The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

Blind, I tend not to block people, but I dramatically reduce what I can see of them on my newsfeed! If you can find something from them on your newsfeed, hover in the top right area of their post (where there is a faint blue line separating from the next newsfeed item). You should get a little drop down arrow appear. Go to 'hide' and then you can choose what you do and don't see from them. For example, you can block pictures put keep status updates. If they are really driving you mad, you can hide everything and they won't be any wiser as it's not that you have defriended, just 'filtered' them a bit!

Thanks for all the support berries, it has actually been helpful. I don't usually react like this you know.

Does anyone know if I can block people without them knowing on fb? What happens if they try to send me a message?

Hi Berries!

Bajas, catching up on the reading from the weekend! Sorry to hear your dad was ill but pleased to read he is doing better now. Sorry to the others who are TTC whilst also having to worry about the health of other family members - that must be really difficult.

Tally, glad the furry one isn't suffering with anything too serious!

Blind, there's something particularly painful about pregnancy announcements/sonogram pics/bump photos on FB. I think it's just the shock of scrolling down and suddenly seeing them. I have considered a pre-emptive strike of hiding 'likely-to-get-pregnant' friends on there, but then I know I'll end up hearing about it at a social gathering or something like that, which will be so much worse.

Going back to the oversharing on Friday night (and I do apologise, because this is NOT Sunday afternoon conversation) I pretty much always orgasm just after DH does. The cervical dipping hasn't exactly helped the TTC cause so far...

Lots and lots of you seem to be trying acupuncture/reflexology. I did briefly flirt with acu last year, but I was so embarrassed by having to get my fat legs out, I only had one session. Have suffered far more humiliation since then, so perhaps I should go back? I don't want to at the moment though as I want all my upcoming tests to be the absolute reality. After that though, maybe...which one though? Acu or reflexology? Hmmm!

Berries, my temp chart is being confusing again. Last month I ovulated early and my temperature started to rise the same day as my positive OPK. Now this month my temp has jumped up early again! What's going on!? FF even put crosshairs in on CD9 before I entered my positive OPK! This is not normal for me, I have done 20 cycles of ovulating between CD16 & 18! I'm meant to be getting some bloods done this month, 7 days before I think AF is due. How can I do that when O day decides to play silly games. Aaaaaaargh!

Rhetorical rant over. As you were.

Update on the ferret - vet thinks it's just a bug rather than something more serious. didn't update yesterday as struggled through birthday BBQ in sub with migraine coming and then crashed into bed. I managed to hide away from mist if the babies there too.
bajas I'm so glad your dad is a bit better.

Thanks everyone for the good wishes. My dad is much better. Just popping in to see him again now.

blind it's hard when people are insensitive. I'm staying with my db and sil while visiting dad and she's pg with their second so it's all baby chat although not too bad as knowing she had a couple of mc before this I know she's trying to be sensitive to the lack of an announcement from us yet.

Boo to blind DH for being unsympathetic. Mine is too when I get upset about his pg niece. I think part of it is that he hates seeing me upset but feels powerless to do anything about it so it upsets his male chest-beating will-protect-my-woman ego. He then takes it out on me for undermining his ego. And here endeth the amateur psychology lesson...

Well you can have it in spades from us. Here, have some chocolate cake as well as some

peanut thank you. DH has just had a go at me for feeling like this so tears have started yet again. All I wanted was a bit of fucking sympathy. I can't put a brave face on all of the time

And bump pics: gaaaaaah xxxx

kitty totally understand. Have a hug I have also cried many a FB-announcement induced tear. I expect she didn't tell you because she didn't want to upset you - yes, this is stupid because it's hardly something she's going to be able to keep secret for long but she probably thought she was doing it for the best. People (in my experience) are very awkward when it comes to lack of fertility and don't know what to say/do, it's still a bit of a taboo isn't it? I'm open about the fact we're failing trying, so people think I won't want to hold their baby or see them when they've got a bump! (And sometimes they're right, but life goes on..)

blind hugs

OMG as is today isn't bad enough, my other pregnant friend has just posted a pic of her bump!!!!

yorkie yes that is most plausible answer, just makes me sad that she would still have to keep it from me.

Right, I'm just going to bit the bullet and text her with my congrats. Oh and btw she is a classic instadiffer as she only told me 4 months ago she was thinking about ttc again!

Are you sure she wasn't just worried about telling you and was trying to put it off for as long as possible? Then her DH posted on fb without her knowing?

Why does mn have to have a white background? bloody migraines.

thanks guys. Think it has just caught me off guard. Just wish she'd told me first, just makes me thing our friendship isn't that important to her

blind sorry to hear you're feeling so down. Try to not be so hard on yourself. At any other time I'm sure you would be over the moon for your friend, it's just a really difficult time and a completely normal reaction. I'm sure the majority of people ttc for a while would react in exactly the same way and we can't all be horrible people for doing that! I guess it's just the shock that's caught you off guard?

completely kitty. my cousin didn't tell me til she was 7 months because she didn't know what to say. I could understand that but it really upset me when another family member put a photo up of her on fb and it surprised me.
Lots and lots of hugs to you.

Hi Guys, hope you're all ok.

Turned fb on today to see that my friend's dh had announced that she's pregnant again. I'm so upset. Not sure whether its because she actually pregnant, because she didn't tell me, or because she didn't tell me because she was worried I'd be upset. Literally just stopped crying. I hate myself for feeling like this when I should be congratulating her. Sorry for such a downer so early but know you guys will understand

On the plus side, my child free life means I don't regularly experience the 5am wake ups and trying to keep two young children quiet in a campsite from then onwards...
And when I talked about going to California this summer and my friend was 'so jealous' I realised there are many perks to being not yet a parent, even if I'd prefer to be her place. One of the perks being it doesn't take me 45 minutes to walk 200m along the beach back to the car .

Hi all

Who said gin? Yes I agree.

Too drunk to add more but I'll just say that I think antibiotics is the very reason why a lot of people bloody instadiffin arseheads get pg in the first place?!

bajas & barking sorry to hear about your dads & insensitive friends. My gran died the other year & I always feel sad she never saw any great-grandchildren. We went to see my grandad for his 92nd birthday the other week & the first thing DP said when we got home was that we had to take our baby to see him as soon as we had one. That made me cry.
I've played golf this afternoon & I'm now watching DP play cricket. I hate cricket & thought they would have finished & just be having drinks by the time I got here but it's a long game. Grrr.

I'm sat on a bench in Whitby while my mate runs round with her 3 year old. I'm trying to persuade the 5 year old that flying a kite is not a good plan on a busy pier.
Told my mate earlier where I was up to on the ttc. A bit later she did the 'oh you know so and so's pregnant'? No I didn't and I didn't really want to.