The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

bunny my friend asked me a while back. Wouldn't mind but she reckons he was practically my idea as we talked about it at my wedding. on the way home, they pulled over in a layby ....and you can guess the rest!

tbf though, shes prob asking you as she knows what a good god mother you'll make

well in the last 2 weeks I've managed to leave the keys in the front door all night (next to the car), left the car open today, and then later the window open!!! Really hoping its pregnancy brain although its prob me just being dim!!!!

Hugs tally I am such an animal softie that I felt upset just reading it. As everyone said though he's obviously had a long life & if he was in pain from his arthritis it was probably for the best.

I thought of you yesterday btw when I saw a sign near me for a quilting exhibition.

6dpo so crazy symptom spotting has started - got the freaky greasy hair today that I randomly got the other month too. Not so convinced tho that didn't have a small glass of wine with lunch at my parents - pre implantation it's all ok right?

tallyra you have a sewing den??? Choc spread rocks! Have you tried the cadbury's philli? x

Thanks for the sympathy girls. dh was lovely on the phone but he went out for a bike ride after I left so now have an over excited dog I keep shouting at so I decided to hide. currently sitting in my sewing den eating chocolate spread and watching indulgent crap tv.
Sister took it well - she was possibly more concerned at how upset I was. but then she hadn't really seen her much this last year as she's been buying a house 60 miles away.

tally poor you - I would be worse than a blubbering mess. How did your sister take it?
all having HSGs I had one two weeks ago. Took two paracetamol and ibuprofen before, was absolutely fine - just undignified with the legs in the air business (but no worse than dildocam) little bit crampy when they put the dye in - but quite interesting to see tubes/lining etc so that takes mind off it. Don't worry about it for sure. My cons said there is an increase in natural conception for the few cycles after so we should really go for it.... Like we weren't anyway!

Hug for tally, what a sad day. I know it must have been awful but it's definitely a comfort that you were with her when she went.

Hi yorkie, how are you doing? Apart from having to put up with absolute twats making comments like that. Particularly AFTER you say you don't want to talk about it!

Oh tallyra thats awful! At least your sister will have the comfort that he was with with you when he went xxxxx

Tallyra that is just awful!! Poor bunny but it sounds like it had a great life and was well looked after. Hope you get over the shock - eat chocolate.

Guys, in a blubbering mess. went over to my mum's to feed my sister's rabbit as they are away this weekend. (sister moved out but rabbit stayed... ).
Rabbit was quite old and arthritic so I went to give her painkillers and she pretty much just lay over and died. I've made phone calls to let them know and made a cup of tea and now I'm trying to calm down. It's the fact that I was supposed to be looking after her that hurts most. I was worried about her yesterday so I had a feeling she wouldn't last long, but did I have to watch???

Morning all!

Haven't been on for a few days so feel like I've missed loads. Will have a proper catch up read in a bit.

Bunny sorry to read that AF arrived. thunder & boom saw that you were feeling down. Hope you're both okay and feeling a little bit better.

boom think you wrote something about considering yoga - I say go for it. I'm not flexible in the slightest and was worried about going to a class so I bought a yoga book from whsmith and do it at home. It's lovely and really recommend it - some of the positions are meant to be good for increasing fertility.

Re: insensitive comments. I wholeheartedly agree with everyone. On Fri a guy I work with was talking to me about his son then out of nowhere asked me if I was going to start trying soon. I barely know him! He caught me off guard and I just said I didn't want to talk about it so ge then carries on saying that me and DH should make the most of being on our own. SHUT UP!! Typically I then end up feeling guilty for saying I don't want to talk about it!

Morning all, anyone else hungover??

Shhhhhhhhh

to all the instadiffer not-really-relatives-but-close-enough-to-easily-make-direct-comparisons

I too no longer seem to get ewcm but I remember getting it in the past. We don't use lube either- need to keep the pressure off the whole dtd thing so just have to 'juice up' (ref how I met your mother....anyone?)

I used to get lots of ewcm, back before I knew what it meant. Now not so much. Odd - as soon as I'm looking for it,it disappears.....

LOL just read boodles link & it says not to check for EWCM during sex. If someone is managing to do that then it might explain why theyre not getting pg!

