The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

Hello all! Wow, being back at work was a shock to the system today! And AF showed up just before I left the house, so back to CD1 again here. Not too bothered as I'm focusing on the fc appointment now - only 2 days left to wait!!

Although I worry having anxiety problems on my file marks me out as a stress-head and I won't get taken seriously - it reminds me of my Dad's phrase 'even hypochondriacs get ill you know'

Thanks Bombastic - will see if I can pluck up the courage to call them and explain (although I am worried that I might sound like a crazy lady...). Yeah I didn't go in there and stomp around, which maybe I should have. But part of me thinks we should probably have a good go at it this month before I start getting too stroppy - We normally fizzle out on the shagging by the end of the fertile week and I want to make sure I religiously poas and we keep up the dtd momentum, and am going to try out the mythical pre-seed. I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder so a) wonder if I'm getting myself in a lather over TTC unnecessarily or b) my 'condition' makes it hard to be assertive - probably a bit of both.

Grr to the NHS's labyrinthine bureaucracy! Good luck getting it all sorted Tallrya

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Ooh, that would really upset me too brodi
To be honest, I think that sometimes the doctors won't actually send people for tests until they jump up and down - I gave up waiting for advice and basically said 'I want to be referred'. Doctor then said ok. However, its another thing all together whether the clinic gets the letter. I ended up facing a copy of it myself today. we'll see what happens.

Hi all, just bobbed in to say hello, have been keeping my head down and avoiding all the pregnant ladies at work!

Boo to the baby photos and tears in the supermarket. Kitty, I've also been asked to be G-mother recently, to the most recent child of my instadiffer friend (3 pregnancies in 3 years)..she of the 'oh god I'm so fertile, I hope I'm not pregnant AGAIN' posts on FB. Christenings...GAK. I would have cried at that grandma comment, have some sympathy

Brodicea do you mean that if you'd said withdrawal it would mean you'd been having unprotected sex for longer so you could have had your fc appt bumped forward? If you're kicking yourself, no reason why you couldn't phone the GP and ask for a phone consultation and explain this. We all say stupid stuff to the doc sometimes, they'll understand (and if they don't - find a new doc!)

Have lost track of the rest of the conversation now and can't scroll back up, sorry to everyone I've missed and hello to trying!

Thanks Poppy I guess as it's such a terribly unreliable contraceptive method, I was hoping she might have sent me for some tests sooner.. but she might not, she did seem pretty chilled about the whole thing.

On the issue of telling people at work, I've only told one person from a related department (who I've known for years) and no-one in my immediate team. Mind you, I haven't worked there long: I'd be torn between making sure people were aware of my possible distraction and inviting unhelpful advice and comments (EVERYONE has kids in the office bar one young male admin assistant - and one of them spends most of her time slagging off her child and saying she wishes she never had her so that just makes me feel annoyed and a bit depressed).

Thanks tallyra. On the one hand I'm thinking that it might be nice to have work as a place where people don't know this about me, and so I don't have to deal with head-tilted sympathy. On the other, as you've said, it would be nice to be able to share when something does hit me, and I'm not sure how that's going to play out in the next few weeks.

Brodicea sorry to hear about your frustrating conversation. At least she seemed positive about the tubes. TBH the biology for TTC is shockingly inefficient! Not sure I understand the implications of the withdrawal thing - what do you think she would have said different?

Hello all, sorry to hear about all the baby photos, asda-aisle weeping and usual TTC emotional shizzle.
Just got back from the Drs (been trying since September and have had PID in the past so thought I'd go for advice / tests now) and she basically said 'chill out, keeping having sex, you're young, come back at Xmas' - that just seems like such a long time!
It was comforting that she said I shouldn't worry about my tubes (which she conceded might be 'sticky') because I only had PID for two weeks.
BUT annoyingly I went into long learned best-behaviour mode: when she asked me what contraception we'd been using I blurted 'condoms' when in fact we have been using withdrawal. If I had been honest she might have been more concerned! Grr.
I did have a terrible bout of anxiety which messed with my cycles between September - December so I guess it really hasn't been that long - although why oh why didn't I say about withdrawal!!

I'd tell someone in the office if there is a particular person you're close to poppy. I didn't tell anyone at work (or indeed, anywhere else apart from the gp surgery) and it wasn't terribly sensible, as crying in the bread aisle at Asda proves . I wish I'd told work now that I'm having all this time off for tests, and also so that the next time one of the young and fertile get diffed/bring their baby into the office people might be a bit more understanding.

I hope you're doing okay today.

