The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

Didn't 2cats become Merkin?

Oh, and welcome Mulberry

Smoothas it can't hurt going to the GP, especially if your cycles are irregular, but from what I hear if you are under 30 and you've been TTCing for less that a year then they tell you to knob off.

Ooh, pick me, pick me barking! I'll be one of your six!

No it wasn't me who was in touch with Gail, it was 2Cats, where did she go?

And the instadiffer didn't piss anyone off, not purposefully anyway.

Bunny not odd being friends with DH's ex. They were together when they were in their early 20s and although it was a couple of years it wasn't like they lived together or anything.
She's had the baby now, he's about 6 months I think. I keep showing DH pictures she posts of the baby of Facebook (he doesn't Facebook) just to remind him what he needs to do.

No we haven't had many BFPs really have we. Need to get that seen to.

Count me in Barking

Mulberry and Barking I also thought I was lucky with the short cycle and shorter 2ww, but following research it would appear I am not as fortunate as I thought.

Thanks Pip for the recommendation

I am wondering if I should maybe look to have a chat with my GP about it? I am sure they will send on my way until we reach the +12 month mark but it might be worth a try. Having a short LP does seem to be a common problem with people struggling to conceive.

I felt really positive last month after I clearly Ov last month (lots of EWCM, +opk and ov pain), DTD at the right time and then obviously AF came 9 days later. However, I have felt nothing this month and no + opk yet

At ^least^ 6, maybe a few more . Count me in Barking!!

Did I miss this instadiffa who clearly pissed some berries off?! Must have been during one of those times I took my eye off the ball.

barking thank you for selflessly putting yourself forward. I'll come with you

Don't worry Barking I've tried that approach - every day, every other day, every three days and zilch... I also experimented a bit with morning action v night time action... Maybe I just need to find out if it's the LP thing that's the problem. Like you I assumed having shorter cycles was a helpful thing because you get another "go" quicker. Xx

happy Six?!?! So which 5 berries would like to come with me then? Seems the BFPs only come in 6's round here .

Oh, if we take the helpful advice of the instadiffer we should just have loads of sex .

smoothas sorry, forgot to answer your question. I have a short LP but only realised the significance of this a couple of months ago, which is when I started to despair and jumped on the sausage shuffle to join the berries on the sofa of pity. Until that point (14 cycles in) I'd naively thought I was lucky to only have an 8 dw rather than 2ww! Made perfect sense when I realised it was a problem though, how can an egg stick on the wall of a womb that has already started shedding its lining?! Trouble was I was convinced I was pg as I was 2 days late, but at only 10 dpo I decided that was the reason I was getting BFNs despite clearly being pg. I found out about luteal phase defect when googling for evidence to add to my I'm definitely upduffed stance.

At this point I had already done the tests at the gp and DP had done the SA and we were waiting for our FC appointment, so I didn't bother looking into anything else as I'm hoping the FC will be nice and helpful. Less than 2 weeks to wait for that now!

So the short answer is `no, I haven't tried B6'.

Wow, I really can go on .

Oh but before I go I can indeed confirm that we did have at least 6 berries get upduffed in one go back in October/November! Tis not an urban myth- honestly!!

Lol at Barking "I shall be that berry"
Welcome Mulberry make yourself at home!
Ladies we have made it on to the Most Active list! No wonder I'm still in my PJs and not getting anything done

Hello mulberry sounds like you'll fit right in . Come get comfy on the sofa. And bring sausage .

Haycorn don't get me started on stupid people who accidentally get pg and don't even want their kids. Even before ttc I got wound up as a teacher when I had kids in my class whose parents didn't seem to be interested. Seen the extreme as well as my parents are foster carers. Makes me so when you see a poor baby withdrawing from heroin as the mother kept injecting all the way through pg. Such screams, not normal baby crying at all. Really to hear.
And here are all of us ready to protect and support a child from the moment of conception and nada!! No justice in the world!

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I've not seen any upduffment on this thread other than mother, who wasn't actually 30+, and the instadiffer who shall remain nameless who floated in to tell us all she was ttc then floated straight out again having become diffed immediately 1st month of tying . So not a berry anyway.

Other berries have drifted off, paddling away on their sausage boats, but they've not announced any BFP's before leaving so I think they're still paddling around and may come back to land at some point.

It's quite depressing really . It's one thing to join a thread and everyone else gets BFPs all over the place which is highly annoying good for them. It's another when there are no successful bfps so you can get but also a little hopeful for yourself!!

So, I've decided, selflessly, that I will go forward on the sausage shuttle and be that Berry. The one that gets upduffed and leads the way . Just give me a few more cycles, let DP recover from his willy op, and the FC give me some clomid. I'll be right with you.....

Hello all - please can I join you? I definitely pass the entrance test - age 35, trying for 10 cycles, engaged, AF due 10 April, oh and I just had a Cumberland sausage baguette for breakfast! Have shortish cycles (24-26 days), get smiley faces on clearblue digital OPKs but think I have a short LP (spotting 2 or 3 days before AF as well). Tried B6 but it didn't really seem to have any affect. Haven't been to the doctors yet but think we might soon.... Also have lots of friends who seemingly get upduffed with ease. Xxx

Anyone heard from Gail? I thought someone was in email contact with her- pip was it you?

Pssshhh 'baby brain'. Just an excuse to be insensitive? I think not!

......and not forgetting the berry who got banned - several times!!!

Really sorry about your stupid cycle frog. I know how excited I got when AF was late last time. I told myself not to get hopes up etc. etc. but couldn't stop crazy brain imagining the what ifs. Which then made it so effing hard when it turned out that AF wasn't late because I was pg, she's just decided she's had enough of this TTC lark and has buggered off never to be seen again. Like you I have no evidence that I have ever OVd, and it's the not knowing that is the killer. I was planning on going the whole temping, fertility friend hog when AF finally decides to show her face again, but it seems even that can pose more questions than it answers. Grrrr....why is it so fricking easy for stupid people who don't even seem to want kids?

Phew, made it. That sure was some ride hanging on to the back of the shuttle while you lot all chatted away inside! Pip if you, happy and bunny are the only original berries left, does that mean all the others managed to get themselves diffed successfully? Because I've been spying lurking on these threads for a while now and we haven't had any luck since mother, which seems aeons ago. We must be due some big fat bellies soon eh?

I need a more competitive DP. Not that it makes any difference anyway with my 'condition' atm, so I might as well let that go.

I am used to being left behind too- so many bfps on the mc thread I'm on now. peanut do you still check it?

at cage fighting instadiffs

happy don't worry, I have the last berry standing position well covered.
When you've all grad-ed I am going to fill the place with cats, wear onsies everyday and watch crap films. I will also start talking to myself and sell tickets to cage wanging battles between instadiffers...

Hi guys. I went away yesterday to walk the dog excessively only to find the sausage shuttle in place when I got back. Where did that come from??
Fantastically, dog with sore paw managed to make it even more sore and I'm now going to spend my day trying to stop him licking it.