Why is nothing happening!?!

agree with the others.
were on cycle 17, dtd every day or eod from day 7 to 20 and not a whiff of a bfp...
hang in there, you get used to the disappointment each cycle.

Just wanted to update to say I have just got back from my GP, was upfront with her ive been trying since September, and shes booked me in for day 1-5 and day 21 blood tests and a scan. I said I was prepared to pay and she said she was happy to refer me to a clinic if any problems appear, even before a year is up, and let them decide what I have to pay for or not .

So, I admit my GP is lovely, buts its always worth a punt to go see them.

Just back from the GP and apparently new guidelines are that you won't be referred for fertility testing until you've been trying for a year and a half. Pah. Clearly I'm too impatient!! He did say that 20% of women fall pregnant within 3 months, 50% by six months and 80% by a year so I guess the NHS is trying to save a few quid by making us all wait!

I have to say my app wouldn't have much to record at the moment in terms of running data BUT it will do soon, am going to work out a get fit plan today or tomorrow with my friend who wants to do a 10K run in July. That would be the furthest I've ever run so it's a challenge!!

Also work are doing the Three Peaks at the end of June and have asked me to join. It's more being a big wuss than thinking about being PG that's stopping me with that though.....

All inclusive holiday to Egypt? I am very jealous. No holidays booked at the moment - it'll probably be a last minute one for me if I do anything this year!

yes I heartily recommend getting fit as a good distraction! It has worked well for me. Especially if you are the obsessive type, get an iphone app to record calories burned, km run, etc, it's a good alternative to mooning over your period dates app... No need to worry about overdoing it on the fitness too (in terms of effect on fertility) as long as you don't lose lots of weight very quickly and your cycle stays the same. Also don't not book holidays just in case you get pregnant, it's bad enough TTC month after month unsuccessfully without anything big like that to look forward to. I mean don't necessarily book a crazy non-refundable white water rafting holiday for 9 months time, be sensible, but most hols are just fine when you're pregnant and even better when you're not, especially if they're all inclusive like our week in Egypt next month is... can't wait and honestly if I'm pg this month I will be a teensy bit annoyed that I won't be able to make full use of all that free booze and seafood!! (only like 0.00001% though).

That's a good idea about the plans. We're going away for the weekend which will be nice (and wouldn't be practical with a baby!) so I guess we should look at it as making the most of our time together.

if only someone could reassure me that it would all be ok in the end and we'd definitely have a baby on the way within the next six months or so, all would be well. Sadly my psychic powers aren't working on that or the lottery numbers.....

Doctors will hopefully be helpful, and getting fit is also a plan, am going to sign up for a Race for Life or two as motivation!!

I too am very impatient, have gone from not being bothered a couple of months ago, to wanting a baby NOW after a PG scare last month. Really woke me up and made me think about things. Now of course everyone seems to be PG and with no effort. I'm sure that isn't the case but that's how it seems.....

I have a doctor's appt then so will see what they say. Time isn't on our side (I'm 35 and DP is 41) so the sooner the better really!

Early on TTC it is all you think about so I can really understand however 3 months is nothing!
I've been trying for over a year and now awaiting further tests for PCOS.
I've gone through every emotion from simply just feeling fed up and impatient to complete emotional wreck!

One of my closest friends is now pg within 3 months of trying and whilst I'm over joyed for her, I have been at rock bottom.

Everyone says try not to stress - which is actually impossible, but you must try.

delia - thank you for making me smile the most I have all day! Where indeed are those pills!! I have the cheapy Wilkos version and they're not pleasant either...

I think your OH is more likely to have had the dreaded man flu :)

Pregnacare = horse pills.

Where are the flipping pills made by a woman that taste of chocolate or dissolve in wine???

My OH has had leprosy twice according to Google. According to me, he's been an idiot twice.

HI 3 months isnt that long hun, tho to you its an eternity I know xx

I have been trying over a yr and I think I'm going slightly mad. Im doing all what delia said.

Im going to try this when I finally come on this month spermmeetseggplan.com/ Loads swear by it, so I'm either going to make a baby or a fire with all that friction hahahaha

I'm so disheartened, Im on day 34 today I think, but I think I will come on, def no symptoms of pg.

I have moved from pregnacare to boots own ones as many have said they got caught on them, and pregnacare lengthens your cycle, so that may explain whats going on with me.

Hope we can be bump buddies soon babes xx

In the nicest possible way, STOP STRESSING OUT! 3 months is absolutely no time at all, personally I've been trying for almost 3 years.

You need to stop Googling, Google is the source of all evil.

It can take a perfectly healthy couple up to 2 years to conceive and if you were to go to a Dr after just 3 months of trying they would, to be frank, laugh you out of the surgery.

Don't get obsessed with monitors and OPKs at this stage. Just have regular sex - at least 3 times a week - and eat healthily.

May be I may sound weird.. but stop fizzy drinks and crisps( recopies whatever has ajinomoto-for tanginess or fluorides) they are most dangerous enemies of reproduction system . you saw those people who live road side and every year they get pregnant.. reason behind that is they cant afford fizzy drinks and Mac D pazzas and burger .. thats why their reproduction system remains so strong..

You could start charting your cycle (temping etc) which may show something like a short luteal phase. There's probably nothing to worry about but it might just put your mind at rest.

www.babycentre.co.uk/a3195/how-to-chart-your-temperature-and-cervical-mucus

I'm awful for a google search! I'm sure I question more every week! It's such a bad habit and your right, someone has always had something before a positive no matter what it is.

I agree with goody and it is kindly meant. It really is in your own best interest to try to calm down about it and keep reminding yourself that there is a 90% chance you will be pregnant within a year. And if you are not, there are treatments to help.

Haha, I stopped googling symptoms once I realised that when you google "is X a symptom of pregnancy", you will find someone, somewhere who experienced X before a bfp, regardless of how wild and unlikely it is!

The SAME.

Over priced fertility monitor.
Mobile phone app
WEEING IN CUPS!
Timed shagging
Bloody ridiculous BBT thermometer that pulls stats from its arse

But it keeps me occupied for 3 weeks.

By the fourth week ive driven into Crazy Town.

Recording EVERYTHING. And then googling it. Twice. In case a different website says insanity is a symptom.

Sorry also wanted to add- do remember the chances are that you'll get a bfp soon and won't be waiting around too long. This board can give a skewed picture - most people do manage to get pg without problems.

OP- if it's any consolation, at three months I was also crying at every AF and feeling it was just the end of the world. Now we're on cycle 15 and I'm much more stable about it despite no hint of a bfp. Only mild disappointment and rarely tears. I can now hear pg news without feeling devastated (basically cos I brace myself for an announcement every time i see anyone aged between 18 and 40!!). Think it was between 6-9 months I went from crazy to less crazy. It really helps if you can find something else to think about / obsess over, I started running and also have a hobby which I sell online which keeps my mind occupied when I'm not at work. (At work is another matter hence why I'm on MN now...)

I've joined today and this caught my eye; we've been trying for 7 months now and after my obsession with sticks, BBT etc, I took a trip to the docs who quite rightly told me to stop it all and just relax and have sex three times a week, every week. I do take FA but just encase.
Enjoy shagging and have some fun! Its true, I do feel much better and we're enjoying a healthy sex life which means we're both happier.

Aww that's really good.
I know there's hope I've always been told that it just seems that it's not there for me, I worry that itl never happen for me when I've always said I e wanted children since I was a child myself, I've built my life around having them.
Lets hope there's some lucky baby dust floating around this month! Xx