If you are close with your friend I would tell her. If you are having trouble I find that it's helpful to have someone that you can talk things through with, and I found that things would hit me randomly. I have told mist people in the office but there's only one that I actually talk to about it. She's really young and so has no experience with any of it but also probably won't get duffed any time soon. She's also really excited about everything so I actually feel good talking to her, not depressed.

Hello ladies and hugs for tallyra and booktart
First day back at work today after MMC and ERPC last week. So far not too bad - physically I'm fine. Fortunately the legions of pregnant women that were in the office until recently are all safely off on maternity leave now.
I spotted a 'baby on board' badge this morning too, and it made me grr quite unexpectedly, so I think still lots of emotions yet to come out. Still deciding whether to tell one of my close friends at work - all they know so far is that I had a minor op last week that needed general anaesthetic.

Oh definitely bin it and then have some chocolate :)

that's prett much what I've done. she's still on mat leave so she'll never know anyway.

Oh tallyra, that's so difficult, especially with the photo. I think I'd put it on my desk where I couldn't see it for a week and then discreetly bin it.

FWIW I agree with your dh about the temping and everything. So far as I can see my cycle is also pretty regular so I gave up temping and pimping because it was making me a bit batty - maybe have a bit of a breather from it until the fc tells you otherwise? Neither of the two gps I've seen about this nor the consultant at the fc have been interested in my temp charts, so they were just for my own peace of mind anyway, and as they weren't helping with that I've taken a bit of a break!

lots of hugs tart. I know how you feel about the woman at the same stage as you. My boss has just given me a thank you card for the quilt I made her and it's personalised with a photo of her baby, born the week after mine would have been. I am a bit at a loss what to do with it - keep it up in my office or burn it.

On another note, dh expressed concerns last night about getting a bit too obsessed at the moment, so I have agreed that as the temping confirmed that I am 'normal' ov and lp wise I will give it a rest now until I see the fc. but I am still going to push for an appt. I've been lost in the system once too many

Blimey yorkie, that dream would be enough to put me off altogether I think! No dreams about ttc here thankfully :)

Have had a bit of a break from the whole thing for a week or so, sorry to have been absent from the sofa. I hope everyone is doing okay

I've been getting very upset about October's mc/cp thing, and it all came to a head in Asda a few days ago when I saw a pg woman who was roughly the same size as I would be now, and I ended up crying up and down the aisles like a mad woman! I've also had to block a few people on Twitter (which I use for work) because they are diffed and keep chatting about it, which is upsetting me. I know I'm being a bit mad unreasonable, so I'm trying to chill out a bit atm.

Anyway, first USS with dildocam today showed leading follicles on both sides. I'm back at the hospital tomorrow for HSG and then back again on Wednesday to track the follicles. All fun and games here!

Sounds like a much more positive dream than mine thunder!

I did I did!

I dreamt that I did a pg test and it not only told me I was pg, it told me it was twins. Something to do with yet another line on the stick!

I know! Anyone else had any bizarre dreams recently about ttc?

On a positive note, I didn't see one baby on board badge on my journey in this morning!

merkin as you know I'm the same as you. Not really trying here either though as I don't think we have a chance til the drugs kick in more. So no symptom spotting here although last time I got pg I don't think I had any anyway. Until v v sore boobs a couple of days before af due.

I missed the sausage wanting too although I have a feeling that it is a phenomenon not unique to MN. On the other thread I'm on we slap with fish. And we have a poas system too which works remarkably well in terms of bfps. Just not for me!

Hmmm to dream 2 yorkie, that's not. Very subtle message about what's going on in your head is it?!

Morning all!

Lots of posts to catch up on. Hope you're all okay on this sunny morning.

Bizarre dream #2 was being chased by terrorists which was very scary and then it turns out my assigned fertility doctor was one of the terrorists! WTF!!!!

Oh and welcome trying! Hope you've brought your pimping pot

Morning berries. I was already fast asleep so missed the sausage wangling on TV. Chart purists will be glad to hear that it's looking a lot better so far this month than last months crazy temps. CD7 here - just yaaawn between AF & shag fortnight. Irritatingly even tho I was up early for the car boot yesterday I couldn't temp as DP got me up an hour before to complain about a cat poop disaster in the kitchen caused by me shutting the cats in a cat flap malfunction.
Hope you all have good first days back teachers. SS isn't back till thurs - private schools eh?! I hate the differential but our kid thinking optimistically today will have to go to state school as we can't afford the fees for another tho SS's school is lovely. (DPs ex earns more than him).