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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

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IBelieveInPink · 02/04/2013 14:38

Hey lovelys. Sorry to hear that down- ness going on at the moment. Hopefully we will get some nice spring weather to brighten everything up soon.

Just checking in. I'm still hovering. Still in a Daily state of panic. Still not handling things that well. Nothing changes :)

Thundercatsarego · 02/04/2013 14:26

29, mummy?!! You spring chicken you!

I am 34 and haven't managed to produce even one healthy child yet. Don't you let that sort of thing get to you!

santa you are right about the fact that there aren't many things that people can say as we're all so individual. I know I feel differently to many people on this thread even so try to be careful about what I say!

Mummytothearkbuilder · 02/04/2013 14:10

Thanks for the thread Santa!

I am feeling much the same as everyone else seems to be at the moment - nothing in particular kicked it off just feeling low. I am about 6 weeks post miscarriage and honestly thought it would be a distant memory by now (I know how naive that sounds). I hate the lack of control over my own emotions - generally in life if something is up or not right I deal with it and move forward but I cant apply that logic to this situation and its driving me mad - will it get easier??

I am 29 in a few weeks and someone told me that I 'better get a move on if I want DC#2' and that has got me fretting about things (they didn?t know about the miscarriage but still a bit off for them to say).

Bakings - big hugs to you lovely xx

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 14:01

Oh yes, hugs for you baking. Anniversaries are horrid and there is no disguising that fact.

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:59

Thanks Baking for the title. And I hope you're all impressed with my IT skills at leaving a link (I am!!)

How are you Tuesdays going? I think everyone was feeling quite low over the weekend, which is probably something to do with it being a long weekend, with plenty of catching up with families and friends etc (and therefore plenty of chances for insensitive comments).

I had a few friends with EDDs the same as me and it was really hard to see them. But you just have to get on with it. I am sure that when I was pg with DC1 (in those blissfully innocent days when I didn't know how hard getting or staying pg could be) I offended or upset people, even though I did try to be sensitive.

It comes down to the fact that beyond "I'm so sorry" there is nothing anyone can say that is "right", because the things that I know would make me feel better may make a different person feel worse. And it makes a big difference depending who it is saying it. So its much easier to take sympathy from a friend who has been through it themselves, than it is to take it from someone who has sailed through sprogging up every 2 years like clockwork.
Yet sorry sounds so trite and generally the insensitve comments are said with all good intent.

Anyway, this is a new thread so lots of posifrickintivity required! Here's hoping this one brings lots of BFPs. Smile

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Thundercatsarego · 02/04/2013 13:58

Hi all. Well done santa that is great!

Thanks for tins. Shitty shitty all these anniversaries [busad]

Bakingtins · 02/04/2013 13:54

Marking place. Probably a good thing that my "poor me" rant is confined to the end of thread whatever-it-was (I've lost count). Posifrickingtivity all the way. Here's to lots of fertile Fridays on this thread.

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