The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

ooooh, am so impressed! I just deleted the app from my ipad as I'm too lazy to go on computer. Well done boom!

Just deactivated account Free from any more bump updates!

Sorry to say this about your friend boom but a bit at your friend posting a pic of her non pregnant belly esp. after you asked her to be a bit more sensitive!

merkin I have exactly the same problem this cycle too. Opk showing nothing and have normally had my positive by now. It could be that your urine is too diluted from your holiday beer drinking though. I reckon carry on testing, that's what I'm doing. I guess you haven't got a thermometer to take your bbt to see if you've ov or not?

Charming I know I should. I use the 'I use it to keep in touch with friends who live far away' excuse constantly, but really it's my number one procrastination tool..

Boom - stop looking at FB. Honestly, it's changed my life. No longer looking at inane/self-congratulatory updates really helps. I keep in touch with people I actually want to see and don't waste time or energy on people I don't.

Here is my parting grumble for today - instadiffa friend (she with whom I had The Chat about insensitive FB behaviours) who had her third baby in Jan has just posted a belly picture: caption 'Here's a rare sight - NO BUMP!' gaaaaahh I give up!

Hey all, news from frog today? In the sun on holiday so difficult to read the phone in the glare middle class problems
Apologies therefore for missing everything else that is going on but looking for advice/experience... As the queen of pimping I am amazed I need to ask but... Haven't temped or pimped for 6 weeks. Based on history would expect to O on CD18 (Tue). Brought some OPK on hol and just pimped (don't ask about the pot, you don't want to know) and my OPK is totally blank. I'm used to having gradually darkening lines for a week before O so either something has changed, I've already O'd or I'm going to O 5 to 10 days later than I expect (however don't think this will happen as have had EWCM yesterday and today and my cycles are like clockwork). Anyone ever had their OPK behaviour change drastically? Only big caveat was that it wasn't FMU and may have had a reasonable amount of lager. Can I assume this would affect an OPK like it would a pg test? Grrr, just wanted confirmation holiday shagging was at the right time and now I'm confused!
Thunder, never did follow up with the clinic due to work craziness but next month I will once I've qualified for maternity pay Are your levels getting better? Last thing I remember you'd had a massive improvement

Bunny - 33, married, cycle 12, just started getting bloods, hubby getting tests too,heading into shag week,
Barkingtreefrog - 33, cycle 17, short LP, hsg next cycle then scan then back to fc for clomid if no further problems found. Hopefully popping the pills by July so due a BFP then and an April baby .
Happylass - 35, cycle 9. AF due 8th May. Very little hope this cycle. On the look out for a sympathetic GP to refer me
Tallyra - 33, married, TTC for 3-4 years, 3mmc with HG. Appt to see fc/gynae 11June for initial consult. tntc until then angry
GooseyD - 38, nearly 2 yrs TTC (following 2 yrs 'not TTA' and head in sand), all tests normal but only 7 day LP, hsg on Tuesday eeek then seeing FC on Sat
Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.
MrsB00Mbastic - 31, married, TTC 1 year, mmc last Aug. Appt with gynae clinic 21 June, awaiting abdo scan, jizz test and hycosy. Wonky bloods. Possibly PCOS..?
charmingcats - 32, married. ttc since August 2013, cycle 5 of unknown length. Cysty scan, 'normal' bloodworm. Possibly PCOS..?
SidneyBristow - 38, married, ttc since July 2012, cycle 11. All tests so far show everything's normal
Blindkitty 33, ttc 24 months not counting had Hsg, on 4th round of clomid, dh sa slightly low morph, hoping for a bfp this holiday but might b conceived in the mile high club!

thunder Thanks, needed that! Bwahaha 'mercy sausage Wang' - at least when if I'm not diffed I have lived to see this phrase in use. Every cloud...

boom I'm going to give you a mercy sausage Wang. This is only because I don't want you to feel bad, not because I don't think there's a chance you're pg.

