and probably every other women ttc for 3 months or more!

I agree with the reflexology/acupuncture suggestion btw. It might help you feel like you are doing something to help you ttc and will indicate to DH that you are taking steps to try and relax.