Oh & it varies whether I get EWCM or not. I did get some this month but used to get loads more in the past before TTC & I didnt really know what it was all about! Apparently you produce less as you get older . We didn't use any conceive plus this month as didn't seem to be required

Congrats on dildocam appt mrsboom & sympathy for all other berries on pg SILs & friends. I'm lucky that as DP is 43 & the youngest his sisters are both past child bearing age tho popped out 3 each. I just have his instadiffer child 18 yr old niece to contend with. At least the SiLs are bringing the baby into a stable home environment & not doing it after being with some bloke 2 min cos they're too lazy to get a job (DPs view).

Got an invite to one of my first close friends to have kids daughters 3rd birthday party on Friday. I'm ok with that really as I hadn't even met DP 3 years ago but can see how it would hurt if I'd been TTC that long. A few of mine did instadiff tho which lulled me into a bit of a false sense of security & now makes me feel like I'm failing even tho its only been 6m.

peanut I never get the stretchy cm either (I don't think). I did ask the fc but she said it didn't matter. Am wondering if I too might have a hostile environment. Am going to ask if I can have a post coital test to check I'm not murdering the swimmers!

lol at kidnapped stork!

So how is everyone today? So busy today you'd think I'd stopping chatting on mn wouldn't you Ranging from yoga to washing duvet of cat sick

Oh and just found the post that got delivered yesterday, it seems I have a date with the dildocam in a couple of weeks' time to see if ovaries are looking polycystic. If they are I think I get a PCOS diagnosis, if not that's it until August. Not sure which to hope for!

Boodle I think the stork has been captured by Aunt Flo. She's probably keeping it in a battery farm, forcing it to deliver babies for Jeremy Kyle contestants and contravening animal welfare standards. Let's report her.

Barking bloody hell, who needs enemies when you have friends like that! I hope she at least got a sarky comment in return...or a picture of a swanky couples-only resort with the caption 'our next holiday! Bet you wish you could still do this!' because that's what I would do

Goosey inclined to agree, I think people try to pretend nothing's wrong and overcompensate. You know like when someone's got a black eye or something and you try not to look at it but end up staring? It's like that only with baby conversation.

Poor everyone with knocked up SILs. My SIL is actually on the same page as me, she's been trying for about 3 years and no joy. She never talks about it though, so I feel bad banging on about our issues when she has it worse as she's been trying longer, shame really because she's the only person I know well who's going through the same thing. That said, I think she might be of the 'take it or leave it' mentality as she certainly hasn't been to FC or anything yet - hard to know!

I have a creeping feeling that there's going to be a pregnancy announcement from one of my friends soon. She's only just had her first in Oct and when we were talking about when she was going back to work she was pretty evasive - I smell a bun in the oven!

Barking that is a serious lack of empathy on your friends part though - I meand do you think she's clueless enough to think that that was actually going to cheer you up? You have to suppose so.

There is no getting it I think - maybe people feel they'd be patronising us if edited what they would talk about normally, that's the only thing I can think. My mum was chatting to me yesterday about my sister being TTC#2 and the difficulties (financially etc), and when I said that one dc was jolly nice anyway she said something about oh but the biological urge is so strong, it would be so hard to stop at one!!!!! This is my mum who I have confessed to about not wanting to see pg friends and friends with kids. So I have officially given up expecting people to be sensitive.

It baffles me, but people genuinely don't seem to get it at all. It's almost like they know you want a baby so you must like talking about babies and hearing about everyone else who is having one . I texted a good friend when I found out SiL was pg and she texted back a photo of her baby with food all over his face saying 'at least you don't have to deal with this' .
I would expect her to understand more than anyone among my friends as she had an ectopic pg (although that wasn't planned and she was younger) and then after she was married she had a mc that she found really difficult. But really? A friend texts you in distress about yet more baby news that isn't their own, and you send them back a picture of your baby???!!?

Not ranting about it ha ha I'm totally over it really , just giving an example in reply to tallyra of how people really don't get it

Which is why it's so lovely to have all the berries who really do get it!! although when I think about it we do do a lot of talking about babies and other people's babies but that's ok because in here you can do it with an and a and no one expects you to be all