For two of the last few cycles I have had pretty much all the same symptoms as when I was pg. so I convinced myself it was my month even though I knew how unlikely it was. Turns out my body was just making it all up- hormones damn them.

But fx you are!

goosey I don't think friends have any real understanding of how hard it is emotionally. Poor you with her giving you the guilts.

sid that is awful timing. I agree that dh's don't think about it in the same obsessiveway that we do. Dh working nights this month apart from one weeks annual leave in shag week! Sounded wonderful until I realised he is away visiting sil in England that week (we live in northern Ireland) so zero chance. I was raging with him totally unfairly as he had booked the flights months ago!

Do any of the other teachers feel bad about timing from here for a couple of months? I know if we was successful now I'd be going off on ml in the manic few months leading up to exams and my ml could run over bits of two academic years and I'd be on maternity pay when on summer holidays

On phone so can someone add me to list

bajas 38 married and trying since July 2012 so on cycle 10 and starting to lose hope. Just started temping last month

goosey, erm no- there is nothing irrational here apart from how she's now behaving. So fair enough she wasn't meaning to be insensitive- that's fine. When you point out that actually you are a bit sensitive about that stuff, that's when she should apologise and it should all be fine. Obviously I don't know what you said to her but I'm assuming you didn't bite her head off?

Her behaviour now is horrible- sulking and being upset because you are upset about it? Not very caring imo.

Sorry, crossed posts. CD 25 today I think. But bearing in mind my average cycle is about 45 days long and (probably) anovulatory, I don't think I'm in with a chance!

Goosey that sounds like a lot to me - there were precisely NO children invited to my wedding party! And if it makes you feel better, I don't think it sounds irrational at all, the slightest mention of kids/babies can set me off, even if it isn't directly related to ttc.

Boom what cycle day are you?

Oh what she said wasn't really insensitive at all - she was just shocked at, and said two or three times, how few kids there will be on my wedding list (if we invite them all) when I had thought nearly a third of guests being under 10 was quite a lot! And then of course I a) interpret this as my friend not seeing that this makes me feel left behind and b) feel inadequate for not having contributed to the numbers yet. All pretty irrational stuff I suppose.

Oh Goosey sorry that your friend took it badly. I suppose nobody likes to think they're insensitive, but it's a bit unfair getting upset and making you feel bad about feeling bad! Perhaps despite her defensiveness she'll have got the message and will be more careful in future?

Thanks for the info re jizz tests. We wouldn't really have a problem getting body-temp jizz to the hospital since we live opposite, so that might be the best and quickest option. I can't believe there actually is a Porn Room, I thought that must be made up!

sid sorry DH ballsed it up. Agree with charming, I just don't think men are in tune with good/bad dates, although this doesn't make it any less frustrating for you. My DH gets off lightly because we don't have a specific shag window, but he still doesn't notice when we haven't dtd for a week unless I mention it - and then I'm 'nagging' if I do.

thunder forgot to say great news on the thyroid front!

For some reason I've gone mental with symptom spotting today. Even though I'm 99% certain that there's no chance, I've been feeling a bit sick and the smell of the fridge when I opened the door made me gip (nothing particularly strong in there, but there was some leftover paella that just wafted a bit). Someone please stop me from doing this, I do NOT want to give myself hope just to be crushed again!

Oh and I texted my friend to say sorry - and not even a reply!

goosey so sorry about your meltdown and your friend. What did she actually say? Will she calm down? Is it worth sending her a text or email to explain why you said what you did and that you had no intention of upsetting her, but wnted to let her know that you're finding things hard at the moment?
Thanks for the info about the jizz test. I may do a touch of googling....

Sid that is totally crap that you've lost your child free ov weekend - grrr. As in he's going away or the SC are staying? I used to use a mooncup until started TTC in earnest and then decided I was doing quite enough grappling around down there what with pots of pee and charting cervical changes (which I've completely given up on now!)

sid that af got you and that your next chance will be scuppered by sc duties. Was DH just not thinking? I know it doesn't really help and isn't a truly valid excuse when you've spoken about how stressed you are by ttc, but maybe it just didn't occur to him and he's not trying to make things difficult. I do understand that you'd like him to be considering ttc as much as you are, but I think they don't really connect the dots in terms of checking dates and that certain dates will be good for dtd and therefore bad for having guests. Surely it's time for some now....

Just had embarrassing meltdown in town, trying desperately not to cry while paying for a coffee. I experimented by telling my friend (who has two kids) when she said something I found a little insensitive (in this case marvelling at how few kids were potentially going to be on my wedding list - nearly a third of the guests thank you very much) and she got really upset - I am definitely going back to keeping it to myself!!

Charming and Boom - my DF got a letter from the GP with numbers for a couple of different clinic/hospital options which he called round to get first appointment he could (about a two month wait!). He went in and used 'the porn room' at clinic - but I know others who have had to produce at home as no place at their clinic which meant then rushing in with sample kept close to the body to keep it at body temp - and if you get held up it's all a waste of time as has to be within a certain timeframe.

Hi sid, 0.75 is great. I'm aiming to get between 0.5-2 so look at you nice and low!

frog YES BE HAPPY!

boom don't cringe- we just live and learn and that is a good message in that the clumsy people who upset us aren't nasty, they are just a bit clumsy because they don't know.

Afternoon charming and charming's worm

Frog I second the feeling above that you're entitled to be happy. In fact I think you should be extra, extra happy bc of all you've been through to get to where you are!

AF arrived here today, no surprise since I'd done a couple of tests recently. Trying the mooncup out this cycle. Haven't had sex in 2 weeks and not likely to anytime soon as DH and I have just had a spat about how he's traded our child-free ov weekend, all for, get this, nothing apart from just being 'helpful'. It didn't cross his mind to check the dates with me. I'm beyond disgusted.

Thunder about your thyroid, has your consultant told you what the optimal range is for ttc for TSH? Mine is .75 and I'm not sure if that's good, or if it ought to be between 1.0 and 2.0?

Bajas sorry AF showed up at yours! Wasn't due here til Mon but I guess the temptation to ruin my weekend was too great.

Bunny - 33, married, cycle 12, just started getting bloods, hubby getting tests too,heading into shag week,
Barkingtreefrog - 33, cycle 17, short LP, hsg next cycle then scan then back to fc for clomid if no further problems found. Hopefully popping the pills by July so due a BFP then and an April baby .
Happylass - 35, cycle 9. AF due 8th May. Very little hope this cycle. On the look out for a sympathetic GP to refer me
Tallyra - 33, married, TTC for 3-4 years, 3mmc with HG. Appt to see fc/gynae 11June for initial consult. tntc until then angry
GooseyD - 38, nearly 2 yrs TTC (following 2 yrs 'not TTA' and head in sand), all tests normal but only 7 day LP, hsg on Tuesday eeek then seeing FC on Sat
Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.
MrsB00Mbastic - 31, married, TTC 1 year, mmc last Aug. Appt with gynae clinic 21 June, awaiting abdo scan, jizz test and hycosy. Wonky bloods. Possibly PCOS..?
charmingcats - 32, married. ttc since August 2013, cycle 5 of unknown length. Cysty scan, 'normal' bloodworm. Possibly PCOS..?
SidneyBristow - 38, married, ttc since July 2012, cycle 11. All tests so far show everything's normal

Charming that was me asking about the jizz test! The doctor at the clinic phoned me and told me to get one, but DH and I are at different docs. So god knows where she's sent the letter saying he needs one, or how he goes about it. He's convinced there's a 'porn room' at the GP that he can go and crack one out in haha!

This is the same problem I had with the bloodworms, convinced they were all taken on the wrong days. Doctors seem a bit clueless when you don't have a nice neat 28 day cycle!

Re taches, I also found a gorgeous under-the-chin hair growth yesterday. Proper witchy! Argh!

I'm supposed to be writing an essay today. Which is why I'm on here constantly, until work at 3 anyway!